Childfree

[kak125]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

As an adopted child, I agree completely. Wanna know something sh*tty.....after my Mom passed, my aunt said to me, "I hope you know that you're still welcome, at all of our get togethers".
While that could be taken nicely, am I the only one, who sees the implication, that "you really weren't hers, so you're really not one of us, but we still want to see you, anyway"?
I thought it was a sh*tty thing to say. I mean, I was adopted at birth....it's not like I didn't come along until I was 15, or something.... Bitch!

wow who says something like that? to me that sounds really ****ty! you should have said thanks but no thanks biatch!!

[estranged4life]

Originally Posted by jannieC

Pretend for the moment that you want to adopt a child. Do the research and report back to everyone how easy it is to adopt! I'm saying this with a smile, not a scowl- I just don't think many realize what it takes to adopt.

brother always had an issue with Dad, being Dad was not his biological Father - but he raised him equally with his two sons (My older brother Geary & myself) and all my oldest brother can do is bitch about "Why didn't Geary adopt me?" (The f**ker ALWAYS refers to Dad by his first name)...I had enough and chimed in "It wasn't like we had MONEY back then so he could LEGALLY adopt your ass..."

Debbie and I looked into adoption and saw alot we would had HAVE to accomplish to be able to adopt - so I understand your point, it takes ALOT to adopt.

[HejiraNYC]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

As an adopted child, I agree completely. Wanna know something sh*tty.....after my Mom passed, my aunt said to me, "I hope you know that you're still welcome, at all of our get togethers".
While that could be taken nicely, am I the only one, who sees the implication, that "you really weren't hers, so you're really not one of us, but we still want to see you, anyway"?
I thought it was a sh*tty thing to say. I mean, I was adopted at birth....it's not like I didn't come along until I was 15, or something.... Bitch!

OMG. That is just about the worst thing to say to someone who just lost his mother. I could understand her saying that if she was your aunt-in-law, but she is one of your close relatives. Geez...

[jannieC]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

As an adopted child, I agree completely. Wanna know something sh*tty.....after my Mom passed, my aunt said to me, "I hope you know that you're still welcome, at all of our get togethers".
While that could be taken nicely, am I the only one, who sees the implication, that "you really weren't hers, so you're really not one of us, but we still want to see you, anyway"?
I thought it was a sh*tty thing to say. I mean, I was adopted at birth....it's not like I didn't come along until I was 15, or something.... Bitch!

My mother commented once on my daughter's height and said something along the lines of, "well, she must get it from my side of the family." We ALL tend to forget that Laney didn't come from my body. She is so much a part of us, it's ridiculous. I think that was a ****ty thing for your aunt to say.

[bretonbanquet]

Originally Posted by HejiraNYC

http://www.instantkarma.com/johnbio.html

Well, other accounts seem to consider "Mimi" to be the grounding influence in John's life. Besides, no matter how much he visited his mother, he was not raised by her. They were more like buddies... and he had a decidedly unhealthy preoccupation with her.

Certainly, the Smiths were a middle-class couple, and John picked up his more middle-class traits from them. Mimi even tried to make John lose his Liverpudlian accent because it was working class, and she tried to stop him playing at the Cavern because it was so dreadful - "We'll have to stop this!" she said... "Grounding influence"? What does that even mean? His life wasn't that of someone with his feet on the ground. He became the John Lennon we know despite any grounding influence.

The stories of him being obsessed with his mother in unhealthy ways seem totally unfounded - they were very close and she was killed in his street when he was 17, of course it affected him deeply. More than most of us can imagine.

The point is that baby John wasn't found under a bush - his parents brought him into the world and the world is a much better place for them adding to the gene pool, which I think is where we came in.

[markolas]

On another message board I frequent, a woman posted that someone told her that she wasn't really a mother because she'd had a C-section. !!!

So, since I was born via C-section, does that mean I'm not a real person, since my mother didn't "really give birth"? lol

People have lots of strange ideas about children/parenting. The "you'll change your mind" thing drives CF people up a wall - it seems to be only directed at women. There still seems to be this idea that a woman's primary function is to give birth, and if you go against that, you're some kind of freak.

Also, part of it seems to be that people feel like you're passing judgment on them if you're not doing things they way they're doing them. So the constant refrains of "you'll change your mind," "it's different when they're your own," and "who'll take care of you when you get old?" are just plain old defensiveness.

But it's annoying, and it's rude. Being a man, I don't get any of it. And being gay, it would take a very concerted effort on my part to have a child; there's no risk of it happening "by accident," unless my penis "accidentally" falls into a vagina. lol

[GypsySorcerer]

Well, I believe "never say never," but I really do not think I want children for numerous reasons. I do not feel I need children to be fulfilled. I also don't think everyone is meant to be a parent.

[jannieC]

Originally Posted by markolas

But it's annoying, and it's rude. Being a man, I don't get any of it. And being gay, it would take a very concerted effort on my part to have a child; there's no risk of it happening "by accident," unless my penis "accidentally" falls into a vagina. lol

Okay this REALLY made me laugh!

[Stew_Matthews]

Originally Posted by jannieC

My mother commented once on my daughter's height and said something along the lines of, "well, she must get it from my side of the family." We ALL tend to forget that Laney didn't come from my body. She is so much a part of us, it's ridiculous.

This made me laugh alot . We have a complicated set up - I have two stepsons, a daughter with my wife, and last year we adopted two very young children. Both are African American (my wife and I are white - me British and my wife Italian/ American). My adopted 4 year old son has a bit to say for himself (which I like) and I remember being in a Chicago restaurant with lots of people around and my mother-in-law said something like - ' that boy has to have the last word doesn't he - he's just like his father!' - meaning me! Everyone laughed but they do become just part of the family. They really do.

[Meowi]

I'm still 15, but I know I want children.
And those who say that children are 'pets' - weren't you a child once? Weren't you a pet one day?

[Silver Springs]

I don't want children. I don't like children. Yet they seem fascinated by me and my breakable things. Cats shall be my future offspring.

[markolas]

Yeah...I'm not one of those people who goes around calling them crotch-droppings, but I don't especially care for kids. I don't think babies are cute - they are noisy and smelly, and no I don't want to hold it or hear incessant FB posts about it, or see pics of their scraped knees or their first booger or whatever. I mean, please.

[kak125]

Originally Posted by markolas

Yeah...I'm not one of those people who goes around calling them crotch-droppings, but I don't especially care for kids. I don't think babies are cute - they are noisy and smelly, and no I don't want to hold it or hear incessant FB posts about it, or see pics of their scraped knees or their first booger or whatever. I mean, please.

oh my i hear ya there. ugh its like enough already. i dont care that your kid won his soccer game or that he got a new pair of shoes or that he is tall for his age etc. it drives me nuts!!

[bluefox4000]

Mick

[estranged4life]

is God Bless George Carlin


His rant reminds me of a bumper sticker I once saw and just had to own:

"You May Be a Proud Parent...
But You're Still a F**king Idiot"