The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[Silver Springs]

Originally Posted by mezzoforte

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

I'm sorry for your loss. I can relate to certain situations you talk about and understand how hard it must be for you. If you ever feel like talking to a dumb child or just venting, I'm only a PM away *hugs*

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by skcin

Gotcha. Ramp up the cardio to get rid of belly fat. You may want to decrease your daily carbs & increase the protien. I do not mean a low or no carb diet; just make sure you're getting plenty of protien & make sure all your carbs are worth it. Sugar, alcohol, white bread & pasta = doughy.

Crunches & ab work are fine, but you won't really see results til you get rid of the flab.

Yeah, good plan. I'll up the cardio. In terms of diet, that's pretty much what I'm doing but I need to be stricter about it.

[daniellaaarisen]

Originally Posted by mezzoforte

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

I'm sorry. A similar thing happened to my best friend's dad-- he dropped dead at 50 without any notice. I hope your grandma is able to process it in the best way possible.

[LikeAWillow]

Originally Posted by mezzoforte

This morning as I was getting ready for class I got a call from my mother. Her brother died. Totally unexpected--he was only 45 or 46. It looks like maybe his heart just gave out--he's been a big drinker and pot smoker sine he was twelve, so I guess his body just had it. I guess he didn't have very consistent relationships in his life because it sounds like it took weeks for anyone to notice they hadn't heard from him in a while. The last time anyone heard from him was the end of March. God that part creeps me out.

And I feel so wretched for my grandparents. They've done a lot to clean themselves up since then--my Grandma has been sober over 20 years--but they were absent alcoholic parents. And as much as I'll try to tell my grandmother that it wasn't her fault, I know she'll feel guilty about this for the rest of her life (and honestly, she won't be totally wrong). He was an incredibly smart, charismatic, beautiful kid and he just sort of threw his life away--he never held a job, my parents have been supporting him for years. And it's just so horrible that it had to end like this. Everyone always hoped he would somehow turn it around.

I'm really sorry, Grace. If you need an ear, I'm here.

[BTFLCHLD]

Originally Posted by skcin

Is that for real? There were that many people on here at once?

yes, and they were all viewing the nicks forum.

[ButterCookie]

Grace, I'm so sorry to hear about your loss I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts.

[Enchanted_Stevi]

JTIS that I'm thinking asbout getting a tattoo....INPUT...

Lower right side of my back saying "Dreams Unwind" in pretty cursive with a dove coming off of it onto my side?!?!?

[vivfox]

Grace, I'm sorry to hear about the loss of your Uncle. My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow.

[DefDumbandBlond]

JTIS I was watching a tv series called Wiseguy, the episodes with Debbie Harry in it specifically and I don't know why as many times as I've watched them before I didn't notice Mick was in one of the episodes.

[mezzoforte]

Thanks everyone--it's definitely appreciated. I'm actually doing fine with it; more concerned for my mum and grandmother than anything else.
It doesn't help that this has reignited a decades-long pissing war between my grandparents. They had a messy divorce 40 years ago and, not content to let sleeping dogs lie, they spent decades suing each other and refusing to inhabit the same room. Grandma is now refusing to attend any service he is at.
She has valid reasons for her anger and I wouldn't expect her to be rational right now, but it seems a shame that both of his parents won't be at the funeral.

Such an incredible waste for anyone to nurse an anger for decades. What does that accomplish? She's spent most of her life actively hating the father of her two children.

[jannieC]

Originally Posted by skcin

Ramp up the cardio to get rid of belly fat.

What is a good cardio workout, time wise? I have just started back in the gym and I get on the elliptical for 25 minutes. I try to average about a level 6-8. Every now and then I throw in a 12 for one minute. I'm not noticing any changes, though i did just start back and I haven't altered my eating habits AT ALL (yet).

Originally Posted by mezzoforte

Such an incredible waste for anyone to nurse an anger for decades. What does that accomplish? She's spent most of her life actively hating the father of her two children.

That is so awful. You sound like you have a lot of insight and are breaking a cycle of anger and dysfunction. You are in my thoughts as well.

[Meowi]

Sorry to hear about your Uncle, Grace.
An Viv as much as I like the new sig, it makes me a little sad. We need her back!

[SapphireSister]

Originally Posted by holidayroad

Good luck with your new job!! Congratulations!

Why thank you very much!

[louielouie2000]

Originally Posted by SapphireSister

Why thank you very much!

So how was your first day?

[skcin]

Originally Posted by jannieC

What is a good cardio workout, time wise? I have just started back in the gym and I get on the elliptical for 25 minutes. I try to average about a level 6-8. Every now and then I throw in a 12 for one minute. I'm not noticing any changes, though i did just start back and I haven't altered my eating habits AT ALL (yet).

It's whatever you'll actually do. I personally need at least 45 minutes on the eliptical 4-5 days a week if I'm trying to get back into shape; 30 min 4-5 days a week to maintain. Work yourself up though - you just started back!