The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[APerfectLie]

There is no question that cardio is good for the heart and it helps to develop fitness and stamina. But I am a bit skeptical about it as a means of transforming your body. The problem with cardio is that it tends to burn off carbs, then muscle, then fat. Hence, you don't see lots of big-muscled endurance athletes. And when the body is depleted of carbs, the tendency is for it to crave more and more carbs, which can be a vicious cycle. Muscle burns more calories at rest and actually transforms the shape of your body. Strength training not only helps to build/preserve muscle, it also helps to strengthen bones, improve posture and the increase in strength leads to an overall feeling of wellbeing. I hate to say it, but I think people who do only cardio are, well... lazy. Not physically lazy, but mentally lazy. Cardio is mindless and repetitive and requires no concentration at all. Weight training, especially when you are working your muscles to the point of absolute fatigue (which is needed to stimulate growth and strength gains), requires absolute concentration and mental focus. If you are really serious about attaining/maintaining an ideal physique, I think weights (supplemented with a sane, non-gimmicky diet) are the way to go; walking and taking the stairs should be all the cardio you really need. Just IMHO.

Also, contrary to popular myth, women are not going to become instantly "bulky" from weight training. Unless you are in the gym 6 hours a day and bench pressing 300 pounds, you aren't going to get bulky. It's hard enough for a man to build muscle mass; it is a gazillion times harder for a woman.

Christ is this true. I absolutely love running, but it is such a pain in the ass to run without my bloodsugar going low. And if I manage to prevent ot from going low while I am running, it usually skyrockets upward after I am done. Oh diabetes...

[LikeAWillow]

There is no question that cardio is good for the heart and it helps to develop fitness and stamina. But I am a bit skeptical about it as a means of transforming your body. The problem with cardio is that it tends to burn off carbs, then muscle, then fat. Hence, you don't see lots of big-muscled endurance athletes. And when the body is depleted of carbs, the tendency is for it to crave more and more carbs, which can be a vicious cycle. Muscle burns more calories at rest and actually transforms the shape of your body. Strength training not only helps to build/preserve muscle, it also helps to strengthen bones, improve posture and the increase in strength leads to an overall feeling of wellbeing. I hate to say it, but I think people who do only cardio are, well... lazy. Not physically lazy, but mentally lazy. Cardio is mindless and repetitive and requires no concentration at all. Weight training, especially when you are working your muscles to the point of absolute fatigue (which is needed to stimulate growth and strength gains), requires absolute concentration and mental focus. If you are really serious about attaining/maintaining an ideal physique, I think weights (supplemented with a sane, non-gimmicky diet) are the way to go; walking and taking the stairs should be all the cardio you really need. Just IMHO.

Also, contrary to popular myth, women are not going to become instantly "bulky" from weight training. Unless you are in the gym 6 hours a day and bench pressing 300 pounds, you aren't going to get bulky. It's hard enough for a man to build muscle mass; it is a gazillion times harder for a woman.

I've been reading a lot about how this idea is become the new school of thought in the fitness world. I feel like I, personally, need to keep cardio at least for now, though. I'm in pretty terrible shape, and the smallest things will leave me out of breath. I'm just lucky that I have a fast metabolism.

Another question-- is there any time of day that is most effective for a work out? Should I aim to get up every morning and go or are afternoons/evenings preferred?

[LikeAWillow]

And a general discussion question! Who do all of you work out for? Yourselves? Your partners? The perception of the world at large? Your crush?

I'm mainly trying to get in better shape for myself. I hit a slump every single winter, and my mental and physical health just plummets. I think the two are incredibly tied together, and I'm hoping that if I commit to taking better care of my body, I'll start to feel a little emotionally more sound.

But let's also not kid ourselves here. There's a guy in this picture as well. He and I have had that charming little "you're not my friend, you're not my love" vibe going on since we broke up, and I want to start things back up this summer, at least physically. Having the body that I want when that time comes around might help me have the balls to actually go through with it.

[louielouie2000]

Just so you know, I'm originally from Bossier City, so just seeing the word Caddo makes my blood pressure spike. I hate that whole area, but b/c of the people, not b/c of the landscape.

Ahh, we're from the same area then! Insanity must be something in the water there :laugh:. All of my family is in Jefferson, TX (you've probably never heard of it). I have many memories of going to Shreveport and Bossier City. In fact, I was just there in November.

[HomerMcvie]

And a general discussion question! Who do all of you work out for? Yourselves? Your partners? The perception of the world at large? Your crush?

Myself. BUT, all I can say is- I only have 3 days off this week, and I have FOUR different date offers. I'm not ****ting anyone. If I had a 4th day off, I could go on 4 different dates. My mind is reeling. They're coming out of the woodwork, and I don't know why.
I can only say that it must be a testament to staying somewhat in shape, and being a happy person(happier than I used to be, anyway). Because my life hasn't been like this, before.
^^I don't mean for any of that to sound like bragging. I'm quite confused about who I want to go out with....too many options.

[HejiraNYC]

I've been reading a lot about how this idea is become the new school of thought in the fitness world. I feel like I, personally, need to keep cardio at least for now, though. I'm in pretty terrible shape, and the smallest things will leave me out of breath. I'm just lucky that I have a fast metabolism.

Another question-- is there any time of day that is most effective for a work out? Should I aim to get up every morning and go or are afternoons/evenings preferred?

A "girl" I used to work with was a classic "skinny fat." For all intents and purposes, she looked like an attractive, thin (maybe even skinny) city girl. But she was sooo out of shape in terms of fitness. She joined an Equinox gym for their yoga classes, and they basically told her that she had an insanely high body fat percentage. Anyway, after several months of attending classes, she doesn't really look any different, but she claims to be much "tighter," more flexible and has greater stamina. The bottom line is that, unlike straight cardio, yoga is essentially a form of strength training that concentrates on the core. If weights are not your thing, I think yoga is the next best thing.

In terms of time of day... I'm sure there is an optimal period; I just don't know what it is. Ultimately you should choose a schedule that is sustainable- something you can stick with indefinitely. I don't think it makes any sense to start a regimen just to achieve a specific short-term goal; if you make it compatible with your lifestyle, then it' something you will stick with, which is the most important thing.

[fringed n fab]

I think some of you wanting to be lean look just fine as you are. Hej, you look absolutely in fine shape to me from your recent pic you posted. I guess what some of us see as looking fine in others, they see as some flaw in a mirror. :confused:

[CreepingDeath]

I know it's really, really hard but it's worth it. You need to keep yourself healthy. You will make new friends, but it will take time.


You're right. As hard as it is, I am trying to stay healthy. It's just a little difficult not to have a friend to bitch to. I was pretty much a loner growing up. I think I might go back to that, and forget about friendships...

[Silver Springs]

You're right. As hard as it is, I am trying to stay healthy. It's just a little difficult not to have a friend to bitch to. I was pretty much a loner growing up. I think I might go back to that, and forget about friendships...

I was a loner growing up and I was miserable. Everybody needs somebody.

[ButterCookie]

Beeee Bee B-Beee glad to see you back :wavey: :xoxo:

[skcin]

I've been reading a lot about how this idea is become the new school of thought in the fitness world. I feel like I, personally, need to keep cardio at least for now, though. I'm in pretty terrible shape, and the smallest things will leave me out of breath. I'm just lucky that I have a fast metabolism.

Another question-- is there any time of day that is most effective for a work out? Should I aim to get up every morning and go or are afternoons/evenings preferred?

Time of day? I've heard most claims that the morning is best. But I think that whatever time you'll actualy work out is the best time. For me, it's 5:30/6am. I've stuck to it for the past 4-5 years. I get it over with, it wakes me up & I feel great all day. My sister-in-law goes to the gym after her kids at in bed, at like 10pm. Whatever works. :shrug:

And a general discussion question! Who do all of you work out for? Yourselves? Your partners? The perception of the world at large? Your crush?

I'm mainly trying to get in better shape for myself. I hit a slump every single winter, and my mental and physical health just plummets. I think the two are incredibly tied together, and I'm hoping that if I commit to taking better care of my body, I'll start to feel a little emotionally more sound.

But let's also not kid ourselves here. There's a guy in this picture as well. He and I have had that charming little "you're not my friend, you're not my love" vibe going on since we broke up, and I want to start things back up this summer, at least physically. Having the body that I want when that time comes around might help me have the balls to actually go through with it.

I work out for myself mainly, because I feel better physically & mentally when I do. I am proud of myself for losing those 20 pounds 4 years ago, keeping it off, losing it again after my pregnancy. But my husband sure as hell doesn't mind (although he never minded when I was heavier either.) it doesn't hurt my self-esteem to get compliments on my tiny waist or tight abs either, but that's not my primary reason.


Myself. BUT, all I can say is- I only have 3 days off this week, and I have FOUR different date offers. I'm not ****ting anyone. If I had a 4th day off, I could go on 4 different dates. My mind is reeling. They're coming out of the woodwork, and I don't know why.
I can only say that it must be a testament to staying somewhat in shape, and being a happy person(happier than I used to be, anyway). Because my life hasn't been like this, before.
^^I don't mean for any of that to sound like bragging. I'm quite confused about who I want to go out with....too many options.

What happened to the grad student?:shrug:

A "girl" I used to work with was a classic "skinny fat." For all intents and purposes, she looked like an attractive, thin (maybe even skinny) city girl. But she was sooo out of shape in terms of fitness. She joined an Equinox gym for their yoga classes, and they basically told her that she had an insanely high body fat percentage. Anyway, after several months of attending classes, she doesn't really look any different, but she claims to be much "tighter," more flexible and has greater stamina. The bottom line is that, unlike straight cardio, yoga is essentially a form of strength training that concentrates on the core. If weights are not your thing, I think yoga is the next best thing.

In terms of time of day... I'm sure there is an optimal period; I just don't know what it is. Ultimately you should choose a schedule that is sustainable- something you can stick with indefinitely. I don't think it makes any sense to start a regimen just to achieve a specific short-term goal; if you make it compatible with your lifestyle, then it' something you will stick with, which is the most important thing.

1) No offense, Homie, but this is how you seem to me. :sorry: I mean, I'm glad you're happy with how you look, but what about your health?

2) Yoga is awesome. Posture, strength, flexibility. :nod: Love it. Pilates is great too, but you need a really good instructor. I personally would rather feel strong & healthy & tight, rather than thin or skinny.

You're right. As hard as it is, I am trying to stay healthy. It's just a little difficult not to have a friend to bitch to. I was pretty much a loner growing up. I think I might go back to that, and forget about friendships...

I don't think you have to forget friendships in general. It's just going to take a while to find friends who aren't into the things you used to be into (did that make any sense?) Like, where do you meet these people? Party people hang out with other party people - so when the party stops, where do you connect with other healthy people? I wish I had a great answer for you.

[HomerMcvie]

What happened to the grad student?:shrug:



1) No offense, Homie, but this is how you seem to me. :sorry: I mean, I'm glad you're happy with how you look, but what about your health?


Check. That was last night's date. We're still in slow motion. I've been promised that it will speed up, when the semester ends, in 3 weeks. We'll see. We have no agreement of being exclusive. And I'm not very good at doing anything at a turtle's speed.

I feel like a million bucks. The weight loss dropped my cholesterol 93!!!! points, and my blood pressure is lower.

I NEED to start exercising, though. Although I really don't mind starving myself....to be honest, I'm USED to it, now. It's nothing for me to go 27-28 hours between eating anything. Once you accept that those hunger pangs are nothing....ignore them, and drink another bottle of water. I'm on bottle #4 of water today, right now. I haven't eaten since 5PM yesterday, and it's looking like 7 or 8PM, before I'll get a dinner break today.

[skcin]

Check. That was last night's date. We're still in slow motion. I've been promised that it will speed up, when the semester ends, in 3 weeks. We'll see. We have no agreement of being exclusive. And I'm not very good at doing anything at a turtle's speed.

I feel like a million bucks. The weight loss dropped my cholesterol 93!!!! points, and my blood pressure is lower.

I NEED to start exercising, though. Although I really don't mind starving myself....to be honest, I'm USED to it, now. It's nothing for me to go 27-28 hours between eating anything. Once you accept that those hunger pangs are nothing....ignore them, and drink another bottle of water. I'm on bottle #4 of water today, right now. I haven't eaten since 5PM yesterday, and it's looking like 7 or 8PM, before I'll get a dinner break today.

Hunger pains are your body's way of telling you to eat. :lol: Seriously! It doesn't have to be a cheeseburger or anything - just eat something!

[markolas]

I have many memories of going to Shreveport and Bossier City. In fact, I was just there in November.

My condolences. :p

[HomerMcvie]

Hunger pains are your body's way of telling you to eat. :lol: Seriously! It doesn't have to be a cheeseburger or anything - just eat something!

I tell my body to STFU!!:lol:
Mind over matter. I'm the boss. The body's not.:blob2:

[daniellaaarisen]

There is no question that cardio is good for the heart and it helps to develop fitness and stamina. But I am a bit skeptical about it as a means of transforming your body. The problem with cardio is that it tends to burn off carbs, then muscle, then fat. Hence, you don't see lots of big-muscled endurance athletes. And when the body is depleted of carbs, the tendency is for it to crave more and more carbs, which can be a vicious cycle. Muscle burns more calories at rest and actually transforms the shape of your body. Strength training not only helps to build/preserve muscle, it also helps to strengthen bones, improve posture and the increase in strength leads to an overall feeling of wellbeing. I hate to say it, but I think people who do only cardio are, well... lazy. Not physically lazy, but mentally lazy. Cardio is mindless and repetitive and requires no concentration at all. Weight training, especially when you are working your muscles to the point of absolute fatigue (which is needed to stimulate growth and strength gains), requires absolute concentration and mental focus. If you are really serious about attaining/maintaining an ideal physique, I think weights (supplemented with a sane, non-gimmicky diet) are the way to go; walking and taking the stairs should be all the cardio you really need. Just IMHO.



I've been doing both-- 30-45 minutes cardio a day and another 30 minutes weight training. I can DEFINITELY feel my muscles getting stronger and stronger-- that's by far the most noticeable change so far. We'll see...

[daniellaaarisen]

I've been reading a lot about how this idea is become the new school of thought in the fitness world. I feel like I, personally, need to keep cardio at least for now, though. I'm in pretty terrible shape, and the smallest things will leave me out of breath. I'm just lucky that I have a fast metabolism.

Another question-- is there any time of day that is most effective for a work out? Should I aim to get up every morning and go or are afternoons/evenings preferred?

I do mornings because it jumpstarts your metabolism and it gives you energy for the rest of the day. Plus, I'm much more likely to push myself it I work out in the morning instead of after classes when I'm falling into my afternoon lull.

[LikeAWillow]

I do mornings because it jumpstarts your metabolism and it gives you energy for the rest of the day. Plus, I'm much more likely to push myself it I work out in the morning instead of after classes when I'm falling into my afternoon lull.

I think I need to get on board this with you. The mornings are really the only time I can be productive. I hate getting up early, but I'm in classes all day and once evening hits, I ain't getting **** done.

[daniellaaarisen]

And a general discussion question! Who do all of you work out for? Yourselves? Your partners? The perception of the world at large? Your crush?


