The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by Nikolaj

No, you are not a b****.
It's good he finally texted you, and you know, something about that story...I am sure you may know him well enough to know the difference, but sometimes the bigger the excuse ("I was selflessly saving dying people!") the bigger the fabrication is. I knew someone brilliant who would come up with the most reasonable excuses for being thoughtless- which made me feel similar guilt or ashamed feelings as you expressed above. Most of the reasons turned out to be lies.
I'm not saying that's the case with the surgeon you know, currently in Jamaica. But I still think he could've taken a minute to reply to you or give you a heads-up and spared causing you the anxiety.
A Ledgie must stick up for another Ledgie and let her know she is not a b *word.
I think you had a right to be attended to as being as important as any catastrophe he encountered, and it wouldn't have taken all that much time away from his efforts to tell someone who cares for him and he for you that he was crazy busy.
But, right now, likely you're just thinking how dreamy and wonderful he is, and don't want to hear a word against him.
Just don't blame yourself. He could've let you know and kept you from feeling the way that you did- hurt. It's not wrong to expect a man you care about to consider your feelings, even while in the throes of a crisis he encounters.

Yeah, but I still overreacted. I could've just waited it out but instead I got kinda melodramatic and pulled the entire, "if you're not going to make this work then I don't want anything to do with you anymore" card. Ugh.