I am so sad right now....

GypsySorcerer · #1 12-19-2004, 12:40 AM

On another message board I visit, one of our posters just lost her husband to cancer. I have never met them, but she posted on his condition frequently. He'd been sick for awhile, and they both fought so hard.

She'd write about the time they were spending together and they had such a deep love for each other and it was so apparent. They really had a beautiful love story....

I just wish there was a cure for this horrific disease. I know Brian and Debbie have been through so much too. I just wish there was something I could do.

amber · #2 12-19-2004, 12:57 AM

I'm very sorry you are sad.

sara1998 · #3 12-19-2004, 01:13 AM

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Originally Posted by GypsySorcerer

On another message board I visit, one of our posters just lost her husband to cancer. I have never met them, but she posted on his condition frequently. He'd been sick for awhile, and they both fought so hard.

She'd write about the time they were spending together and they had such a deep love for each other and it was so apparent. They really had a beautiful love story....

I just wish there was a cure for this horrific disease. I know Brian and Debbie have been through so much too. I just wish there was something I could do.

Bless her heart. I will pray for her... she's got a long road ahead of her....

estranged4life · #4 12-19-2004, 01:17 AM

That is sad...My heart goes out to this person considering how close I was to possibly losing Debbie last January

Brian j.

GateandGarden · #5 12-19-2004, 09:09 AM

My heart goes out to her. I have no conept of what it's like to lose someone that close to me.

Hillary

GypsySorcerer · #6 12-19-2004, 11:43 AM

Thanks everyone for your kind words and thoughts. He was still fairly young -- no older than mid 50s. They had one son, and he just got married a year ago, so fortunately, he was able to see his son get married.

I'm pretty sure our board will do something collectively for her. Flowers, a donation, something...

wondergirl9847 · #7 12-19-2004, 02:26 PM

We lost a member last year and also this year from cancer on my fave Justin Guarini board.

Perhaps, some cancer foundation can be next year's charity we donate to. Not only has it affected Brian and Debbie's life, but I'm sure we all know someone who's been affected by it.

My grandmother had breast cancer and a mastectomy.

SuzeQuze · #8 12-20-2004, 12:20 PM

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We lost a member last year and also this year from cancer on my fave Justin Guarini board.

Perhaps, some cancer foundation can be next year's charity we donate to. Not only has it affected Brian and Debbie's life, but I'm sure we all know someone who's been affected by it.

My grandmother had breast cancer and a mastectomy.

My Mom had it too, she had her mastectomy last spring. I'm sorry for everyone who is hurt by this disease.

gldstwmn · #9 12-20-2004, 03:30 PM

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He was still fairly young -- no older than mid 50s.

My father and brother both died at the age of 55 from cancer. My father's death was bad enough because I was only eight but the loss of my first sibling in my adult life through this cruel disease nearly drove me to a nervous breakdown. I know this sounds weird but the only comfort from that was that he died on the same day as my mother, 11 years later. They say someone comes for you at that time and I am convinced she did.
I am terribly sorry for your freind. There is not a whole lot you can do for them except be there for them and support them through the whole up and down grieving cycle.
It also serves to make you remember to try and be happy every day no matter what little b.s. is going on. We're not going to be here forever so in the grand scheme of things some of our problems can seem pretty small.
Hopefully we will find a cure one day. I really think a lot of it is genetic predispostion.
Once again, I am sorry.

GypsySorcerer · #10 12-20-2004, 03:35 PM

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My father and brother both died at the age of 55 from cancer. My father's death was bad enough because I was only eight but the loss of my first sibling in my adult life through this cruel disease nearly drove me to a nervous breakdown. I know this sounds weird but the only comfort from that was that he died on the same day as my mother, 11 years later. They say someone comes for you at that time and I am convinced she did.
I am terribly sorry for your freind. There is not a whole lot you can do for them except be there for them and support them through the whole up and down grieving cycle.
It also serves to make you remember to try and be happy every day no matter what little b.s. is going on. We're not going to be here forever so in the grand scheme of things some of our problems can seem pretty small.
Hopefully we will find a cure one day. I really think a lot of it is genetically predispostion.
Once again, I am sorry.

I'm sorry about your brother and father. I can't even imagine what it's like to lose two people so close to you at such an early age.

Also, Christy and Suze, I'm sorry your relatives have suffered from this horrible disease as well.

I think a lot of it is predisposition too.

Villavic · #11 12-20-2004, 03:40 PM

When I read this post I immediately thought in Toni. She was so kind few years ago, when she sent me some tapes from the Reunion Tour. She also sent me the NYC video that I assisted.

It was so sad when months later I started to ask about her (since she wasn't posting anymore) and learned she had passed away. She was so kind with me and we didn't even met or talked by phone. That was a ledgie friend.

SuzeQuze · #12 12-20-2004, 04:34 PM

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I'm sorry about your brother and father. I can't even imagine what it's like to lose two people so close to you at such an early age.

Also, Christy and Suze, I'm sorry your relatives have suffered from this horrible disease as well.

I think a lot of it is predisposition too.

Thank you, a lot is predisposition. I get to start mammograms at 35, yay! I mean, bleck. What a sadistic contraption. My mom had to have a few and once had to have one while they stuck a long needle in her so they could see where they were going and she just about passed out from the pain. My poor mom. She was unfortunate to lose her breast, she handled it all very well though. She was, however, fortunate in that she did not need chemo or radiation. I was so glad for that because I don't know how she would have gotten through it.

She had the type of surgery where they move some abdominal tissue up to the breast area to reconstruct it. They move your abs up to maintain the blood flow to the new breast. It is so futuristic! She said if she had to do it over she would have just opted for the implant because it feels so strange to her (her new stomach).

She had put off going to the doctor and it had almost been 2 years. But her cousin died at 44 and it scared the hell out of her so she went to get her mammogram and they found the cancer. It freaked us all out pretty well. Thank God she is okay, she is only 50!

gldstwmn · #13 12-20-2004, 06:56 PM

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Thank you, a lot is predisposition. I get to start mammograms at 35, yay! I mean, bleck. What a sadistic contraption.

It's not that bad. They try to do it quickly and get it over with. The needle thing is a biopsy where they check to see if it's benign on malignant, I think.

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She had the type of surgery where they move some abdominal tissue up to the breast area to reconstruct it. They move your abs up to maintain the blood flow to the new breast.

Now that I could live with.

I'm glad your mother is okay. My mother had a radical mastectomy in 1970 and never had another recurrence in her lifetime. I know a lot of other women who had it and have made it through just fine. The early detection really helps.