This is a really complicated question for me to answer, but for the most part, I'm doing it for me because I've nothing short of hated myself for the past few years. It's heavily tied into my upbringing-- my mother is a gorgeous, gorgeous woman who's been telling me that I'll never be as pretty as her since I was little, and my dad's a 6'3", 350lb OUTRAGEOUSLY compulsive eater. That's a really bad combination-- you learn that it's okay to eat your feelings when you're upset (or, to be honest, anytime) and yet you need to look absolutely perfect or else you're worthless. I've hidden my confidence issues extremely well. No one alive can fake it as well as I can-- particularly when it comes to my relationships. I am fully aware that my confidence is the most attractive part about me, but the physical component of that isn't genuine. At all.

So.... I'm in the gym constantly and I'm eating super well. I just need to keep myself emotionally intact until it starts working....

Dating a guy with the most beautiful body EVER doesn't help things either, but he compliments me (physically) constantly which puts me at ease. I know he doesn't expect me to change but it's definitely an incentive.

[daniellaaarisen]

I think I need to get on board this with you. The mornings are really the only time I can be productive. I hate getting up early, but I'm in classes all day and once evening hits, I ain't getting **** done.

You'll get used to it. I've gotten minorly addicted to working out.... I went twice yesterday and couldn't have felt better. I may go again in a few minutes (even though I worked out this morning) just because I'm bored and it's a better alternative than napping.

We should be each other's motivation via text!

[sorcerer999]

I'm actually an exercise ADDICT, and work out twice a day (once at 5:30am & then again after work). I do this 6 days a week, and yes it's sooooooo hard to get used to. I had to force myself out of bed every morning for six weeks, until it became a habit.

[daniellaaarisen]

Another thing: I'm reallllly hoping my curves (particularly my boobs) don't go away when I stop dropping weight. I have specific areas that I'm hoping to drop from but you can't really target where you'll lose fat, only where you'll gain muscle...

If my boobs shrink, I'll be so pissed.

[chiliD]

You'll get used to it. I've gotten minorly addicted to working out.... I went twice yesterday and couldn't have felt better. I may go again in a few minutes (even though I worked out this morning) just because I'm bored and it's a better alternative than napping.

We should be each other's motivation via text!

I belonged to a gym for about 2 years before I started going regularly, and when I say "regularly", I mean 6 days a week (sometimes 7) and sometimes even twice or three times a day, depending on the situation. At one point, when I was playing in a band nearly 6 nights a week, I'd go to the venue we were playing early to set my gear up (can't afford roadies, had to do it myself), then go find the nearest location of the gym I belonged to, which usually was within a couple of miles. I'd do my usual work out...20 min on a treadmill to kick the cardio & pulse up, then do my weight circuit (which, depending on how busy the gym was, about 45 minutes), then back on the treadmill to do a "cool down'. Then I'd go get into stage attire, head back to the venue in time to do a quick sound check, then off to the bar for "attitude ajustment", then it was on stage for 5 hours. After the gig, if the gym location was open 24 hours, it would be back to the gym for another workout (mainly to sweat out the alcohol), then head home. Just to start the routine over again the next day/night.

I dropped a whole lot of weight while I was in that band and had decent muscle tone. After I left that band and didn't play as often, my workout regimen dwindled, too. To the point of letting my gym membership lapse. Wouldn't mind getting into that routine of the "daily workout" again, but at this point, I'm not internally motivated...need the kick-start of external motivation to get back into it.

[cristochango]

My rules for weight loss:

-no calorie counting.
-avoid any food that is white (except egg whites). This includes sugar, milk, white bread, white pasta, cheese, etc.
-no meat.
-lots of veggies, fruit and nuts.
-low salt.
-no eating three hours before bed time.
-no cardio. Only weights

Hey man.
I'll tell you that I eat all the things I want, a lot of meat, and all of that stuff, so don't watch what you're eating.

The big thing that helps is lifting, which is awesome that you're doing that. But add in like, a day or two of cardio a week. That's what I'm doing and its helping a lot. Without the cardio you don't have definition, and in my opinion, whats the point of working out if you don't have definition? :p

[CreepingDeath]

I was a loner growing up and I was miserable. Everybody needs somebody.

I really believe there's not many people out there for me. I don't mean to sound like a crybaby, it's just the way it is. :shrug:

[RickRobert]

I really believe there's not many people out there for me. I don't mean to sound like a crybaby, it's just the way it is. :shrug:

I feel the same. I have no "real" friends anymore. I'm more appreciative of my online friends because of it but... you know, is one or two in this country too much to ask? :shrug:

[louielouie2000]

I feel the same. I have no "real" friends anymore. I'm more appreciative of my online friends because of it but... you know, is one or two in this country too much to ask? :shrug:

I know how you and Kimberly feel. When I moved back to Texas last year, I left all my friends back in the Carolinas. I really had a close group, too... they were like family.

[fringed n fab]

I know how you and Kimberly feel. When I moved back to Texas last year, I left all my friends back in the Carolinas. I really had a close group, too... they were like family.

You were lucky though you had family history and connections with Texas in your move. I moved to Florida knowing nobody but the family I came down here with except my elderly aunt who used to live on Tampa Bay for 25 years but had already moved back up to Ohio a few years back to be closer to family more in her older age. We had been on our way to Clearwater one day last summer and called her from Mcdonalds parking lot and told her we were on Dale Mabry Blvd in Tampa not too far up from her old place and she was about to cry saying if she could, she'd move back in a second to Tampa. She took sick a few months back and passed away in the hospital in her 70's and we miss her. My sister said our aunts home in Tampa had huge spanish moss trees in the yard and palm trees you had to spread apart to get to the front door. She had visited her down here years ago. So when I think of Florida homes, I think of hers.

[HomerMcvie]

I feel the same. I have no "real" friends anymore. I'm more appreciative of my online friends because of it but... you know, is one or two in this country too much to ask? :shrug:

I used to feel like you guys. And I can't tell you what really changed, with me, that turned it all around for me....
I'm an only child, and I've always enjoyed being alone(I still go on vacations alone, all the time). I was also very close to my Mom, so that always occupied a few evenings a week, of my time. Then she got sick and passed away. Then, it was really just me and my dog, for a couple of years. Then he got sick and died. Then, I was alone, truly, for the first time in my life. It was from this, that I somehow decided that being alone was a choice. And a choice that I didn't want to make, any more. And it took me a couple of years, to make my transformation. But I did make it, and I'm MUCH happier, for having done so.

And I'm embarrassed that it took me a lifetime to get here. But I'm truly the best person I've ever been. And the happiest I've ever been.

[vivfox]

OMG the REAL Vivica Fox responded to a tweet of mine today!!!

My tweet:
VivFoxFireFlies nick alberts
@ @MsVivicaFox @slimofplushblue Viv, you look smokin' hawt in that blue dress!!!!
3 hours ago Favorite Reply Delete

Vivica's response:
MsVivicaFox Vivica A. Fox
@ @VivFoxFireFlies Thankx soo much! I had fun last nite! Enjoyed wearing that blue dress 4sho! :-)
42 minutes ago Favorite Retweet Reply

THE BLUE DRESS


I seem to have gotten her attention! Another tweet response!!!

VivFoxFireFlies nick alberts
@ @MsVivicaFox Girl you lookin' so sexy, as always!!!
15 hours ago Favorite Reply Delete


MsVivicaFox Vivica A. Fox
@ @VivFoxFireFlies Lol! Thankx! Make it do what it do! :-)
15 hours ago Favorite Retweet Reply

[HejiraNYC]

Hey man.
I'll tell you that I eat all the things I want, a lot of meat, and all of that stuff, so don't watch what you're eating.

That's because you're, like, 12 years old. :p Get back to me in 20 years and let's see how that is all working out for you.


The big thing that helps is lifting, which is awesome that you're doing that. But add in like, a day or two of cardio a week. That's what I'm doing and its helping a lot. Without the cardio you don't have definition, and in my opinion, whats the point of working out if you don't have definition? :p

I disagree! Definition is mostly dictated by diet and genetics. You can run a triathlon every day, but if you stuff your body full of junk, and if you don't have the genes for it, you're not going to get definition. Judging from my parents, my lineage is "skinny fat." :distress: I can get somewhat-ripped if I go to extremes, but it's not really sustainable for very long; I will end up losing a lot of muscle mass, so it's not worth it.

[LikeAWillow]

Any ladies here nailpolish freaks? I became one over the course of the year and something quite exciting has happened....I'VE FOUND MY MANNEQUIN HANDS SHADE. Or well, something close to it-- the perfect one would be about a shade and a half lighter-- but I'm still pumped. The lack of transition between skin and nails thing is probably the only way I'll do a single color any time soon. It's just so weird and offputting that it makes up for how monochromatic it is. This is my "signature" color...

http://s3.amazonaws.com/data.tumblr.com/tumblr_lgq8vdgTNI1qcs8ato1_1280.jpg?AWSAccessKeyId=AKIAJ6IHWSU3BX3X7X3Q&Expires=1302196036&Signature=yFPnWRBM6Aj%2BMQ2K1i27novsmB0%3D

An OPI purple with OPI for Sephora sparkle layered over it. What are your favorite colors/brands/nail art patterns?

Oh, and want to see the sweetest nails you'll ever see in your life?

http://25.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lfum5drKdC1qeysowo1_500.jpg

One of my closest friends in Boston. She did that sh*t by hand. Did it take two hours? Yes. Was it worth it? Obviously.

[HejiraNYC]

Want.

http://www.blogcdn.com/www.bvonstyle.com/media/2009/12/93492808_101.jpg

[markolas]

^^Doesn't that pretty much render your hands useless?

[LikeAWillow]

Want.

http://www.blogcdn.com/www.bvonstyle.com/media/2009/12/93492808_101.jpg

:lol: :eek: :shocked: Yes.

I'm trying to come up with something to do the week that In Your Dreams comes out. I'm considering printing "L-I-K-E-C-O-K-E-?-!" on my nails and then when someone questions it being like "Don't. That ****'s bad for you. Ask Stevie Nicks. She's got a new album out btw...."

[ButterCookie]

^^Doesn't that pretty much render your hands useless?

Basically, yes.

[HejiraNYC]

:lol: :eek: :shocked: Yes.

I'm trying to come up with something to do the week that In Your Dreams comes out. I'm considering printing "L-I-K-E-C-O-K-E-?-!" on my nails and then when someone questions it being like "Don't. That ****'s bad for you. Ask Stevie Nicks. She's got a new album out btw...."

I think a "gold dust" theme is in order. A little obvious, I know... but it could be cute. Use gold glitter polish and paint (or glue?) little silver spoons on each nail.

[louielouie2000]

Want.

Reminds me of the pink Hello Kitty toaster one of my roommates had. It actually burned the image of Hello Kitty into the toast LOL. That d@mned thing always got quite a reaction out of people who visited our condo for the first time haha.

http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a382/louielouie2000/1.jpg

[HejiraNYC]

^^Is this where he lives now?

http://www.digsdigs.com/photos/hello-kitty-house-design-1.jpg

[HomerMcvie]

Here kitty, kitty, kitty......


:lol:

[ButterCookie]

I want one of these:

http://www.geekalerts.com/u/dv-toaster.jpg

[HomerMcvie]

I had no idea they made toasters that do this!

Such a sheltered life I live.....:mad:

[skcin]

^They have a bunch of different once. I know I've seen a Mickey Mouse one.

I tell my body to STFU!!:lol:
Mind over matter. I'm the boss. The body's not.:blob2:

Why fight nature? :shrug: it's also a sign that your blood sugar is slamming down. Not healthy.

I'm actually an exercise ADDICT, and work out twice a day (once at 5:30am & then again after work). I do this 6 days a week, and yes it's sooooooo hard to get used to. I had to force myself out of bed every morning for six weeks, until it became a habit.

I read somewhere that it takes a solid 6 MONTHS to actually change your lifestyle. I believe it. It became the norm for me to work out most mornings before work after about that many months of doing it. I had to force myself at first, but it eventually became natural to me.

Another thing: I'm reallllly hoping my curves (particularly my boobs) don't go away when I stop dropping weight. I have specific areas that I'm hoping to drop from but you can't really target where you'll lose fat, only where you'll gain muscle...

If my boobs shrink, I'll be so pissed.

Mine shrank, but I wasn't busty to begin with.

That's because you're, like, 12 years old. :p Get back to me in 20 years and let's see how that is all working out for you.

I disagree! Definition is mostly dictated by diet and genetics. You can run a triathlon every day, but if you stuff your body full of junk, and if you don't have the genes for it, you're not going to get definition. Judging from my parents, my lineage is "skinny fat." :distress: I can get somewhat-ripped if I go to extremes, but it's not really sustainable for very long; I will end up losing a lot of muscle mass, so it's not worth it.

My family's all fat. :shrug: I always tended to be slightly chub - about 10 pounds too heavy. I didn't think I would ever - EVER - be able to see my ab muscles, but I did after 6-9 months of diet & exercise. And by diet, I mean a permanent change to the way I ate - healthier, not at all restrictive.

Any ladies here nailpolish freaks? I became one over the course of the year and something quite exciting has happened....I'VE FOUND MY MANNEQUIN HANDS SHADE. Or well, something close to it-- the perfect one would be about a shade and a half lighter-- but I'm still pumped. The lack of transition between skin and nails thing is probably the only way I'll do a single color any time soon. It's just so weird and offputting that it makes up for how monochromatic it is. This is my "signature" color...
.

Used to do my nails all the time. Now it's too high maintenance - I don't have the time or desire to make sure they always look great. I'd prefer plain nails to chippy polish. But I do try to keep my toenails polished at all times during summer.

[CreepingDeath]

I'm actually an exercise ADDICT, and work out twice a day (once at 5:30am & then again after work). I do this 6 days a week, and yes it's sooooooo hard to get used to. I had to force myself out of bed every morning for six weeks, until it became a habit.

I'm pretty much an addict as well. I run on the treadmill for at least two hours everyday. If I have time in the evening, it's even longer. With an iPod it goes by really fast. I started playing soccer when I was very young, and exercise has always been kind of fun to me. :shrug:

[GODDESS6]

i want this toaster:thumbsup::
http://i54.tinypic.com/11jnr7k.jpg

[fringed n fab]

I don't do burnt anything. Never understood the whole Hello Kitty thing either.

[cristochango]

That's because you're, like, 12 years old. :p Get back to me in 20 years and let's see how that is all working out for you.



I disagree! Definition is mostly dictated by diet and genetics. You can run a triathlon every day, but if you stuff your body full of junk, and if you don't have the genes for it, you're not going to get definition. Judging from my parents, my lineage is "skinny fat." :distress: I can get somewhat-ripped if I go to extremes, but it's not really sustainable for very long; I will end up losing a lot of muscle mass, so it's not worth it.

12, come on. Gimme 13 at least :p

[daniellaaarisen]

I will be reading my poetry at a local bookstore on April 18th at 6PM as part of Seattle's annual "Emerging and Etablished Writers" reading. There will be a handful of selected student writers but the majority of the reading will be done by prominent, established poets and novelists from the area.

