male and female identities

[Phoenix]

Originally Posted by michelle2677

i had a conversation with my grandmother and it really bothered me. My aunt recently left her husband and since then she's a new person. She wears bright clothing, where before she stayed as plain as she could, not to be noticed. She goes out, talks, socializes, and is full of life, where before, something was holding her back. I'm pretty sure the relationship was abusive, and on top of it, he expected the dinner on the table when he got home and her to cook/clean. I was almost jumping out of my seat for joy. Just at how she did it. (I'm not close to her btw...) she was held down for so long and she crawled out of that relationship, a much stronger person. i told my grandmother i enjoyed it because she wasn't being held down. My grandmother explained how some women LIKE to be held down. some women want men to explain to them how they want it done and tell them when to speak, what to wear, how to act. I can only imagine my grandmother was speaking from experience because i think she needs that affirmation from my grandfather. her job is to be his wife. that is all. to socialize, prepare parties...but other than that, she has no identity and it really makes me sad. i dont' think i could ever be like that. There's nothing wrong with it, it's just hard for me to understand...being the way i am.
omg I'm sorry so long jesus.

Reason for Editing: I was told that I had taken up alot of space.

This was really interesting, I especially like that difference between you and your grandmother, it helps to show that things really are moving in a more forward thinking motion. Even within the short time of these couple of different generations.
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