That's So Gay

[amber]

Originally Posted by markolas

Uh, well, all I can say is...feel free to use a gay slur around me, and see what happens. You'll be picking yourself, and probably your teeth, up off the ground.

Do you consider "That's so gay!" to be a gay slur? Should I roll my big butt on outta here?

[markolas]

Originally Posted by amber

Do you consider "That's so gay!" to be a gay slur? Should I roll my big butt on outta here?

Honestly, I've never actually heard anyone say it. But I don't hang out with 16-year olds, so... I was vaguely aware that it's a popular thing for kids to say, but yes, I think it's a slur.

[michelle2677]

Originally Posted by markolas

Honestly, I've never actually heard anyone say it. But I don't hang out with 16-year olds, so... I was vaguely aware that it's a popular thing for kids to say, but yes, I think it's a slur.

if a gay person says it, is it o.k. then?

[markolas]

Originally Posted by michelle2677

if a gay person says it, is it o.k. then?

Well, I probably wouldn't beat the hell out of them, or feel compelled to, but I would prefer it if they didn't.

[foxyluva]

My two cents:

I think it is not a big deal to say 'that is so gay' once in a while, but when it is said all the time, it can be extremely offensive. I had a go at my brother and his friends for this very thing not two weeks ago....

[Johnny Stew]

Originally Posted by foxyluva

I think it is not a big deal to say 'that is so gay' once in a while, but when it is said all the time, it can be extremely offensive. I had a go at my brother and his friends for this very thing not two weeks ago....

My brother will sometimes jokingly call me "Pillow Biter," which I think is hysterical. But then I know my brother and I know that it's not being said with malice.
If someone else called me that, I'd rip them a new asshole. Depending on the context, of course.

Hell, I laid into the new employee we had last year at the library, when she went to hand a patron the People magazine with Lance Bass on the cover and loudly scoffed that homosexuality is "all in their heads"

[foxyluva]

Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

My brother will sometimes jokingly call me "Pillow Biter," which I think is hysterical. But then I know my brother and I know that it's not being said with malice.
If someone else called me that, I'd rip them a new asshole. Depending on the context, of course.

Definately. I can take a joke - but often my brother's conversations with his friends revolve around everything gay. Its extremely annoying, and one of them is shocking at doing it - but I have a sneaking suspision that he is a fag himself, which would explain alot...

[estranged4life]

Hell, I've been called a 'half-breed' in this hellhole town by some Indians who are full-blooded because I am a Cherokee/Irish mix - and you know what my response to that is? "Whoopdie-effing-doo" (Make a circular motion in the air).

Yeah, I use the word "'tarded" (ie-F**ktard, Relig-a-tard, polit-a-tard), big deal - I do have enough common sense & respect/pride to NEVER use that word towards a person who has a mental disability.

"Words don't cause harm - it is the intent behind the words"-George Carlin

[michelle2677]

I feel like the rosie thread just got revived.

[amber]

Originally Posted by markolas

Honestly, I've never actually heard anyone say it. But I don't hang out with 16-year olds, so... I was vaguely aware that it's a popular thing for kids to say, but yes, I think it's a slur.

Kids?! I been saying that since 6th grade. Well, you're only 5'6", right? Don't exercise much? I'll take my chances.
I don't like being told what not to say when I'm not prejudiced. You do know that gay meant "happy", and still does, before it was co-opted? And come to think of it, how is it a slur if it means happy and carefree? It's not like...uh...WOP or SPIC or CHINK, none of which mean good things.