Childfree

[markolas]

On another message board I frequent, a woman posted that someone told her that she wasn't really a mother because she'd had a C-section. !!!

So, since I was born via C-section, does that mean I'm not a real person, since my mother didn't "really give birth"? lol

People have lots of strange ideas about children/parenting. The "you'll change your mind" thing drives CF people up a wall - it seems to be only directed at women. There still seems to be this idea that a woman's primary function is to give birth, and if you go against that, you're some kind of freak.

Also, part of it seems to be that people feel like you're passing judgment on them if you're not doing things they way they're doing them. So the constant refrains of "you'll change your mind," "it's different when they're your own," and "who'll take care of you when you get old?" are just plain old defensiveness.

But it's annoying, and it's rude. Being a man, I don't get any of it. And being gay, it would take a very concerted effort on my part to have a child; there's no risk of it happening "by accident," unless my penis "accidentally" falls into a vagina. lol