I'm SO excited.

[daniellaaarisen]

:lol: :eek: :shocked: Yes.

I'm trying to come up with something to do the week that In Your Dreams comes out. I'm considering printing "L-I-K-E-C-O-K-E-?-!" on my nails and then when someone questions it being like "Don't. That ****'s bad for you. Ask Stevie Nicks. She's got a new album out btw...."

Can we PLEASE both do this? I'm dead f*cking serious.

[fringed n fab]

I wouldn't advertise something so negative just to throw in something positive in there.

[markolas]

If the gubmint shuts down, I'm gonna have a whole lotta time on my hands. Although...I'm more or less home all day during the week anyway, thanks to this lovely weekend shift I'm on.

[mezzoforte]

I want one of these:

http://www.geekalerts.com/u/dv-toaster.jpg

WANT

I will be reading my poetry at a local bookstore on April 18th at 6PM as part of Seattle's annual "Emerging and Etablished Writers" reading. There will be a handful of selected student writers but the majority of the reading will be done by prominent, established poets and novelists from the area.

I'm SO excited.

Wow--congrats! Very impressive. Validating, I'm sure, to have your work recognized like that.

[markolas]

I have a class this afternoon, but I'm not going to make up for the fact that I have to go to work tomorrow. So there.

[daniellaaarisen]

Wow--congrats! Very impressive. Validating, I'm sure, to have your work recognized like that.

Thank you! I'm pretty excited about it but also a bit nervous....

[Silver Springs]

My show for this year of my degree is in a few weeks and I'm so nervous already, especially considering we get our major and three minor grades around the same time. But I suppose it is a lot less stressful than it will be next year when we have to try and sell our work for the final show of our course. And after that, aside from my next stint for my Masters, I shall have to try and earn a living selling my work and displaying it in galleries. I never thought I'd reach the stage of fully fledged gallery artist, but it's heading towards me like a freight train.

[HomerMcvie]

I know I've seen a Mickey Mouse one.


Why fight nature? :shrug: it's also a sign that your blood sugar is slamming down. Not healthy.


How would you know. I always close the bathroom door!:mad:

Because, I'm telling you, my body wants to weigh 200+ lbs. I've got a very slow metabolism, plus I drink more than my share of beer. My body doesn't want to weigh 300, but it does want to weigh 200. And for the first time ever, I've beaten it. I had 3 White Castles, a couple of weeks ago, and that's only the 2nd fast food hamburger I've had, in 19 months.

So what's my option? Work out 5 days a week? FUKC THAT!!!! I'd 1000 times rather be hungry!:laugh:

I told you about the great cholesterol numbers I've got now. My doctor even said, "David, I don't necessarily approve of the way you've lost the weight, but your numbers are great now. I don't even need to schedule another checkup for you, as long as you're staying where you are. Whatever you're doing, keep it up."

[markolas]

I really have to watch my food intake. If I ate every time I felt hungry, I would quickly weigh 200 lbs (and I'm all of 5'5"). I lost weight because I started having panic attacks every single day and all but stopped eating. I've kept it off because I keep a close eye on how much I weigh (I don't jump on the scale every day, or even every week, but I can't let it go for weeks or months) and how much and how many times I've eaten during the day.

And the fact that one of the side effects of the anti-depressant I'm on is appetite suppression doesn't hurt. I can tell when I don't take it, because I will literally eat all day long.

[LikeAWillow]

I'm so bored.

[HomerMcvie]

I really have to watch my food intake. If I ate every time I felt hungry, I would quickly weigh 200 lbs (and I'm all of 5'5"). I lost weight because I started having panic attacks every single day and all but stopped eating. I've kept it off because I keep a close eye on how much I weigh (I don't jump on the scale every day, or even every week, but I can't let it go for weeks or months) and how much and how many times I've eaten during the day.

And the fact that one of the side effects of the anti-depressant I'm on is appetite suppression doesn't hurt. I can tell when I don't take it, because I will literally eat all day long.
Yep. I COULD eat all day long. I'm a pig, inside.
I do jump on the scale every morning. Even though I'm 5'10, I don't want to weigh 200, ever again.
Twice in the past week, I've watched my friends chow down on pizza, while I sat there and watched. Do you know how HARD that is???:mad:
They at least admire my determination....:(

[Silver Springs]

Yep. I COULD eat all day long. I'm a pig, inside.
I do jump on the scale every morning. Even though I'm 5'10, I don't want to weigh 200, ever again.
Twice in the past week, I've watched my friends chow down on pizza, while I sat there and watched. Do you know how HARD that is???:mad:
They at least admire my determination....:(

I'm like you. I've gotten used to self deprivation. Just waiting for it to start paying off... I weigh around 130 and I'm at the lower end of the 5 Foot spectrum, so maybe another 20-30 lbs to go.

[louielouie2000]

Because, I'm telling you, my body wants to weigh 200+ lbs. I've got a very slow metabolism, plus I drink more than my share of beer. My body doesn't want to weigh 300, but it does want to weigh 200.

My body is the same way. When I eat 3 meals a day like you're "supposed to," I get sooo big :(. Even if I have a regular sized lunch and dinner, I gain weight. I have to eat a tiny lunch and very sparing dinner to refrain from gaining weight. The only way I lose weight is by freaking starving myself. And I walk like 4 miles a day, and swim daily when it's warm enough. If I ate the way I truly wanted, I'm sure I'd easily weigh 250. Very likely higher. If I can get my weight to start with a "1" again, I'll be supremely grateful... but my body sure is fighting me on that! :distress:

[HomerMcvie]

I'm like you. I've gotten used to self deprivation. Just waiting for it to start paying off... I weigh around 130 and I'm at the lower end of the 5 Foot spectrum, so maybe another 20-30 lbs to go.

Yep, my twin. I'm used to depriving myself. And for awhile, it was like I could do no wrong, and I was getting away with eating more and more. BUT, it started catching up with me, finally.:mad: I only put on a few lbs, but it felt like 15. So I'm back to self deprivation. Last night was a salad, and one small broiled fish fillet.

And to be honest, I really don't mind. I've just got to get used to being like that again. FWIW, I went out last night, and I felt thinner than I have for a few weeks. The payoff is worth it, to me. Fukc that 200 lb guy! He doesn't live here anymore!:blob1:

[HomerMcvie]

My body is the same way. When I eat 3 meals a day like you're "supposed to," I get sooo big :(. Even if I have a regular sized lunch and dinner, I gain weight. I have to eat a tiny lunch and very sparing dinner to refrain from gaining weight. The only way I lose weight is by freaking starving myself. And I walk like 4 miles a day, and swim daily when it's warm enough. If I ate the way I truly wanted, I'm sure I'd easily weigh 250. Very likely higher. If I can get my weight to start with a "1" again, I'll be supremely grateful... but my body sure is fighting me on that! :distress:

And I HATE those fukcers than can eat like a pig, all day long, and not gain a pound. I say we kill them all.

What I lack in metabolism, I make up for, in sheer determination.

[daniellaaarisen]

My body is the same way. When I eat 3 meals a day like you're "supposed to," I get sooo big :(. Even if I have a regular sized lunch and dinner, I gain weight. I have to eat a tiny lunch and very sparing dinner to refrain from gaining weight. The only way I lose weight is by freaking starving myself. And I walk like 4 miles a day, and swim daily when it's warm enough. If I ate the way I truly wanted, I'm sure I'd easily weigh 250. Very likely higher. If I can get my weight to start with a "1" again, I'll be supremely grateful... but my body sure is fighting me on that! :distress:

I'm starting to worry that I'm the exact same way. It's really freaking me out... I've been eating under 1200 calories daily for 2 weeks plus working out HARD every single day in that period of time.... and I feel like nothing's changed. More muscle, yes, but no loss of fat.

F*ck everything. I'm really sick of it.

[Silver Springs]

Yep, my twin. I'm used to depriving myself. And for awhile, it was like I could do no wrong, and I was getting away with eating more and more. BUT, it started catching up with me, finally.:mad: I only put on a few lbs, but it felt like 15. So I'm back to self deprivation. Last night was a salad, and one small broiled fish fillet.

And to be honest, I really don't mind. I've just got to get used to being like that again. FWIW, I went out last night, and I felt thinner than I have for a few weeks. The payoff is worth it, to me. Fukc that 200 lb guy! He doesn't live here anymore!:blob1:

Guess I better get used to the water breakfast and lunches that I've been indulging in for the past two weeks, as well as my weetabix dinners.

[LikeAWillow]

I'm starting to worry that I'm the exact same way. It's really freaking me out... I've been eating under 1200 calories daily for 2 weeks plus working out HARD every single day in that period of time.... and I feel like nothing's changed. More muscle, yes, but no loss of fat.

F*ck everything. I'm really sick of it.

Don't give up. Doesn't it take about six weeks to see results from a workout regimen? And I do want in on the early morning texts of motivation, bro. Let's not start tomorrow because I have some debauchery planned for tonight, but next week, it's on.

[CreepingDeath]

And I HATE those fukcers than can eat like a pig, all day long, and not gain a pound. I say we kill them all.

What I lack in metabolism, I make up for, in sheer determination.

My brothers are like that. They can eat whatever they want and not gain a pound. Bastards.


They way I maintain my weight is to eat about one or two very small meals a day, and exercise like crazy. I've become very familiar with the treadmill and Pilates. I've never been overweight, but just the thought of it terrifies me. It's not about vanity, though. I've never really liked myself, which has lead to addictions other than food.

[ButterCookie]

I find it hard to gain weight.

It's not lucky, actually. I was quite poorly because of it for a number of years :wavey:

[daniellaaarisen]

Don't give up. Doesn't it take about six weeks to see results from a workout regimen? And I do want in on the early morning texts of motivation, bro. Let's not start tomorrow because I have some debauchery planned for tonight, but next week, it's on.

Sooooo a deal.

I feel a bit better than I did this morning. This morning I was seriously considering not going until the afternoon which for me, highly increases the chance that I half-ass the entire workout. Well, I just went and I was in there for an hour and a half. So eff you, insecurity. I own you.

[HomerMcvie]

So I guess I'm a dick, today. I absolutely HATE late people.

So I'm doing sound tonight, for some little podunk local band. And we agree on a 6PM soundcheck. Me, I'm never late for anything...I don't believe in inconveniencing others.
So I arrive at 5:45, and have everything ready to go for them. 6PM becomes 6:30, and.I.leave. Fukc that.

They just called, and they're PISSED. I told them I have better things to do, than sit around waiting on a bunch of guys who have no respect for wasting my time. I need a dinner and shower break, and I'm getting one. "We need you back here, NOW!". Me> "sorry pal, it ain't gonna happen....you'll get a line check, 15 minutes before your start time".
They're really mad, and I couldn't care less. Maybe they'll be on time, next time. I HATE late people.:mad:
Thanks for letting me vent. JTIS!

[daniellaaarisen]

I'm apartment shopping for the first time in my life. SO DAMN EXCITING.

[markolas]

So I guess I'm a dick, today. I absolutely HATE late people.

So I'm doing sound tonight, for some little podunk local band. And we agree on a 6PM soundcheck. Me, I'm never late for anything...I don't believe in inconveniencing others.
So I arrive at 5:45, and have everything ready to go for them. 6PM becomes 6:30, and.I.leave. Fukc that.

They just called, and they're PISSED. I told them I have better things to do, than sit around waiting on a bunch of guys who have no respect for wasting my time. I need a dinner and shower break, and I'm getting one. "We need you back here, NOW!". Me> "sorry pal, it ain't gonna happen....you'll get a line check, 15 minutes before your start time".

Admittedly, I have kind of a mañana attitude toward time, but this would really annoy me. I don't consider being 5, 10, or 15 minutes late to be a big deal, and would think anyone who had a problem with that was very high-maintenance. But 20 minutes, and it starts to become a big deal.

[HomerMcvie]

Admittedly, I have kind of a mañana attitude toward time, but this would really annoy me. I don't consider being 5, 10, or 15 minutes late to be a big deal, and would think anyone who had a problem with that was very high-maintenance. But 20 minutes, and it starts to become a big deal.

And I spend way too much time, waiting on slow assed musicians.
Last Thursday, I waited 90 minutes on a big act to arrive, then they pushed the show back, another 60 minutes.
I spent 2 and 1/2 hours, just WAITING, that day.
Pisses me off to no end.
So today's a band of nobodies, and I let my cork blow. Enough. No one EVER has to wait on me. I guess it's asking to much, for the same courtesy.

[Silver Springs]

What in the ****ing hell is that noise in the EMPTY hallway? Sounds like somebody sniffing loudly.....Erm....Ghostbusters.....help? It's a quarter past one in the morning. I don't need this bottom gravy...

[Enchanted_Stevi]

I will be reading my poetry at a local bookstore on April 18th at 6PM as part of Seattle's annual "Emerging and Etablished Writers" reading. There will be a handful of selected student writers but the majority of the reading will be done by prominent, established poets and novelists from the area.

I'm SO excited.

OMG thats so awesome!!! congrats!!!

[Enchanted_Stevi]

JTIS that today is going by WICKED slow JUST because my 21st birthday is tomorrow LOL

School was good...i'm almost done with my Junior packet...then I'll be a senior =P I am thoroughly enjoying school...I had a test today on Perms and got a 100 on it =)
I also worked today and that was the definition of BORING lol

So now I wait til tomorrow til the festivities start =)

[LikeAWillow]

JTIS that today is going by WICKED slow JUST because my 21st birthday is tomorrow LOL

School was good...i'm almost done with my Junior packet...then I'll be a senior =P I am thoroughly enjoying school...I had a test today on Perms and got a 100 on it =)
I also worked today and that was the definition of BORING lol

So now I wait til tomorrow til the festivities start =)

But you turn 21 at midnight tonight? Have someone drive you into Boston! Thursday night is one of the best night's to go out here, if not the best. Oh, and if you're doing the city this weekend, let me know, and I'll buy you a drink at some point. Happy birthday, welcome to legality :thumbsup:

[Enchanted_Stevi]

But you turn 21 at midnight tonight? Have someone drive you into Boston! Thursday night is one of the best night's to go out here, if not the best. Oh, and if you're doing the city this weekend, let me know, and I'll buy you a drink at some point. Happy birthday, welcome to legality :thumbsup:

Yes I am lol I dont have anyother friends wgho are 21 yet!! whaaaaaa!!!
I PROMISE I'll make it out to B-town and we can go out <3

[vivfox]

I'm so bored.


I'm always busy and I'm never bored. In fact I have become a workaholic and I love every minute of it. Life is really good for me, currently.

Whenever someone tells me they're bored I tell them there's always something that needs to be cleaned. Some good music and a clean room and afterwards you'll feel like a million bucks and wonder where the time has gone.

[louielouie2000]

So I guess I'm a dick, today. I absolutely HATE late people.

So I'm doing sound tonight, for some little podunk local band. And we agree on a 6PM soundcheck. Me, I'm never late for anything...I don't believe in inconveniencing others.
So I arrive at 5:45, and have everything ready to go for them. 6PM becomes 6:30, and.I.leave. Fukc that.

