Do you believe in love at first sight?

[HighPassion]

I personally think that the whole reason why marriages fall apart, or people become distraught with love, or people will "never love again" is purely because of theories like "love at first site", "soul mates", etc...


Here's why.

We get this view of "love" through songs, movies, novels, tv shows (the list goes on) about what's supposed to happen. About how what we're supposed to feel. About why we feel this way. Yet is that love?

It paints this virtually unrealistic picture of love, that disappoints people to the extent of thinking "love does not exist" when it doesn't work out, or that once you find your soul mate, you don't need to work at it. Those are two completely wrong ideas. And it wrecks a person because of all these expectations.

So why do so many people dilude themselves into thinking it anyway? Because of how we feel around this person. When it's all new and exciting and you want to spend every waking minute with them - you actually start to believe in a fairytale-eque happy ending and that nothing could go wrong. I think it's safe to say, everyone in this forum has thought that about someone at one point or another.


But that's just not the case. Love is something that developes down the road between two people from working on it. And continue to work on it. I don't think actual "love" can be aquired until you figure out the ups and downs of this significant other, you learn to accept who they are (for better or worse--to a reasonable extent), they bring out the ACTUAL best in you, (the real best in you, not what you think is the best in you because of endorphins and emotions running high), and you to them, and BOTH of you working through the good times and the bad times.

And, a lot of this can stem from an infatuation, and there are thousands of people who have had this connection and have made it work. There is definitely chemistry between certain people at times, that give them the opportunity to build this love together. But all it is is an infatuation, or a connection. To call it "love" right off the bat is so dangerous and is the reason why so many of them don't work out.

Granted, some have found that connection early on and have been able to build a loving relationship with each other and it works out in the long run. But I think they mistaken that for "love at first site" because they were fortunate enough to have it work out for themselves.

I don't know, I personally have a hard time explaining things like this. It's like, I know it in my head - but wording it out sometimes makes it look like word vomit...


Btw - AWESOME story to that guy who met his wife when he was 3!!! I loved it. And I totally see where he's coming from.