The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by Amlyn

Hey Dani,

Sorry to hear about this. I have been through many of my own issues with my mother, but never something of this magnitude, so I don't know what to tell you other than keep your chin up and hopefully the situation will work itself out.

I've done a lot of reflecting on my parents in recent years and I realize they are human and make mistakes, but I also know that there comes a point in time where they need to not use their children as their crutch to explain every bad choice they made and take some accountability and own up to their missteps. Hopefully your mom will catch a glimpse of reality and realize that she's not gaining anything but a guaranteed estrangement from one of the only two people she should have an unconditional loving relationship with. I know her dropping this won't give her that relationship, but still you probaby can see what I'm saying.

Now, having said that, given that your mother is accusing you of things in the past, weren't you a minor and under her guidance and so she's ultimately the one to hold responsible? Not sure that will hold up in court, but the minor angle has to work in some capacity there.

Thanks so much for this post Amy. I completely agree with all of this, and although I'm at a healthy emotional place with my mom after years of struggling with it, this still came as a huge upset. I don't really know how to deal with it, but I just want to avoid court if at all possible.

I agree with everyone else -- she probably can't do all that much in court. I just really don't want that added stress on my sister and father. I'm going to call her tomorrow and figure it out...