They just called, and they're PISSED. I told them I have better things to do, than sit around waiting on a bunch of guys who have no respect for wasting my time. I need a dinner and shower break, and I'm getting one. "We need you back here, NOW!". Me> "sorry pal, it ain't gonna happen....you'll get a line check, 15 minutes before your start time".
They're really mad, and I couldn't care less. Maybe they'll be on time, next time. I HATE late people.:mad:
Thanks for letting me vent. JTIS!

I had something similar happen to me last weekend. I planned and organized a group ride for the Austin Scooter Club last weekend. The head of the group/owner of the group website/etc is ALWAYS late. It really grates on everyone in the group. So this past weekend, we waited for 30 minutes after she was supposed to be there, and then we just left since I was the one heading the ride. I felt kinda bad, as she was really looking forward to it... but you just kinda have to draw a line in the sand sooner or later with people.

[markolas]

It's perfectly acceptable to leave after 20 minutes, if whomever you're waiting for hasn't shown up. Fifteen is sort of marginal. Ten, and I'd think you were one of those prissy, super-speedy, high-energy, always-on-the-go, chop-chop MFs that I can't stand. :laugh:

[louielouie2000]

It's perfectly acceptable to leave after 20 minutes, if whomever you're waiting for hasn't shown up. Fifteen is sort of marginal. Ten, and I'd think you were one of those prissy, super-speedy, high-energy, always-on-the-go, chop-chop MFs that I can't stand. :laugh:

Yeah, I might have been okay with waiting just a little bit longer, but we were on a pretty strict time schedule for once. We were going to ride up through the canyons and such in the West Lake Hills at dusk. You don't want to be up there on a scooter after dark as those roads are very narrow, steep, curvy, and gravelly (gravel on a scooter can get you killed). Not to mention there are 10 million people driving giant SUV's who yap on their cell phones nearly killing everyone around them. So we really had to leave. Maybe it taught our group leader a lesson, though: BE ON TIME!! :cool:

[markolas]

Yeah, I've been out that way once or twice, and some of those roads look pretty scary. :shocked:

[HomerMcvie]

I'm EXTREMELY time anal.
Be on time, or I will kill you.

Really though, I'm okay with that 15 minute rule. But 20 is too much. I'm pissed at 20.

[LikeAWillow]

I'm always busy and I'm never bored. In fact I have become a workaholic and I love every minute of it. Life is really good for me, currently.

Whenever someone tells me they're bored I tell them there's always something that needs to be cleaned. Some good music and a clean room and afterwards you'll feel like a million bucks and wonder where the time has gone.

I noticed you hadn't been posting as much. I'm glad to hear things are really going well for you. I tend to be on the ledge less and less when I'm actually leading a productive life, too. So you guys can see how things have been going for me lately :laugh:

[LikeAWillow]

GUYS. THE COOLEST THING JUST HAPPENED.

My friend Rachel just texted me asking if I had some cigarettes that someone could bum. I should sure, come on over. Turns out, it was this big feminist speaker that Rachel's org brought to campus tonight, and the first thing she said when she walked in my room was "Holy ****, Buckingham Nicks album? My mom named me after a Stevie Nicks song." We're now best friends, I have her email, and I'm sending her some Stevie sh*t later tonight. The things that having a few unhealthy addictions will do for you.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

GUYS. THE COOLEST THING JUST HAPPENED.

My friend Rachel just texted me asking if I had some cigarettes that someone could bum. I should sure, come on over. Turns out, it was this big feminist speaker that Rachel's org brought to campus tonight, and the first thing she said when she walked in my room was "Holy ****, Buckingham Nicks album? My mom named me after a Stevie Nicks song." We're now best friends, I have her email, and I'm sending her some Stevie sh*t later tonight. The things that having a few unhealthy addictions will do for you.

OMG thats amazing lol

[APerfectLie]

GUYS. THE COOLEST THING JUST HAPPENED.

My friend Rachel just texted me asking if I had some cigarettes that someone could bum. I should sure, come on over. Turns out, it was this big feminist speaker that Rachel's org brought to campus tonight, and the first thing she said when she walked in my room was "Holy ****, Buckingham Nicks album? My mom named me after a Stevie Nicks song." We're now best friends, I have her email, and I'm sending her some Stevie sh*t later tonight. The things that having a few unhealthy addictions will do for you.

Awesome! What Stevie song was she named after?

[LikeAWillow]

Awesome! What Stevie song was she named after?

Sara :) And I quote, "The song about abortion. So now I write about abortion. Perfect." :laugh:

[Enchanted_Stevi]

JTIS....

I am OFFICIALLY 21 :blob2:

[LikeAWillow]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I still feel like every day is a celebration of my 21st haha. You're going to have an amazing time this weekend.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

HAPPY BIRTHDAY. I still feel like every day is a celebration of my 21st haha. You're going to have an amazing time this weekend.

Thanks Marissa <3
I'm sure I'll feel the same way xD
I'll definatly upload pics later of my birthday weekend festivities!

[BTFLCHLD]

JTIS....

I am OFFICIALLY 21 :blob2: happy birthday honey.

[louielouie2000]

So my very first boyfriend called me tonight, and we talked about 2 hours. I haven't really heard from him in quite some time, so it was a very unexpected surprise. It's just amazing how far we've both come... we started dating when we were 19, and stayed together for a few years. We started off as friends, and we ended as friends... and that's so rare in dating. It just meant the world to me that he thought to call me up and seek advice on his life, and spend a couple of hours catching up with each other. I've been kinda down lately searching for work, and have felt isolated. But hearing from a very old friend tonight has put some wind back in my sails. It really is the simple things which bring me the most joy! :)

[vivfox]

So my very first boyfriend called me tonight, and we talked about 2 hours. I haven't really heard from him in quite some time, so it was a very unexpected surprise. It's just amazing how far we've both come... we started dating when we were 19, and stayed together for a few years. We started off as friends, and we ended as friends... and that's so rare in dating. It just meant the world to me that he thought to call me up and seek advice on his life, and spend a couple of hours catching up with each other. I've been kinda down lately searching for work, and have felt isolated. But hearing from a very old friend tonight has put some wind back in my sails. It really is the simple things which bring me the most joy! :)


I wonder how he knew your current phone number?

[Silver Springs]

I just dreamt that I was eating gummy Bees, and now I don't feel well :(

[ButterCookie]

It's 11.59 and I want to stay aliiive.

I'm really bored in Maths JTIS. Last day of term, though :blob1:

[McTrouble]

It's 11.59 and I want to stay aliiive.

I'm really bored in Maths JTIS. Last day of term, though :blob1:

I bet you were counting the minutes just to get that Blondie line in perfectly :laugh:

[Enchanted_Stevi]

happy birthday honey.

Thanks Niki!!
I PMed you a few times on here and never got a response!!!
but I figured you were busy =P

[ButterCookie]

I bet you were counting the minutes just to get that Blondie line in perfectly :laugh:

I totally wasn't! That's why I did it. I just glanced at the computer clock and there it was.

[fringed n fab]

I wonder how he knew your current phone number?

:lol:


Sometimes people's ex lovers make the best of friends. I know my sisters ex and her are closer today than they ever were as teenagers and going out together all through high school. Funny how life does that to people. Viv whoever that new guy is in your sig, he's beautiful. I like him much better than some of those other guys you pick out from a lineup. :laugh:

[fringed n fab]

It is muggy and hot and already felt like 90 at 10 am here. Air conditioning saved Florida. Well, that and pesticide as they say.

[skcin]

How would you know. I always close the bathroom door!:mad:

Because, I'm telling you, my body wants to weigh 200+ lbs. I've got a very slow metabolism, plus I drink more than my share of beer. My body doesn't want to weigh 300, but it does want to weigh 200. And for the first time ever, I've beaten it. I had 3 White Castles, a couple of weeks ago, and that's only the 2nd fast food hamburger I've had, in 19 months.

So what's my option? Work out 5 days a week? FUKC THAT!!!! I'd 1000 times rather be hungry!:laugh:

I told you about the great cholesterol numbers I've got now. My doctor even said, "David, I don't necessarily approve of the way you've lost the weight, but your numbers are great now. I don't even need to schedule another checkup for you, as long as you're staying where you are. Whatever you're doing, keep it up."

Yes. You've told us all 100 times. :lol: I'm still telling you it's unhealthy. That's my story & I'm sticking to it. Life's too short to be hungry all the time, starving yourself to look good. It's not healthy mentally OR physically. It's just not. No way around it. Oh - and not eating any fat? Will f*ck up your brain. Literally.

And what's wrong with working out 5 days a week? :shrug: it's not dangerous or unhealthy.

Yep. I COULD eat all day long. I'm a pig, inside.
I do jump on the scale every morning. Even though I'm 5'10, I don't want to weigh 200, ever again.
Twice in the past week, I've watched my friends chow down on pizza, while I sat there and watched. Do you know how HARD that is???:mad:
They at least admire my determination....:(

1) You're 5'10" & weigh in the 130's? :shocked: That's even more concerning. My husband is the same height, weighs around 155 & is thin as a rail. You're in concentration camp territory, my friend.
2) There's a very fine line between determination & obsession/eating disorder. Determination is eating the pizza, but only 1 slice. I'm not diagnosing you, but you should be very, very careful. I'm serious.

I'm like you. I've gotten used to self deprivation. Just waiting for it to start paying off... I weigh around 130 and I'm at the lower end of the 5 Foot spectrum, so maybe another 20-30 lbs to go.

I'm going to yell at you again - that will be way too low a weight. :(

I'm starting to worry that I'm the exact same way. It's really freaking me out... I've been eating under 1200 calories daily for 2 weeks plus working out HARD every single day in that period of time.... and I feel like nothing's changed. More muscle, yes, but no loss of fat.

F*ck everything. I'm really sick of it.

Less than 1200? Most likely too little. Your metabolism is slowing down to protect itself & that will keep weight on.

It sounds dumb, but you need to eat to lose. About 4 years ago I did Weight Watchers for like 6 months & only lost 6 pounds. A friend of mine worked with me to look at my points & activity & everything, and told me I actually wasn't eating enough - I was 2-3 points short each day (that's about 100 calories.) I increased my daily intake, varied it day to day (so I ate 22 points 1 day, 25 the next, 20 the next, 35 on a weekend for a treat, etc.) Increased my cardio from 30 min-45 min 4-5 days a week & voila - I lost the next 15 pounds in like 3 months. :shocked: I actually got to 2 pounds BELOW my goal.

I'm EXTREMELY time anal.
Be on time, or I will kill you.

Really though, I'm okay with that 15 minute rule. But 20 is too much. I'm pissed at 20.

I agree with you. F*ck that ****.

[louielouie2000]

I wonder how he knew your current phone number?

We've remained friends over the years. Not close friends... but every year or so we'll call each other and talk about what's been going on in our lives. I've had the same phone number for some time... I've not gotten a Texas # yet because the contract isn't up on my cell yet. :)

[HomerMcvie]

Yes. You've told us all 100 times. :lol: I'm still telling you it's unhealthy. That's my story & I'm sticking to it. Life's too short to be hungry all the time, starving yourself to look good. It's not healthy mentally OR physically. It's just not. No way around it. Oh - and not eating any fat? Will f*ck up your brain. Literally.

And what's wrong with working out 5 days a week? :shrug: it's not dangerous or unhealthy.

Well at least it looks like I'm not the only Ledgie obsessed with my weight. Paula, I was overweight for 20 years!!! Because I didn't give a fukc. I finally DO give a fukc! And it's not easy, especially since I don't care much for exercise(I'm not lazy, I work outdoors, constantly....but "scheduling" running[and I'm a good runner, I used to, all the time].....bleck. I'd.rather.be.hungry.).

And I do occasionally have that one slice of pizza. And usually fry one slice of bacon, for my salad. I mainly just try to eat good stuff now. NO(or very little) fast food, lots and lots of veggies, fish and chicken(not fried). And I try to use as little cooking oil and salt, as possible.

All I KNOW is, that fat guy will always be inside me, wanting out. Seriously. I wake up every day, and punch him in the nose, and say, "not today, fukcer". Yes, it's a lot of work. But I know that it's worth it, to me.

[BTFLCHLD]

Thanks Niki!!
I PMed you a few times on here and never got a response!!!
but I figured you were busy =P sorry baby, I will try to be better about that. enjoy your birthday weekend! :xoxo:

[Silver Springs]

I'm going to yell at you again - that will be way too low a weight. :(

I'd rather be under weight than over weight. I was a fat child and I was miserable. I was a fat teenager and I was miserable. I don't want to be a fat adult and be just as miserable. I want to have control for once, rather than adding yet another reason for this invisible list people have of my flaws to taunt me with. I get **** on the street because I dress in bright "hippie" clothes, because I'm a redhead, because I'm not getting drunk and high on street corners, because I'm bettering myself by getting an education, because I respect people around me....I don't want to add fat to the list too.

[HejiraNYC]

All I KNOW is, that fat guy will always be inside me, wanting out. Seriously. I wake up every day, and punch him in the nose, and say, "not today, fukcer". Yes, it's a lot of work. But I know that it's worth it, to me.

Self-deprivation is not work. Working out is work. You are definitely not doing yourself any favors by starving yourself. As Paula points out, your body will struggle to maintain its fat stores if you try to starve it. Your metabolism will stay at a low level. You may be "skinny," but as far as I'm concerned I'd rather be a fit chubby person than a weak, out of shape skinny-fat. I'm not saying that you are the latter, but based on your statistics and regimen, it certainly paints that kind of a picture to me.

[markolas]

And what's wrong with working out 5 days a week? :shrug: it's not dangerous or unhealthy.

No, but it is tedious and boring. And I'm naturally very low-energy and slow-moving, besides. I'm starting to think that 75% of the U.S. population is on cocaine or some kind of amphetamine.

[markolas]

I'm going to yell at you again - that will be way too low a weight.

I'm curious...what would you consider an idea weight for someone who is 5'5" (5'4" and a half if you want to get technical about it)?

I've been holding steady at about 160 for a couple of years now - I think at 140, I'd still be kinda chubby. Not that I'm interested in being super-skinny, b/c I'm not. I would just really like to not have a double chin and love handles.

[LittleCharmer]

I want to have control for once, rather than adding yet another reason for this invisible list people have of my flaws to taunt me with. I get **** on the street because I dress in bright "hippie" clothes, because I'm a redhead, because I'm not getting drunk and high on street corners, because I'm bettering myself by getting an education, because I respect people around me....I don't want to add fat to the list too.

I think you sound fab, and it's good that you want to alter your weight for your own sense of self-confidence - you don't need to do it for anybody else.
People are miserable f*ckers and someone will always be giving you sh*t for something. As long as you're happy and at ease with the person you are, their opinions shouldn't count for anything. Easier said than done to ignore the hurtful thing that people say, I know, but just think about how many insecurities the people who taunt you have. Being yourself and not squeezing yourself into the narrow margins imposed by others will, in the long run, leave you a more fulfilled person than they may ever hope to be.

[skcin]

Well at least it looks like I'm not the only Ledgie obsessed with my weight. Paula, I was overweight for 20 years!!! Because I didn't give a fukc. I finally DO give a fukc! And it's not easy, especially since I don't care much for exercise(I'm not lazy, I work outdoors, constantly....but "scheduling" running[and I'm a good runner, I used to, all the time].....bleck. I'd.rather.be.hungry.).

