The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[Nikolaj]

Originally Posted by daniellaaarisen

Jesus Christ, I am such a bitch.

Ends up that one of the guys I called out yesterday is busy saving lives in Jamaica after the tropical storm. He's a surgeon in Montego Bay and I was pissed because he was not making ANY time for me (not responding to texts, etc.) and I was feeling used. So then today he texts me and says that there's been a bad tropical storm in Jamaica and that many people have died and that he's been working nonstop in the ER trying to save people from injuries but now they're evacuating and alkdhfjadklhlak.

I FEEL SO TERRIBLE FOR GIVING HIM **** YESTERDAY.

No, you are not a b****.
It's good he finally texted you, and you know, something about that story...I am sure you may know him well enough to know the difference, but sometimes the bigger the excuse ("I was selflessly saving dying people!") the bigger the fabrication is. I knew someone brilliant who would come up with the most reasonable excuses for being thoughtless- which made me feel similar guilt or ashamed feelings as you expressed above. Most of the reasons turned out to be lies.
I'm not saying that's the case with the surgeon you know, currently in Jamaica. But I still think he could've taken a minute to reply to you or give you a heads-up and spared causing you the anxiety. He replied after you were angry, took the time then.
A Ledgie must stick up for another Ledgie and let her know she is not a b *word.
I think you had a right to be attended to as being as important as any catastrophe he encountered, and it wouldn't have taken all that much time away from his efforts to tell someone who cares for him and he for you that he was crazy busy.
But, right now, likely you're just thinking how dreamy and wonderful he is, and don't want to hear a word against him.
Just don't blame yourself. He could've let you know and kept you from feeling the way that you did- hurt. It's not wrong to expect a man you care about to consider your feelings; even while in the throes of a crisis involving strangers and his profession.