Childfree

[kak125]

Originally Posted by Sleepless-Child

Thank you. . Some humanity here.



I have nothing against the fact that you, for example, don't want children. But tell me the only reason isn't that "you don't like kids". Just tell me that and i'll calm down .

lets see i am selfish and i like my free time and i also dont want to bring a kid into this awful world. there is so many bad things going on these days that it would be too much stress in my life to constantly worry about them. i am such a worrier that i have to have my life as stress free as possible if that makes any sense. i would worry about bullying and then worrying about them doing well in school and college tuition etc. its just too much for me and i dont want to bother with that stuff. i honestly am not a kid person either. i like my nieces but and my friends little boy but thats about it. most other kids seem to be so bad and their parents let them do whatever they want and it drives me nuts.
i am a huge animal lover though

[jannieC]

I'm not sure what difference why someone doesn't want kids makes. Some people really are repelled by kids; everyone has their own reasons. What difference does it make?

Also want to add that I never bring my toddler into other people's homes. Nor do I bring her to most restaurants. I am trying to work on her "out in public" skills and don't want to ruin anyone else's dinner with her toddler-ness.

My director had a cook out last summer and I mistakenly brought Laney. Most people were inside because it was unbearably hot; I spent the entire evening stooped over, chasing after the child. My director has traveled the world and her house was filled with priceless artifacts. I thought I would DIE.

[KarmaContestant]

Originally Posted by Sleepless-Child

I'm shocked by some comments here.
There's NOTHING more stupid than talking about kids in general.
Keep in mind that having a child and liking kids is a total different thing.
I don't know how to make myself clear so i hope someone who can write properly in english will come and save this thread from stupidity.

I'm sorry, but i had to say it.

Originally Posted by Fleetwoodmark

I totally agree and have tried, see my previous posts.

Life is a journey; a lesson if you will, where each person has the wonderful opportunity to experience the various things our world has to offer. For some people, children enhance that experience. For others, children interfere with that experience (although one can always make the argument that people without kids don't know what they are missing - but that works both ways as well).

I'd agree it's odd when someone says "I don't like children." but I think this statement is spoken out of context. I'd venture that most people who say they don't like kids really mean to say that they don't have the desire to raise children of their own. It's a mistake I've made, too. A true dislike for kids is, in the end, kind of creepy.

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by jannieC

Also want to add that I never bring my toddler into other people's homes. Nor do I bring her to most restaurants. I am trying to work on her "out in public" skills and don't want to ruin anyone else's dinner with her toddler-ness.

If only more people were like you! My biggest peeve, is the people who let their kids scream repeatedly, at the top of their lungs, in a store or restaurant.

[Sleepless-Child]

Originally Posted by KarmaContestant

Life is a journey; a lesson if you will, where each person has the wonderful opportunity to experience the various things our world has to offer. For some people, children enhance that experience. For others, children interfere with that experience (although one can always make the argument that people without kids don't know what they are missing - but that works both ways as well).

I'd agree it's odd when someone says "I don't like children." but I think this statement is spoken out of context. I'd venture that most people who say they don't like kids really mean to say that they don't have the desire to raise children of thier own. It's a mistake I've made, too. A true dislike for kids is, in the end, kind of creepy.

And that's "BINGO!!" too.

[Sleepless-Child]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

BINGO!!!!
People, stop being so fukcing sensitive. We're only saying how we feel. If you don't like it, don't read this thread.

Maybe we should start two new threads. One for religion, and one for abortion....
Now THOSE would be fun!!!
Because I get the feeling, that 85% of us, are probably agnostic/atheist, and pro-abortion.
So the other 15%, can just freak the fukc out, over our opinions!
Fun, fun, fun!

Yeah, cause a thread about religion with atheits only would be totally interesting. Let's just laugh at people who don't think like you. Is that being open-minded ?

Anyway, i'm not sensitive on that subject at all, i just don't like stupidity. And call it whatever you want, but i think that saying "i don't like kids" is freaking stupid.

[bluefox4000]

Wow the sensitivity. It's a thread for people who don't want kids. We're not saying boil children

just....wow

Mick

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by Sleepless-Child

Yeah, cause a thread about religion with atheits only would be totally interesting. Let's just laugh at people who don't think like you. Is that being open-minded ?

Anyway, i'm not sensitive on that subject at all, i just don't like stupidity. And call it whatever you want, but i think that saying "i don't like kids" is freaking stupid.

I don't like badly behaved kids.

Opinions....hmm, they're like what?

[Sleepless-Child]

Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I don't like badly behaved kids.

Opinions....hmm, they're like what?

Me neither . But that's a completely different thing.
I'm moving on, since what i say seems more funny than relevant/interesting.

[markolas]

I haven't abandoned the thread...my laptop is on the fritz.

In the grocery store, I regularly hear the high-pitched shrieks of some kid...now, I may not mind it so much if the kid's mother (it's usually the mother) didn't completely ignore it. My own parents would not have tolerated that from me at all.

But kids in grocery stores, department stores, "family-style" restaurants, etc., don't bother me. It's when people bring their kids into places where the kids have no business being - clearly adult restaurants (The Melting Pot, e.g.), bookstores (not all kids, but ones under 5 years old, certainly), coffee shops, bars, etc. It reminds me of this phenomenon of bringing your dog everywhere you go. Dogs don't belong in a restaurant or Lowe's (service dogs, yes, but I've seen people bring their shih tzus in there - there's no way that's a service dog). And I would never dream of bringing a pet to someone's house when I go visit, yet some people think nothing of that, either.

[Silver Springs]

I don't understand how in one breath somebody could be advocating the right to free speach and erring of thoughts, yet in the next dismissing somebody's beliefs as distasteful and - to put it bluntly- wrong. Yes. I don't like children. That to me isn't distasteful. Especially considering my desire not to have them. It's an admittance that, while my childhood was less than favourable, I'd rather not be the kind of parent who inflicted that kind of childhood. Surely it's more distasteful to realise how selfish and self oriented you are, yet still desire to have children in order to fulfil some kind of bull**** destiny other people believe you should have? Life is meant to be lived at its utmost of activity and happiness. To me, happiness does not constitute children. I have nothing against anybody who would love nothing more than to be a parent. They're just wired that way and they have the love and time to give. Not everybody is designed to nurture.

[ButterCookie]

Originally Posted by markolas

Dogs don't belong in a restaurant or Lowe's (service dogs, yes, but I've seen people bring their shih tzus in there - there's no way that's a service dog). And I would never dream of bringing a pet to someone's house when I go visit, yet some people think nothing of that, either.

Hey, my Shih Tzu serves me very well as a foot warmer

[markolas]

The reason I don't want kids doesn't have anything to do with money. It has to do with the fact that I don't want the responsibility (I only water the houseplants when they start looking a little droopy; at least CPS won't come after me if I let them wilt). And no, I don't especially like children. I'm not mean to them, I just don't pay particular attention to them if they happen to be around (which isn't often - nearly all of my friends have historically been other gay men and my bf's siblings don't have kids - I don't know anyone who has children).

As for "the point of being here"....that really is a discussion for another thread, but I don't think it has anything to do with "leaving things/children behind."

[jannieC]

I still can't figure out what's so awful about someone not liking children. It doesn't make someone a serial killer!

[Silver Springs]

Originally Posted by jannieC

I still can't figure out what's so awful about someone not liking children. It doesn't make someone a serial killer!

Exactly. I don't like severely right wing people. Yet that doesn't mean I'm going to go out there and kill them. There's a difference between dislike and bloodlust.