And I do occasionally have that one slice of pizza. And usually fry one slice of bacon, for my salad. I mainly just try to eat good stuff now. NO(or very little) fast food, lots and lots of veggies, fish and chicken(not fried). And I try to use as little cooking oil and salt, as possible.
All I KNOW is, that fat guy will always be inside me, wanting out. Seriously. I wake up every day, and punch him in the nose, and say, "not today, fukcer". Yes, it's a lot of work. But I know that it's worth it, to me.

1) I'm starting to notice that, but most are talking about modifying their diet & working out.
2) I'm glad to hear you eat some actual food once in a while. :p The way you post, it seemed like you only eat lettuce & beer now.

I'd rather be under weight than over weight. I was a fat child and I was miserable. I was a fat teenager and I was miserable. I don't want to be a fat adult and be just as miserable. I want to have control for once, rather than adding yet another reason for this invisible list people have of my flaws to taunt me with. I get **** on the street because I dress in bright "hippie" clothes, because I'm a redhead, because I'm not getting drunk and high on street corners, because I'm bettering myself by getting an education, because I respect people around me....I don't want to add fat to the list too.

Aw sweetie. I'm not saying you should be fat. I'm saying that 120-130 is NOT fat.

Self-deprivation is not work. Working out is work. You are definitely not doing yourself any favors by starving yourself. As Paula points out, your body will struggle to maintain its fat stores if you try to starve it. Your metabolism will stay at a low level. You may be "skinny," but as far as I'm concerned I'd rather be a fit chubby person than a weak, out of shape skinny-fat. I'm not saying that you are the latter, but based on your statistics and regimen, it certainly paints that kind of a picture to me.

Preach it.

No, but it is tedious and boring. And I'm naturally very low-energy and slow-moving, besides. I'm starting to think that 75% of the U.S. population is on cocaine or some kind of amphetamine.

If you have that mindset, it will be. I'm not saying it's easy - it's not at first. You have to totally change your mindset & make it a normal part of your daily routine. After a few months it's not tedious & boring - it makes you feel great & you might even look forward to it.

Also, it has to be something you actually like doing. For some people it's running on a treadmill (yuck - not me). For others, it's riding the eliptical while watching the TV shows you DVR'd the night before :wavey: For others it's hiking or swimming, or taking fitness classes. It's whatever you WANT to keep doing. Because it's forever. I know that If I want to keep eating whatever I want to eat, I have to exercise regularly & that's OK with me. But it wasn't at first - it was scary & daunting.

I'm curious...what would you consider an idea weight for someone who is 5'5" (5'4" and a half if you want to get technical about it)?

I've been holding steady at about 160 for a couple of years now - I think at 140, I'd still be kinda chubby. Not that I'm interested in being super-skinny, b/c I'm not. I would just really like to not have a double chin and love handles.

For a boy? You wouldn't be chubby @ 140. :shrug: That's actually about right for a medium-framed man, give or take 5 pounds.

I think you sound fab, and it's good that you want to alter your weight for your own sense of self-confidence - you don't need to do it for anybody else.
People are miserable f*ckers and someone will always be giving you sh*t for something. As long as you're happy and at ease with the person you are, their opinions shouldn't count for anything. Easier said than done to ignore the hurtful thing that people say, I know, but just think about how many insecurities the people who taunt you have. Being yourself and not squeezing yourself into the narrow margins imposed by others will, in the long run, leave you a more fulfilled person than they may ever hope to be.

Great post. Well said.

[LikeAWillow]

I think you sound fab, and it's good that you want to alter your weight for your own sense of self-confidence - you don't need to do it for anybody else.
People are miserable f*ckers and someone will always be giving you sh*t for something. As long as you're happy and at ease with the person you are, their opinions shouldn't count for anything. Easier said than done to ignore the hurtful thing that people say, I know, but just think about how many insecurities the people who taunt you have. Being yourself and not squeezing yourself into the narrow margins imposed by others will, in the long run, leave you a more fulfilled person than they may ever hope to be.

This was perfect. I really believe that any changes you make NEED to be for you. If you try to fit in with what other people want, you're going to hate yourself, and you'll still never get close to them. I thought the "you can't love anyone else until you love yourself" thing was bull my entire life, but this year, I honestly have started to really like and respect myself, and all of the sudden, I have a core group of friends who mean the world to me and like me for me. I've never felt better.

[HomerMcvie]

No, but it is tedious and boring. And I'm naturally very low-energy and slow-moving, besides. I'm starting to think that 75% of the U.S. population is on cocaine or some kind of amphetamine.

I've been accused of doing coke, so many times! I'm a very hyper person. I'm constantly moving. I don't even like sitting down, and prefer to stand, if I'm clubbing(even though my friends usually sit).
My friend, who is 16 years my junior, just marvels at the energy I have.

So, back to the diet sh*t, you guys have inspired me. Spring has sprung, and it's 72 right now. The park down the road has a track, and I'm going now, to get some exercise. I only plan on walking today, as my band plays tomorrow night, and I don't want to be having shin splints(if memory serves, anytime I start running, it always takes me a week or two, for the shin splints to go away). Maybe I'll start running, first of next week.

[ButterCookie]

Please, please, please eat more if you're exercising more

[CreepingDeath]

Please, please, please eat more if you're exercising more

This my problem. I exercise all the time but often skip meals. The weight stays off, but I feel like crap.

[ButterCookie]

This my problem. I exercise all the time but often skip meals. The weight stays off, but I feel like crap.

:( Have you tried anything like Quorn or tofu even if it is just to fill you up? I can run all evening on a tofu salad and contrary to popular belief, if marinated properly it doesn't taste bad/of nothing.

[Silver Springs]

:( Have you tried anything like Quorn or tofu even if it is just to fill you up? I can run all evening on a tofu salad and contrary to popular belief, if marinated properly it doesn't taste bad/of nothing.

If you're working with the right recipe, Tofu can be pretty nice. My friend's Dad makes Tofu Burgers that make McDonald's look like crap. Well...more like crap.

[ButterCookie]

Tofu hotdogs are the food of the gods!

[Silver Springs]

Tofu hotdogs are the food of the gods!

Actually, no. That would be Fruit Loops, Mountain Dew and Linda McCartney's Sausage Rolls *drool* lol.

[ButterCookie]

Ah man Mountain Dew makes me shake like a dog. It's horrible, I never know what to do with myself after it. I don't like sausage rolls but I do loveeee just Linda McCartney'ssausages.

[Silver Springs]

Ah man Mountain Dew makes me shake like a dog. It's horrible, I never know what to do with myself after it. I don't like sausage rolls but I do loveeee just Linda McCartney'ssausages.

Sounds like my reaction to any energy drinks, or most caffienated beverages. Because I'm severely anaemic I'm very susceptible to caffiene, and as such whenever I have it I'm effing wired for the rest of the day. My Mother has literally told me on more than one occasion not to come home when she knows I've had an energy drink, because I go through the entire spectrum of emotions with them. They're pretty much the same as alcohol to me, lol. I never got on with her Sausages, because they taste a little cardboard mulchy to me.

[CreepingDeath]

:( Have you tried anything like Quorn or tofu even if it is just to fill you up? I can run all evening on a tofu salad and contrary to popular belief, if marinated properly it doesn't taste bad/of nothing.

I've never been able to bring myself to try tofo. I mostly eat boneless, skinless chicken breast (marinated) w/ a salad. I also try not to eat anything past 7:00 P.M. That time used to be all about drinking and other bad things I'm trying not to do. Occasionally, I'll allow something from Cadbury. My life has become quite the party. :rolleyes:

[daniellaaarisen]

So my very first boyfriend called me tonight, and we talked about 2 hours. I haven't really heard from him in quite some time, so it was a very unexpected surprise. It's just amazing how far we've both come... we started dating when we were 19, and stayed together for a few years. We started off as friends, and we ended as friends... and that's so rare in dating. It just meant the world to me that he thought to call me up and seek advice on his life, and spend a couple of hours catching up with each other. I've been kinda down lately searching for work, and have felt isolated. But hearing from a very old friend tonight has put some wind back in my sails. It really is the simple things which bring me the most joy! :)

That's really, really awesome Louie. I'm glad that an old connection gave you the boost you needed.

[SapphireSister]

I got a fabulous new job in the music industry. I start Monday and couldn't be more excited! I won't be on here as much of course but I'll check in from time to time. Girl gotta earn some cash to be the chiffonhead I am!

[daniellaaarisen]

Yes. You've told us all 100 times. :lol: I'm still telling you it's unhealthy. That's my story & I'm sticking to it. Life's too short to be hungry all the time, starving yourself to look good. It's not healthy mentally OR physically. It's just not. No way around it. Oh - and not eating any fat? Will f*ck up your brain. Literally.

And what's wrong with working out 5 days a week? :shrug: it's not dangerous or unhealthy.



1) You're 5'10" & weigh in the 130's? :shocked: That's even more concerning. My husband is the same height, weighs around 155 & is thin as a rail. You're in concentration camp territory, my friend.
2) There's a very fine line between determination & obsession/eating disorder. Determination is eating the pizza, but only 1 slice. I'm not diagnosing you, but you should be very, very careful. I'm serious.



Couldn't agree more with everything you've said above, Paula. To be honest, I would be REALLY turned off by a guy who was that anal about weight, partially because I really don't like skinny men and partially because I'd think you were mental. :shrug:




Less than 1200? Most likely too little. Your metabolism is slowing down to protect itself & that will keep weight on.

It sounds dumb, but you need to eat to lose. About 4 years ago I did Weight Watchers for like 6 months & only lost 6 pounds. A friend of mine worked with me to look at my points & activity & everything, and told me I actually wasn't eating enough - I was 2-3 points short each day (that's about 100 calories.) I increased my daily intake, varied it day to day (so I ate 22 points 1 day, 25 the next, 20 the next, 35 on a weekend for a treat, etc.) Increased my cardio from 30 min-45 min 4-5 days a week & voila - I lost the next 15 pounds in like 3 months. :shocked: I actually got to 2 pounds BELOW my goal.




It changes a little bit every day. 1200 one day, 1500 the next, 1000, 1700, 1200 again.... generally speaking, I'm not calorie counting unless there's a label on packaged food. I'm just eating as healthily as I can, which I'm guessing is the right way to do it.

I think part of my problem is that I'm losing weight in two of my "problem zones" (hips and thighs) but not my stomach, so I feel ridiculously unproportionate right now, which isn't usually a problem for me.

[daniellaaarisen]

I got a fabulous new job in the music industry. I start Monday and couldn't be more excited! I won't be on here as much of course but I'll check in from time to time. Girl gotta earn some cash to be the chiffonhead I am!

First of all, CONGRATULATIONS LINDSEY!!!!! When I call you later (yes, this will happen) you've gotta tell me all about it.

I got your voicemail early this morning but I've been in classes all day... I'll give you a ring in a bit. xo


I'd rather be under weight than over weight. I was a fat child and I was miserable. I was a fat teenager and I was miserable. I don't want to be a fat adult and be just as miserable. I want to have control for once, rather than adding yet another reason for this invisible list people have of my flaws to taunt me with. I get **** on the street because I dress in bright "hippie" clothes, because I'm a redhead, because I'm not getting drunk and high on street corners, because I'm bettering myself by getting an education, because I respect people around me....I don't want to add fat to the list too.

First of all, I 100% agree with what Sian and Marissa said.

When that starts compromising your health, I hope you realize it and back off. If there's one thing I've learned in life, it's that people REALLY don't think about those characteristics as much as we think they do. Six months ago, I was at my heaviest weight EVER (by about 30 pounds from my average throughout high school) and I had never felt more lovable and sexy. I clung to my good features-- my eyes, my boobs, my height, etc-- for dear f*cking life and presented myself like I knew I was worthy of the people I wanted even though I often felt completely out of their "league." I just had a generally terrible self image. And guess what? At 30 pounds heavier than I wanted to be, I was slowly starting to BELIEVE that I was worthy, attractive, etc etc. and at the same time, I was turning more heads than I had in my entire life. Once I started to believe the pep talks I gave myself, people could tell that I loved who I was and it rubs off in a great way. I personally think I was a LOOOOOOT more attractive at 16 when I was still modeling and had a MUCH better body, yet I never felt better than last summer.

If you can't believe in yourself at your worst, you'll still give off feelings of insecurity when you feel at your best. :shrug: Do what makes you feel good, what makes you healthy, what enhances your life-- and that's what will give you the positive energy to turn your attitude around. That's how I'm attacking my entire "get in shape" process. Yes, I want to lose weight, but I want to do it because I'll be healthier. I honestly don't believe that any other mentality will bring someone to feel the way they want to after weight loss. Don't do it for the people. Do it for you and the people will follow because of the energy you give off.

[Meowi]

Its 10:21 in the night and I turn 16 tomorrow. I'm here with some of my best friends, yet each one is secluded in each room and on their laptops.
Ugh.

[LikeAWillow]

Its 10:21 in the night and I turn 16 tomorrow. I'm here with some of my best friends, yet each one is secluded in each room and on their laptops.
Ugh.

I'm sorry :( Go round them up and watch a movie? Go get a late night snack? Happy birthday, though :woohoo:

It's almost 9 am here, and I've been sitting at a high school proctoring an SAT for an hour now. I'm debating whether or not to leave my coworker in charge while I head off to get coffee.

[CreepingDeath]

Its 10:21 in the night and I turn 16 tomorrow. I'm here with some of my best friends, yet each one is secluded in each room and on their laptops.
Ugh.

Aw, that sucks. Come here for you're birthday. We'll show you a good time. ;)

[HomerMcvie]

Its 10:21 in the night and I turn 16 tomorrow. I'm here with some of my best friends, yet each one is secluded in each room and on their laptops.
Ugh.

It's amazing how technology has changed us. My friends and I were off on a roadtrip, a few months ago. No one had said a word, for about 30 minutes.....everyone was too busy texting, and checking FB on our phones. We were all crammed into the same car, yet we held own little world, in our palm.
My friend finally pointed it out, that we should be enjoying each others company, and get the fukc off of our phones. He.was.right.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

First purchases being 21...except the UV Blue...that was a gift =) Of course I got carded, but i was like "OH OF COURSE yo can see my ID!!!!"

http://img189.imageshack.us/img189/2551/274182867.jpg

[Silver Springs]

Is it strange to still have a crush on a Teacher you had nearly eight years previously? When I was fourteen I had a home room tutor who looked after me alot. It was while the school bullying was at its very worst, and I had cut loose the friends who had treated me so horribly. So I was alone. He spent alot of time with me and he became the friend I should have had in a peer. Anyway, I still find myself thinking back at small memories and still finding him terribly endearing. He was a rocker by nature even though Math was his subject, and he had long hair, stubble and just....he was a rebel. Sometimes rebels are the best kind of people. Why couldn't he have been around my age....

[louielouie2000]

First purchases being 21...except the UV Blue...that was a gift =) Of course I got carded, but i was like "OH OF COURSE yo can see my ID!!!!"

