Suicide And Morality

[jannieC]

Originally Posted by APerfectLie

Honestly, I don't think suicide is "wrong" and I would never judge someone who did it. I don't think people should ever choose suicide, but not because it is wrong, but because there are people out there who care about them, or who will care about them, because sometimes you don't even know that person yet. I feel as a society, we try to label suicide as being wrong, selfish, an unforgivable sin, and what not only to make people who feel suicidal fear committing the act, rather than actually reaching out to people and loving them and making it to where they don't have to contemplate that path in the first place. We try to put the blame on the person who commits the act and label ourselves as the victim, rather than looking at the fact that we may have failed that person. I'm a senior at UT and I am an math major in the actuarial science program. There are 50,000 students there and only 200 of us in actuarial science, so it is a relatively small program, but amongst all 50000 students, it is very easy to feel secluded and alone. Last semester a sophomore shot himself on campus. He also was in actuarial science. I never knew the kid, nor did I have any classes with him, but I still wonder to this day, what if I did? What if I would have befriended this kid? Perhaps he would still be here today. I don't blame him for what he did, I just wish I could have helped. Rescue is possible.

No one is responsible for another person's life. I am a therapist who lost a niece to suicide. Certainly I should have been able to see the signs, right? Truth is, the people who want to die, die. I believe there are two types of suiciders. Chronically depressed people who just can't take the pain any longer and impulsive reactive people who do it in a fit of pain. Beyond that, you have folks who have personality disorders and make numerous attempts. Unfortunately, a "cry for help" can end up in a tragic end.

I really could go on and on here, but the bottom line is that this thread is making some people scared and nervous for someone who is in pain and feeling suicidal. If anyone has Bee's number, reach out to her.