Ahh, Malibu... good choice! :thumbsup:

[daniellaaarisen]

The terrible thing about having one ex who treated you terribly: it makes you paranoid in any relationship you have later in life.

[ButterCookie]

Ahh, Malibu... good choice! :thumbsup:

sdfahjkdfgh my drink. Best choice ever, Caitlin.

[LikeAWillow]

Some idiot stole my cell phone today :(

[daniellaaarisen]

Some idiot stole my cell phone today :(

I saw that posted somewhere.... dude, that SUCKS. I hope you cancelled the plan immediately! If I remember correctly, you were due for an upgrade sometime anyway ;)

[LikeAWillow]

I saw that posted somewhere.... dude, that SUCKS. I hope you cancelled the plan immediately! If I remember correctly, you were due for an upgrade sometime anyway ;)

Yup, cancelled it right away :) Now I'm just hoping that someone with an extra phone turns up because I really don't want to have to buy a new one.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

Ahh, Malibu... good choice! :thumbsup:

Thanks =P I thought so myself

[Enchanted_Stevi]

sdfahjkdfgh my drink. Best choice ever, Caitlin.

LOL Glad to know everyone approves of my choice =P

[HomerMcvie]

Yup, cancelled it right away :) Now I'm just hoping that someone with an extra phone turns up because I really don't want to have to buy a new one.

God I need a new phone(mine likes to power itself off, when you slide it open), but I hate paying for a new one. So I've been putting up with it, for about the past six weeks. Wish I'd lose it or something, so I'd be forced to buy a new one!
JTIS

[LikeAWillow]

Opinions on writing a letter to someone? I personally think it's a little bit of a coward's way out, but sometimes you need to get all of your thoughts out in an uninterrupted way. Am I going to look like a little girl if I write someone one?

And hey, it's not like I have a phone now, anyway :laugh:

[daniellaaarisen]

Opinions on writing a letter to someone? I personally think it's a little bit of a coward's way out, but sometimes you need to get all of your thoughts out in an uninterrupted way. Am I going to look like a little girl if I write someone one?

And hey, it's not like I have a phone now, anyway :laugh:

I write letters to people all the time. We're writers-- it's how we communicate best. I don't think it's a copout at all. Manipulate your language to say what you want to say in the way that you want it to come across.

[LikeAWillow]

I write letters to people all the time. We're writers-- it's how we communicate best. I don't think it's a copout at all. Manipulate your language to say what you want to say in the way that you want it to come across.

Thanks for responding :). I wish I could Unfortunately, I'm writing to the most scientifically minded person I've ever met. I'm trying to structure this in a very clear, linear fashion:

Problem
Why it's a problem
Possible solutions

Problem
Why it's a problem
Possible solutions

etc
etc
etc

I think that will be easier for him to see value in and to understand. I won't lie, though. A part of me wants to go lyrical on this **** and paint a beautiful little world where these problems don't exist and only the fact that I care about him does. Gotta resist, though. At least this time.

[RickRobert]

Just recorded myself reading a newspaper article in Welsh for blind people... and I'm getting £40 for it :shrug:

[Silver Springs]

Just recorded myself reading a newspaper article in Welsh for blind people... and I'm getting £40 for it :shrug:


Don't knock it when it's paying. I'm jealous :p

[RickRobert]

Oh I'm not complaining, just didn't expect earning money for the first time ever to be for something so... odd. It was about a bunch of archaeologists searching for a dead elephant :lol:

[Silver Springs]

Oh I'm not complaining, just didn't expect earning money for the first time ever to be for something so... odd. It was about a bunch of archaeologists searching for a dead elephant :lol:

I just wish that I could find an opportunity like that over the summer while I'm trying to earn money is a starving artist haha!

JTIS, I just flicked over the channel to catch the early scenes of Thir13en Ghosts. Wtf did I do this? It's the only horror movie that affects me psychologically as much as it does. I caught some of the scarier scenes so I may as well watch the full thing because I won't sleep now anyway. Eff you Jackyl and Juggernaught *shiver*.

[jannieC]

JTIS, I just flicked over the channel to catch the early scenes of Thir13en Ghosts. Wtf did I do this? It's the only horror movie that affects me psychologically as much as it does. I caught some of the scarier scenes so I may as well watch the full thing because I won't sleep now anyway. Eff you Jackyl and Juggernaught *shiver*.

Ooh, if this is the movie I'm thinking of- gah! Is there a girl in a bathtub scene? :eek:

[Silver Springs]

Ooh, if this is the movie I'm thinking of- gah! Is there a girl in a bathtub scene? :eek:

With the blood and naked female? Yep. That's the Angry Princess, one of the thirteen. It really gets to me, this film. Yet at the same time I do like it. I just don't like going anywhere in the day afterwards. For example, I need a wee. But there is no way I'm stepping out of my room to walk through the dark hallway to go to the bathroom. Not without a magically spelled section of glass wall lol!

[jannieC]

With the blood and naked female? Yep. That's the Angry Princess, one of the thirteen. It really gets to me, this film. Yet at the same time I do like it. I just don't like going anywhere in the day afterwards. For example, I need a wee. But there is no way I'm stepping out of my room to walk through the dark hallway to go to the bathroom. Not without a magically spelled section of glass wall lol!

There are so many disturbing <i>moments</i> in that movie for me. Was there one ghost who did a weird thing with its teeth? Like chattering as it stood behind you? Sob.

[APerfectLie]

I just wish that I could find an opportunity like that over the summer while I'm trying to earn money is a starving artist haha!

JTIS, I just flicked over the channel to catch the early scenes of Thir13en Ghosts. Wtf did I do this? It's the only horror movie that affects me psychologically as much as it does. I caught some of the scarier scenes so I may as well watch the full thing because I won't sleep now anyway. Eff you Jackyl and Juggernaught *shiver*.

I love that movie!!

[Silver Springs]

There are so many disturbing <i>moments</i> in that movie for me. Was there one ghost who did a weird thing with its teeth? Like chattering as it stood behind you? Sob.

If he had a cage over his head then that sounds like the Jackyl. He's very lascivious in his actions with his mouth. Reminds me alot of Charlie Manson, actually. I think the thing with this movie is it's such a departure from the usual slasher, "guy in a mask", killer thriller. It makes you question all those little bumps and creaks you hear in the night. And that in itself plays tricks with your mind. Unfortunately for me I have a VERY vivid imagination. So much that I can literally see the things I'm afraid of in front of me. I guess it comes with the territory of artist, but it's a horrible thing to have when you're walking down the hall and you just get that feeling of Juggernaught following you. Turn around and, yep, I can see him. Blah. I sound nuts lol. But it's something I've had my whole life. Even when I was a little kid I remember having it.

I love that movie!!

I think you have to be a tad warped to like it, lol. Probably why I keep going back to it hehe.

[jannieC]

I guess it comes with the territory of artist, but it's a horrible thing to have when you're walking down the hall and you just get that feeling of Juggernaught following you. Turn around and, yep, I can see him. Blah. I sound nuts lol. But it's something I've had my whole life. Even when I was a little kid I remember having it.

I have a few movies in my past that have created this kind of fear for me. Stir of Echoes is one of them. Not terribly scary in comparison to many, but the dead girl has really stuck with me over the years. I used to live in an old two story house and when I would get my coffee in the early morning (still dark out), going back upstairs to get ready was pure hell for me. I <i>knew</i> that if i turned around, that dead girl would be right behind me. God, I couldn't get up those stairs fast enough!

[Silver Springs]

I have a few movies in my past that have created this kind of fear for me. Stir of Echoes is one of them. Not terribly scary in comparison to many, but the dead girl has really stuck with me over the years. I used to live in an old two story house and when I would get my coffee in the early morning (still dark out), going back upstairs to get ready was pure hell for me. I <i>knew</i> that if i turned around, that dead girl would be right behind me. God, I couldn't get up those stairs fast enough!

I am so glad I'm not the only one who has this. It's gotten to the point now that when I have to go downstairs in the dark, I'm terrified by the time I'm running lickety split up the stairs back to the "safety" of my bedroom. I feel like such a wimp, because I know there's nothing to worry about. But at the same time it feels so real to me that it may as well be really happening.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

JTIS

That I'm watching "The Kennedy's" on REELZ =)

[LikeAWillow]

JTIS

That I'm watching "The Kennedy's" on REELZ =)

**** I MEANT TO WATCH THIS.

[louielouie2000]

JTIS

That I'm watching "The Kennedy's" on REELZ =)

Ooh, how is it?! I don't have cable or satellite... so I'll have to wait until it hits Netflix/Hulu/DVD.

[SapphireSister]

So since I'm starting my new job tomorrow I'm officially banning myself from The Ledge M-F 9 am - 6 pm p.s.t. JTIS. I'll miss you more than you'll miss me. :distress:

[HomerMcvie]

Just recorded myself reading a newspaper article in Welsh for blind people... and I'm getting £40 for it :shrug:

Don't forget you promised to FB it to me!

[HomerMcvie]

Thanks for responding :). I wish I could Unfortunately, I'm writing to the most scientifically minded person I've ever met. I'm trying to structure this in a very clear, linear fashion:

Problem
Why it's a problem
Possible solutions

God, I feel your pain. I'm dating a chemistry PhD student, and it's very difficult. Even getting a date scheduled, is a major ordeal. I consider that extreme level of FOCUS, to be a handicap to the person. Because it's like they can't just "be happy", everything must have a reason, and an explanation. Being spontaneous.....isn't even an option, EVER. Even sex, must be planned.

We had an argument on Thursday, and haven't had any contact since then. I'm still trying to decide if I can jump through these constant hoops. I'm going back and forth on it......

[Enchanted_Stevi]

Ooh, how is it?! I don't have cable or satellite... so I'll have to wait until it hits Netflix/Hulu/DVD.

Its really good!!! andf addicting lol

[Enchanted_Stevi]

**** I MEANT TO WATCH THIS.

You gotta watch it!!!

[daniellaaarisen]

I have a few movies in my past that have created this kind of fear for me. Stir of Echoes is one of them. Not terribly scary in comparison to many, but the dead girl has really stuck with me over the years. I used to live in an old two story house and when I would get my coffee in the early morning (still dark out), going back upstairs to get ready was pure hell for me. I <i>knew</i> that if i turned around, that dead girl would be right behind me. God, I couldn't get up those stairs fast enough!

This is exactly why I don't let myself watch scary movies under any circumstance.

[LikeAWillow]

God, I feel your pain. I'm dating a chemistry PhD student, and it's very difficult. Even getting a date scheduled, is a major ordeal. I consider that extreme level of FOCUS, to be a handicap to the person. Because it's like they can't just "be happy", everything must have a reason, and an explanation. Being spontaneous.....isn't even an option, EVER. Even sex, must be planned.

We had an argument on Thursday, and haven't had any contact since then. I'm still trying to decide if I can jump through these constant hoops. I'm going back and forth on it......

Other people probably think you're exaggerating, but trust me, I understand. Neuroticism isn't so much fun when the glamorization fades.

[chelluversu]

I am so glad I'm not the only one who has this. It's gotten to the point now that when I have to go downstairs in the dark, I'm terrified by the time I'm running lickety split up the stairs back to the "safety" of my bedroom. I feel like such a wimp, because I know there's nothing to worry about. But at the same time it feels so real to me that it may as well be really happening.


After watching Darkness Falls at the age of like...idk 10?? I seriously need a light around when it's completely dark in my house. If that tooth fairy comes after me I will die! Same thing with that movie about the ventriloquist lady. How could you not scream if she's right there??!! I would be dead and my tongue would be in some jar somewhere.

P.s. I absolutely love thirteen ghosts.

[Dodfather]

God, I feel your pain. I'm dating a chemistry PhD student, and it's very difficult. Even getting a date scheduled, is a major ordeal. I consider that extreme level of FOCUS, to be a handicap to the person.

Having been a phD student, and thank God it's over, I can sympathise - especially if she's coming to the end of her thesis. You go slightly mad during that time and can't focus on anything else. To be honest I'm glad I wasn't dating anyone this time last year because I'd have been terrible to date/live with!

[holidayroad]

So since I'm starting my new job tomorrow I'm officially banning myself from The Ledge M-F 9 am - 6 pm p.s.t. JTIS. I'll miss you more than you'll miss me. :distress:

Good luck with your new job!! Congratulations!:thumbsup:

[BTFLCHLD]

Most users ever online was 1,207, Yesterday at 01:35 PM.

that was fun.

[louielouie2000]

that was fun.

Yeah, that totally baffles me. How random! Because normally we don't see much more than 100 users at a time. And it was not even a new album day or anything. :shrug:

[Silver Springs]

Yeah, that totally baffles me. How random! Because normally we don't see much more than 100 users at a time. And it was not even a new album day or anything. :shrug:

Maybe it was just a busy day for Bots? On an old board I was Admin of we had a lot of trouble with bots and web spiders stealing bandwidth.

[skcin]

Couldn't agree more with everything you've said above, Paula. To be honest, I would be REALLY turned off by a guy who was that anal about weight, partially because I really don't like skinny men and partially because I'd think you were mental. :shrug:

It changes a little bit every day. 1200 one day, 1500 the next, 1000, 1700, 1200 again.... generally speaking, I'm not calorie counting unless there's a label on packaged food. I'm just eating as healthily as I can, which I'm guessing is the right way to do it.

I think part of my problem is that I'm losing weight in two of my "problem zones" (hips and thighs) but not my stomach, so I feel ridiculously unproportionate right now, which isn't usually a problem for me.

Gotcha. Ramp up the cardio to get rid of belly fat. You may want to decrease your daily carbs & increase the protien. I do not mean a low or no carb diet; just make sure you're getting plenty of protien & make sure all your carbs are worth it. Sugar, alcohol, white bread & pasta = doughy.

Crunches & ab work are fine, but you won't really see results til you get rid of the flab.

Its 10:21 in the night and I turn 16 tomorrow. I'm here with some of my best friends, yet each one is secluded in each room and on their laptops.
Ugh.

It's amazing how technology has changed us. My friends and I were off on a roadtrip, a few months ago. No one had said a word, for about 30 minutes.....everyone was too busy texting, and checking FB on our phones. We were all crammed into the same car, yet we held own little world, in our palm.
My friend finally pointed it out, that we should be enjoying each others company, and get the fukc off of our phones. He.was.right.

I HATE that this is becoming the norm in society. I think it's awful.


that was fun.

Is that for real? There were that many people on here at once?

[mezzoforte]

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

[skcin]

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

Awful. Terribly sorry for you & your family.

[Silver Springs]

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

I'm sorry for your loss. I can relate to certain situations you talk about and understand how hard it must be for you. If you ever feel like talking to a dumb child or just venting, I'm only a PM away *hugs*

[daniellaaarisen]

Gotcha. Ramp up the cardio to get rid of belly fat. You may want to decrease your daily carbs & increase the protien. I do not mean a low or no carb diet; just make sure you're getting plenty of protien & make sure all your carbs are worth it. Sugar, alcohol, white bread & pasta = doughy.

Crunches & ab work are fine, but you won't really see results til you get rid of the flab.




Yeah, good plan. I'll up the cardio. In terms of diet, that's pretty much what I'm doing but I need to be stricter about it.

[daniellaaarisen]

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

I'm sorry. :( A similar thing happened to my best friend's dad-- he dropped dead at 50 without any notice. I hope your grandma is able to process it in the best way possible.

[LikeAWillow]

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

I'm really sorry, Grace. If you need an ear, I'm here.

[BTFLCHLD]

Is that for real? There were that many people on here at once? yes, and they were all viewing the nicks forum. :thumbsup:

[ButterCookie]

Grace, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss :( I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

JTIS that I'm thinking asbout getting a tattoo....INPUT...

Lower right side of my back saying "Dreams Unwind" in pretty cursive with a dove coming off of it onto my side?!?!?

[vivfox]

Grace, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your Uncle. My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow.

[DefDumbandBlond]

JTIS I was watching a tv series called Wiseguy, the episodes with Debbie Harry in it specifically ;) and I don't know why as many times as I've watched them before I didn't notice Mick was in one of the episodes. :eek:

[mezzoforte]

Thanks everyone--it's definitely appreciated. I'm actually doing fine with it; more concerned for my mum and grandmother than anything else.
It doesn't help that this has reignited a decades-long pissing war between my grandparents. They had a messy divorce 40 years ago and, not content to let sleeping dogs lie, they spent decades suing each other and refusing to inhabit the same room. Grandma is now refusing to attend any service he is at.
She has valid reasons for her anger and I wouldn't expect her to be rational right now, but it seems a shame that both of his parents won't be at the funeral.

Such an incredible waste for anyone to nurse an anger for decades. What does that accomplish? She's spent most of her life actively hating the father of her two children.

[jannieC]

Ramp up the cardio to get rid of belly fat.


What is a good cardio workout, time wise? I have just started back in the gym and I get on the elliptical for 25 minutes. I try to average about a level 6-8. Every now and then I throw in a 12 for one minute. I'm not noticing any changes, though i did just start back and I haven't altered my eating habits AT ALL (yet).



Such an incredible waste for anyone to nurse an anger for decades. What does that accomplish? She's spent most of her life actively hating the father of her two children.

That is so awful. :( You sound like you have a lot of insight and are breaking a cycle of anger and dysfunction. You are in my thoughts as well.

[Meowi]

Sorry to hear about your Uncle, Grace.
An Viv as much as I like the new sig, it makes me a little sad. We need her back!

[SapphireSister]

Good luck with your new job!! Congratulations!:thumbsup:
Why thank you very much!

[louielouie2000]

Why thank you very much!

So how was your first day? :D

[skcin]

What is a good cardio workout, time wise? I have just started back in the gym and I get on the elliptical for 25 minutes. I try to average about a level 6-8. Every now and then I throw in a 12 for one minute. I'm not noticing any changes, though i did just start back and I haven't altered my eating habits AT ALL (yet).


It's whatever you'll actually do. :nod: I personally need at least 45 minutes on the eliptical 4-5 days a week if I'm trying to get back into shape; 30 min 4-5 days a week to maintain. Work yourself up though - you just started back!

[holidayroad]

JTIS I was watching a tv series called Wiseguy, the episodes with Debbie Harry in it specifically ;) and I don't know why as many times as I've watched them before I didn't notice Mick was in one of the episodes. :eek:

I watched those back when they first aired! I loved that version of 'Brite Side' that was played during the end credits at least once on the episodes Debbie was in. It was different than the version on the Def, Dumb, & Blonde album.

[jannieC]

It's whatever you'll actually do. :nod: I personally need at least 45 minutes on the eliptical 4-5 days a week if I'm trying to get back into shape; 30 min 4-5 days a week to maintain. Work yourself up though - you just started back!

Today, I kept my time the same but did a major increase on my intensity. I ended up sweating more profusely (which I actually LOVE when exercising) but at the end of it all, I saw I covered less ground (not even 2 miles) and burned fewer calories. The mileage I expected but was surprised about the caloric part. I may keep it up this way for a week just to see what happens. :shrug:

[LikeAWillow]

JTIS-- Today is equal pay day. It marks how far a woman would have to work into 2011 to make the pay that a man in her same position made in 2010.

[HejiraNYC]

JTIS-- Today is equal pay day. It marks how far a woman would have to work into 2011 to make the pay that a man in her same position made in 2010.

I am very curious... why do you think, in the 21st century, that a woman makes less than a man for the same job? It defies logic. It seems that most HR departments I've seen are run by women. There are all kinds of legal oversights into pay practices and Equal Employment Opportunity compliance. Do you think there is some kind of dark, corporate underbelly that makes an effort to keep women's pay down? :shrug: Is there a benefit to paying men higher wages? Although I don't necessarily agree, I think the argument could be made, purely theoretically, that men merit greater pay at jobs that demand greater physical stamina and strength because women would be at a disadvantage physically. But when it comes to white collar/professional/ service type stuff, there really is no plausible case to be made for different pay rates.

[LikeAWillow]

“We know that women, often working at the same kind of job as men, frequently are not paid as much as men,” explains the lead author of the new study John List, PhD. The work was published by the National Bureau of Economic Research.

“Some of the explanations for the differences contend they are caused by discrimination or by women leaving the workforce to have children and then returning,” the investigator adds.

“Other people have suggested that men are more attracted to competition than women, and that accounts for the differences,” he goes on to say, quoted by PsychCentral.

“When the salary potential was most dependent on competition, men were 94 percent more likely to apply than women,” List explains. This was a general trend among the 6,779 people that were part of the new survey.

One of the main reasons for this could be the fact that women and men respond differently to pay incentives based on competition. These responses that the two genders display may be based on social cues that are inscribed onto them since they are children.

For example, boys tend to be encouraged to be more competitive, whereas girls are more cooperative. This may have repercussions later on in life as well, and the ripples of this “training” may extended into the way each individual acts as an employee.

I don't think it's a mass conspiracy, but I do think that there are underlying societal influences at work. I support the hypothesis that this article proposes that much of the pay discrepancy rests on the way women are socialized to behave. As the article says, we're taught to compromise, not compete. One thing that the article doesn't bring up that I think is worth mentioning, though, is that when women DO compete in a fashion similar to men, they don't receive the same results. This isn't because women don't have the same skills or drive, but it's because studies have shown that men and women alike react poorly to aggressive women in the workplace and positively to aggressive men. The socialization against competitive women runs just as deeply as the socialization that urges women not to compete. So much about our attitudes and perceptions of women and the way they should operate needs to change if the gap is ever going to close.

[HejiraNYC]

I don't think it's a mass conspiracy, but I do think that there are underlying societal influences at work. I support the hypothesis that this article proposes that much of the pay discrepancy rests on the way women are socialized to behave. As the article says, we're taught to compromise, not compete. One thing that the article doesn't bring up that I think is worth mentioning, though, is that when women DO compete in a fashion similar to men, they don't receive the same results. This isn't because women don't have the same skills or drive, but it's because studies have shown that men and women alike react poorly to aggressive women in the workplace and positively to aggressive men. The socialization against competitive women runs just as deeply as the socialization that urges women not to compete. So much about our attitudes and perceptions of women and the way they should operate needs to change if the gap is ever going to close.

That reminds me of a line from Joni Mitchell's "Lead Balloon": "An angry man is just... an angry man. An angry woman... bitch!" Having witnessed many women in the workplace over the years, I do notice a tendency for some to overcompensate, i.e., being aggressive in situations that do not warrant that kind of conduct. I often wonder whether such aggression would be tolerated if a man was conducting himself the same way; more times than not, he would be accused of creating a hostile work environment and marched off to HR. I hate to say it, but a lot of women come across inappropriately shrill and rude, thereby sabotaging their own careers, not because they are incapable of performing the job, but because they can be very unpleasant/impossible to work with.

[skcin]

Today, I kept my time the same but did a major increase on my intensity. I ended up sweating more profusely (which I actually LOVE when exercising) but at the end of it all, I saw I covered less ground (not even 2 miles) and burned fewer calories. The mileage I expected but was surprised about the caloric part. I may keep it up this way for a week just to see what happens. :shrug:

I don't rely on the calorie counter. :shrug: I think most machines are just basing it mostly on speed, unless it's a state-of-the-art machine. I think if you felt you worked harder than usual, worked up a sweat & were slightly short of breath, you probably got a good workout. Next time keep the intensity up but go a bit faster & see if you can eventually go the same distance you went at a lower intensity.

BTW - I'm not a fitness pro or diet guru by any means. :laugh: I'm a nurse so I have some knowledge of the human body & nutrition, but I'm pretty much just sharing what's worked for me. Don't want anyone to think I'm preaching or telling them my workout is the best.

[CreepingDeath]

My boyfriend works out with P90x, and wanted me to try it with him once. Major cardio. :shocked:

There's also one called Insanity he wants to get that's supposed to be even more difficult. I'll be sticking with my treadmill and Pilates. :o

[markolas]

Having witnessed many women in the workplace over the years, I do notice a tendency for some to overcompensate, i.e., being aggressive in situations that do not warrant that kind of conduct. I often wonder whether such aggression would be tolerated if a man was conducting himself the same way; more times than not, he would be accused of creating a hostile work environment and marched off to HR. I hate to say it, but a lot of women come across inappropriately shrill and rude, thereby sabotaging their own careers, not because they are incapable of performing the job, but because they can be very unpleasant/impossible to work with.

I know it sounds awful, but it's true in my experience as well. If I go on a job interview and a woman walks in wearing a power suit and her hair slicked back like Lilith from Cheers, I know to just get up and leave immediately. :lol:

And the mind games & office politics are something else. Years ago, I worked at an insurance company - I had very insecure (female) supervisor who compensated by just being a passive-aggressive, nasty b!tch. If you had a question about something, you couldn't just ask your question; you had to gauge what kind of mood she was in first, or how to ask it in a way that didn't make it sound like you were questioning her expertise. And god help you if you went and asked somebody else and she found out about it. :rolleyes:

[ButterCookie]

JTIS - My girl and I just made things official wheeeee :blob1:

[CreepingDeath]

JTIS - My girl and I just made things official wheeeee :blob1:

Congratulations! :xoxo:

[daniellaaarisen]

I don't rely on the calorie counter. :shrug: I think most machines are just basing it mostly on speed, unless it's a state-of-the-art machine. I think if you felt you worked harder than usual, worked up a sweat & were slightly short of breath, you probably got a good workout. Next time keep the intensity up but go a bit faster & see if you can eventually go the same distance you went at a lower intensity.

BTW - I'm not a fitness pro or diet guru by any means. :laugh: I'm a nurse so I have some knowledge of the human body & nutrition, but I'm pretty much just sharing what's worked for me. Don't want anyone to think I'm preaching or telling them my workout is the best.

My heart rate monitor watch always tells me I burn about 50 calories more per half hour than the elliptical says I do. I would definitely take the number on the elliptical lightly.

That being said... I heard that for weight loss, it's better to work on the elliptical for longer periods of time as slightly lower intensities? Is this true?

I usually shake it up every other day-- one day, I do 45 minutes while cruising comfortably (yet still out of breath) for the majority of the time with short periods of more exertion. The other day, it's 30 minutes of completely kicking my own ass.

[daniellaaarisen]

JTIS - My girl and I just made things official wheeeee :blob1:

Yayayayay Georgie!

[HomerMcvie]

JTIS - My girl and I just made things official wheeeee :blob1:

Congratulations!

[sorcerer999]

My heart rate monitor watch always tells me I burn about 50 calories more per half hour than the elliptical says I do. I would definitely take the number on the elliptical lightly.

That being said... I heard that for weight loss, it's better to work on the elliptical for longer periods of time as slightly lower intensities? Is this true?

I usually shake it up every other day-- one day, I do 45 minutes while cruising comfortably (yet still out of breath) for the majority of the time with short periods of more exertion. The other day, it's 30 minutes of completely kicking my own ass.

I found a really great system last year for my cardio. I only do 20 minutes of cardio a day(mostly on treadmill, but sometimes elliptical or bike). However, in those 20 minutes, I up the intensity level every minute for four minutes and repeat the cycle 4 times.

Minute 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20
Level 5 5 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 10 5

Level 5 being a comfortable (but not easy) starting point...and Level 10 being the hardest I can run...my threshold if you will. On the last minute, you back down to level 5 as a cool down. Upping the intensity every minute for four cycles gives you an extreme workout, and it only takes a mere 20 minutes.

And I might add that just doing this simple program made me lose 87 pounds in the span of only 6 months. I also ate healthy and drank 8 glasses of water each day of course. :)

[sorcerer999]

Interesting. When I post it won't line up the levels with the minutes. But you get the idea.

[HomerMcvie]

And I might add that just doing this simple program made me lose 87 pounds in the span of only 6 months. I also ate healthy and drank 8 glasses of water each day of course. :)
I lost 45 lbs, over about 6 months...I think the massive consumption of water is crucial. I drink a minimum of 2 liters a day(3 liters, when I'm sweating during the summer).

[louielouie2000]

So I stumbled onto a DeLorean for sale while out riding my Vespa yesterday:

http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a382/louielouie2000/IMGP1979.jpg

It *REALLY* made me miss my DeLoreans (yes, I've owned two over the years). I used to be so involved in the DeLorean community... the cars have been a huge part of my identity for the majority of my life. I miss the people in the community nearly as much as I miss the car itself. Not currently owning a DeLorean or being active in the community feels like part of my soul is missing! It's interesting how just seeing one of these cars in the flesh drug all that up :).

[Spoinny]

So I stumbled onto a DeLorean for sale while out riding my Vespa yesterday:

http://i15.photobucket.com/albums/a382/louielouie2000/IMGP1979.jpg

It *REALLY* made me miss my DeLoreans (yes, I've owned two over the years). I used to be so involved in the DeLorean community... the cars have been a huge part of my identity for the majority of my life. I miss the people in the community nearly as much as I miss the car itself. Not currently owning a DeLorean or being active in the community feels like part of my soul is missing! It's interesting how just seeing one of these cars in the flesh drug all that up :).

where did yours go (sorry if you already explained previously)?

[jannieC]

I don't rely on the calorie counter. :shrug: I think most machines are just basing it mostly on speed, unless it's a state-of-the-art machine. I think if you felt you worked harder than usual, worked up a sweat & were slightly short of breath, you probably got a good workout. Next time keep the intensity up but go a bit faster & see if you can eventually go the same distance you went at a lower intensity.

BTW - I'm not a fitness pro or diet guru by any means. :laugh: I'm a nurse so I have some knowledge of the human body & nutrition, but I'm pretty much just sharing what's worked for me. Don't want anyone to think I'm preaching or telling them my workout is the best.

I don't swear by the calorie counter, but I do like to see those numbers go up, for sure! I appreciate your input. I've been given a lot of advice when it comes to weights, stretching, etc, but I've never really known what to do in terms of cardio. I won't sue you if I die on the elliptical, I swear.

I found a really great system last year for my cardio. I only do 20 minutes of cardio a day(mostly on treadmill, but sometimes elliptical or bike). However, in those 20 minutes, I up the intensity level every minute for four minutes and repeat the cycle 4 times.

Minute 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20
Level 5 5 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 10 5

Level 5 being a comfortable (but not easy) starting point...and Level 10 being the hardest I can run...my threshold if you will. On the last minute, you back down to level 5 as a cool down. Upping the intensity every minute for four cycles gives you an extreme workout, and it only takes a mere 20 minutes.

And I might add that just doing this simple program made me lose 87 pounds in the span of only 6 months. I also ate healthy and drank 8 glasses of water each day of course. :)
I may just try this; sounds like a good sweaty workout.

[markolas]

It *REALLY* made me miss my DeLoreans (yes, I've owned two over the years). I used to be so involved in the DeLorean community... the cars have been a huge part of my identity for the majority of my life. I miss the people in the community nearly as much as I miss the car itself. Not currently owning a DeLorean or being active in the community feels like part of my soul is missing! It's interesting how just seeing one of these cars in the flesh drug all that up :).

My bf says he sees one on campus all the time. So evidently there are a few of them around town.

[sorcerer999]

It *REALLY* made me miss my DeLoreans (yes, I've owned two over the years). I used to be so involved in the DeLorean community... the cars have been a huge part of my identity for the majority of my life. I miss the people in the community nearly as much as I miss the car itself. Not currently owning a DeLorean or being active in the community feels like part of my soul is missing! It's interesting how just seeing one of these cars in the flesh drug all that up :).

Two questions - Why did you sell your DeLoreans? And I've always wondered, if you're parked between 2 cars, can you still get out? The doors popping upward would seem to get caught on the car beside it. I dunno. These are things I think about.

[louielouie2000]

where did yours go (sorry if you already explained previously)?

I was hit by a drunk in my first one in '03... so I had to replace it. I sold DeLorean #2 a while back due to hard economic times. :)

My bf says he sees one on campus all the time. So evidently there are a few of them around town.

I wore one of my DeLorean shirts today, and I had a girl stop me and tell me the same thing (that she's seen several out and about across town). I know of several Austin DeLorean owners through my DeLorean message board too. There definitely seems to be quite a few running around town!

[louielouie2000]

I've always wondered, if you're parked between 2 cars, can you still get out? The doors popping upward would seem to get caught on the car beside it. I dunno. These are things I think about.

That's a common misnomer about DeLoreans. The doors actually swing up almost wholly vertically. You can actually park much closer to objects than you can in a car with normal doors, and still get out. Watch this video for proof:

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If you parked that close to another car in a car with regular doors, you would not be able to exit your car.

[markolas]

JTIS

I'm wearing callous pads.

[sorcerer999]

That's a common misnomer about DeLoreans. The doors actually swing up almost wholly vertically. You can actually park much closer to objects than you can in a car with normal doors, and still get out. Watch this video for proof:

<iframe title="YouTube video player" width="480" height="390" src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/3UJ9H_ma3Bs?rel=0" frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>

If you parked that close to another car in a car with regular doors, you would not be able to exit your car.

SWEET! I've always wondered and now I know.

...and knowing is half the battle!

[Spoinny]

SWEET! I've always wondered and now I know.

...and knowing is half the battle!

GI Joe!!!!!!

[HomerMcvie]

I was hit by a drunk in my first one in '03... so I had to replace it. I sold DeLorean #2 a while back due to hard economic times. :)


Ya know, I don't know that I've ever seen one, in person.

I've not been a car whore, since high school. I got voted "best car", my senior year, with a 1976 Camaro I had completely redone. 400 small block, 3:73 rear end, double pumper carb. Had it repainted and the whole nine yards.
It was the 2nd fastest car in my county!

Yeah, I used to be "that guy". Barely being able to afford college, killed the car guy in me.
And my string of 6 SUVs, ended recently, with me buying a Corolla(although I still own a GMC Jimmy, for pulling my band's trailer).

[LikeAWillow]

JTIS that my roommate is drunk and watching a barrage of videos about parrots.

[daniellaaarisen]

JTIS that my roommate is drunk and watching a barrage of videos about parrots.

That is really fantastic.

Last time I was drunk, I watched five episodes of the Teletubbies straight.

[Ghost_Tracker]

Today has felt infinitely long. I had a Latin midterm and English essay due this afternoon and spent all of yesterday procrastinating (terrible choice; totally my fault). I was up until 6 AM and still had more work to do, but figured I needed a cat nap and would finish in the morning.
Of course I overslept. And I never oversleep! Not in years! But of course today was the day. To make matters worse, my 11AM seminar was meeting at the Met to see some of Winslow Homer's watercolors (amazing opportunity--they aren't on public view). I woke up at 11:08 to a call from a friend in the class telling me to get my ass there.
Didn't have time to finish the paper and study for the midterm, so I'll have to take a half grade deduction on the paper and hand it in Thursday.
Eph. Just finished the exam and I'm basically a mound of jelly.

Sorry--that was long and boring but I needed to vent about the mini-crises of my own making.:o

I'm sure you have this all in perspective, but just to point it out anyway, this is never going to come up in a job interview. Unless it's as a funny story to tell in order to try to land the job. . . .

HUGE deal now. Later on? Nnnnnot so much. ;)

[Ghost_Tracker]

that just drinking water in the mornings should give you enough "kick" to get your day started. :shrug:

Or if you want a REAL kick, try water, an apple and two oranges.

That's "not for amateurs" though.... ( :woohoo: )



P.S. - The water thing does make sense to me - Blood pressure drops at night, drinking water brings it slightly higher -
so more oxygen and blood sugar starts moving around, etc. I'm not sure about the relationship between coffee, blood volume
and blood pressure - of course it increases blood pressure, but since it's a diuretic I would imagine that it actually decreases
blood volume - water of course would do the exact opposite to blood volume...

[Ghost_Tracker]

There's something I've been wondering about -
sometimes when I re-heat my coffee in the
microwave, there's this gross film that forms
on the surface of the coffee. Does anybody
else get that? Sometimes I feel like I'm the
only person on the planet that happens too! :lol:
What the heck IS it? Is there any way to avoid it???


"Just Thought I'd Ask."

[skcin]

JTIS - My girl and I just made things official wheeeee :blob1:

Yay!

My heart rate monitor watch always tells me I burn about 50 calories more per half hour than the elliptical says I do. I would definitely take the number on the elliptical lightly.

That being said... I heard that for weight loss, it's better to work on the elliptical for longer periods of time as slightly lower intensities? Is this true?

I usually shake it up every other day-- one day, I do 45 minutes while cruising comfortably (yet still out of breath) for the majority of the time with short periods of more exertion. The other day, it's 30 minutes of completely kicking my own ass.

I have no idea what's really better. I vary it as well.

I started taking a spinning class @ 5:45am on Fridays. The first few classes, I was shocked that I wqas able to keep up so well - I mean, I'm in decent shape but not GREAT shape right now. She has us varying between level 7 & 15, varying our speed (minimum of 100 rpms; spinning at 140 rpm on occasion.)

Well, the 3rd or 4th class was taught by another instructor & it was a whole new ball game. :shocked: She takes us from level 7 up to 22/24 (Max is 25.) Obviously at 22 or above, we're pretty much standing on the bike pedals & pushing as hard as we can - rpms are only in the 30's at this point. But WAY better workout than the first broad's.

I found a really great system last year for my cardio. I only do 20 minutes of cardio a day(mostly on treadmill, but sometimes elliptical or bike). However, in those 20 minutes, I up the intensity level every minute for four minutes and repeat the cycle 4 times.

Minute 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 11 12 13 14 15 16 17 18 19 20
Level 5 5 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 6 7 8 9 10 5

Level 5 being a comfortable (but not easy) starting point...and Level 10 being the hardest I can run...my threshold if you will. On the last minute, you back down to level 5 as a cool down. Upping the intensity every minute for four cycles gives you an extreme workout, and it only takes a mere 20 minutes.

And I might add that just doing this simple program made me lose 87 pounds in the span of only 6 months. I also ate healthy and drank 8 glasses of water each day of course. :)

Thanks for this - looks good to me! :thumbsup:

[Silver Springs]

JTIS - My girl and I just made things official wheeeee :blob1:

Aww! Congratulations!

[gretchen]

There's something I've been wondering about -
sometimes when I re-heat my coffee in the
microwave, there's this gross film that forms
on the surface of the coffee.
What the heck IS it?



I believe it's the oil from the beans...nothing to worry about.

[markolas]

What's up with all this Puritan work ethic crap? There's nothing wrong with laying in bed all day 1 or 2 days a week. Why do today what you can put off until tomorrow? :)

[Silver Springs]

What's up with all this Puritan work ethic crap? There's nothing wrong with laying in bed all day 1 or 2 days a week. Why do today what you can put off until tomorrow? :)

I read this and suddenly don't feel so bad about having the occasional lie in :p. I still work my arse off so I'm not lazy, even if I feel like it when I'm not working 24/7 for Uni.

[markolas]

I read this and suddenly don't feel so bad about having the occasional lie in :p. I still work my arse off so I'm not lazy, even if I feel like it when I'm not working 24/7 for Uni.

I'm currently working 4 10-hour days. Yesterday, I went to class for an hour, but otherwise did not leave the house. Today, I haven't even gotten out of bed except to take a shower and fix something to eat. Tomorrow will probably be the same as yesterday.

I mean, there's nothing I'd rather do than sit here with my laptop; since there's nothing I absolutely *have* to do, why the hell shouldn't I?

[Silver Springs]

I'm currently working 4 10-hour days. Yesterday, I went to class for an hour, but otherwise did not leave the house. Today, I haven't even gotten out of bed except to take a shower and fix something to eat. Tomorrow will probably be the same as yesterday.

I mean, there's nothing I'd rather do than sit here with my laptop; since there's nothing I absolutely *have* to do, why the hell shouldn't I?

I think alot of people are reading this with jealousy :p Staying in bed isn't my personal way to relax, though. I love getting on a bus and just dissappearing with a good book, my iPod and a sunny day :) But alas, while I'm at University I'm stuck with thirteen hour days across the board and a small mountain of work to get done. Oh to be care free lol.

[Ghost_Tracker]

I believe it's the oil from the beans...nothing to worry about.

Thanks. GROSS, though, ICK! :lol:

I usually take the back of a spoon and scoop it out of there that way.

[carrie721]

Thanks. GROSS, though, ICK! :lol:

I usually take the back of a spoon and scoop it out of there that way.

that's what you're drinking :shrug: it's coffee bean oil and water. that's coffee. :laugh:

[daniellaaarisen]

Today, I got into Durham University in the UK. From what I've heard and read, it is the best university in the UK for English literature, surpassing Oxbridge.

Um................ holy shi*t.

[markolas]

I think alot of people are reading this with jealousy :p

I'm not sure what there is to be jealous of. I get up at 4am four days a week to be at work by 5:30, then I work until 4pm. And it's work of the most boring, mind-numbing kind. At least my boss isn't a barracuda, which is more than I can say for the last 3 or 4 jobs I've had.


Staying in bed isn't my personal way to relax, though. I love getting on a bus and just dissappearing with a good book, my iPod and a sunny day :)

On the bus? But buses have people on them. :distress:

[RickRobert]

Today, I got into Durham University in the UK. From what I've heard and read, it is the best university in the UK for English literature, surpassing Oxbridge.

Um................ holy shi*t.

Yay well done! :blob2: When do you arrive over here?

[mezzoforte]

Today, I got into Durham University in the UK. From what I've heard and read, it is the best university in the UK for English literature, surpassing Oxbridge.

Um................ holy shi*t.

That is insanely cool. Seriously. Congrats! Do you think you'll be able to go?

I'm sure you have this all in perspective, but just to point it out anyway, this is never going to come up in a job interview. Unless it's as a funny story to tell in order to try to land the job. . . .

HUGE deal now. Later on? Nnnnnot so much. ;)

Ha--very true. I just hate oversleeping like that, but worse things have definitely happened.;)

[daniellaaarisen]

Yay well done! :blob2: When do you arrive over here?

If I go, I'll be there in mid September or so! I'm still waiting to hear back from a few schools, but unless I get into Edinburgh, I think Durham's it without doubt.


That is insanely cool. Seriously. Congrats! Do you think you'll be able to go?

Thank you! Yeah, that's kinda the big question... it's such an amazing opportunity that I'm really hoping it works.

[RickRobert]

If I go, I'll be there in mid September or so! I'm still waiting to hear back from a few schools, but unless I get into Edinburgh, I think Durham's it without doubt.

:) Awesome. I'm all the way down in Wales, but an American friend of mine is studying abroad for a year in England too, and he's loving it :nod:

[APerfectLie]

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JTIS...

[ryguy2010]

WTF Is that? Scared my balls off. Wow that is creepy :eek:

[APerfectLie]

WTF Is that? Scared my balls off. Wow that is creepy :eek:

:laugh::laugh::laugh:
But yes, it scared mine off too! :eek:

[ButterCookie]

Today, I got into Durham University in the UK. From what I've heard and read, it is the best university in the UK for English literature, surpassing Oxbridge.

Um................ holy shi*t.

DFDGSHAJD WELL DONE!!!!! If you come over, Ledgie meet ups will be had!

[LikeAWillow]

I'm hosting a party tonight and my room looks like I was raised in a barn. Hot.

[Spoinny]

I just had 3 macaroon cookies and my hands smell like tuna fish

[daniellaaarisen]

DFDGSHAJD WELL DONE!!!!! If you come over, Ledgie meet ups will be had!

Thank you thank you thank you! I'm FLIPPING SH*T Georgie. Seriously flipping sh*t.

And you know that Lauren, Lucy, Sian, you and me will be spending a lot of time together... you guys will be my only friends and I need you! :lol:

[CreepingDeath]

Today, I got into Durham University in the UK. From what I've heard and read, it is the best university in the UK for English literature, surpassing Oxbridge.

Um................ holy shi*t.

Congrats. :thumbsup:

I go to England all the time to visit my family and my boyfriend's family. You'll be in the North East though, and I usually go to the South. I would love to meet you, though. :wavey:

[RickRobert]

Congrats. :thumbsup:

I go to England all the time to visit my family and my boyfriend's family. You'll be in the North East though, and I usually go to the South. I would love to meet you, though. :wavey:

Where in the South do you go?

[CreepingDeath]

Where in the South do you go?

Mostly Wiltshire, Somerset, and Kent.

My boyfriend's family live a little more north, in Kensington.

[daniellaaarisen]

Congrats. :thumbsup:

I go to England all the time to visit my family and my boyfriend's family. You'll be in the North East though, and I usually go to the South. I would love to meet you, though. :wavey:

Well I don't know if I'll definitely go to Durham... I have other options but I think that Durham is going to be the best one. Either way, I want to travel around the country whenever I can during my time in the UK so I hope to be further south sometimes! :thumbsup: We can plan it out, because I'd love to meet you as well.

[LikeAWillow]

Well I don't know if I'll definitely go to Durham... I have other options but I think that Durham is going to be the best one. Either way, I want to travel around the country whenever I can during my time in the UK so I hope to be further south sometimes! :thumbsup: We can plan it out, because I'd love to meet you as well.

So you think you'll be able to go? :D I didn't want to be too over-congratulatory before it was likely :thumbsup: