The Just Thought I'd Share Thread

[Zombie]

Originally Posted by iamnotafraid

It must have taken place.
It stopped the baby eating
contest.

Wait. It got cancelled? *puts away drumstick* Well, now I feel sheepish.

Originally Posted by holidayroad

Maybe you should call the police on your dad. He sounds somewhat out of control. Sorry this happened.

This. Hitting = no. Just no. In my experience, it never gets better - only worse. Calling the cops on something like that is easier said than done, but hitting = no.

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Update On House Drama Llama

Today's mantra: "I might still be coming out of my mother upside down, but I'm also still okay when everything is not okay."



Instance #7542 of Miss T helping me through a rough patch, and probably Instance #971 of "Upside Down" in particular being helpful.

Anyhoodle - so yesterday was my "Get Out or Else" date according to the latest note tacked on the door by the landlord. The new apartment I am hoping to get is on its last leg of verification before it gets to the approval folks, so hopefully that will happen soon, but in the meantime, I decided I'm am going to stand up to the guy & we're not going anywhere without another proper place to live without a court order.

This decision was made in large part due to the support and suggestions from you guys. So here is what I did:

1.) Spoke to the lawyer I spoke to before to make sure I had the Missouri Landlord/Tenant statute about eviction proceedings correct (it's 441.223).

2.) Trotted my ass down to the police station to talk to an officer about my concerns that he or his son might pull some sh*t and what I should do if sh*t should be pulled.

This was an interesting conversation - I already knew that the City Hall people are well aware of my landlord, because when I went in to get my occupancy permit, I'd mentioned some of the shenanigans he was pulling about getting the inspection done, and the lady said, "Oh, your landlord is Landlord's Name? Yeah, he does stuff like that."

But lo and behold, the cops are already aware of him, too. I explained the situation to the officer and told him I know evictions are a civil issue and that the Sheriff's office is the one that actually handles dragging people out, and that there's no court order, so I don't have to leave, but my landlord is crazy, so I wanted to make sure that if something were to happen, I could call the cops and they would come help. He looked up my address and then came back and said, "Who's your landlord again?" and I said his name, and the cop said, "Ah yes...he's a little...different." I asked if that was a polite way of saying "crazy," and the cop laughed and nodded, and then proceeded to give me a card with the number for dispatch, and then made a note to do extra drive-bys of the house for duration for me, and also made a note for the dispatchers so they'd already have a heads up if I called.

Another interesting thing to come out of that conversation was when the cop looked at my address, he said, "Hey, we were just at the house next door this morning. Same landlord." I don't think it's anything due to the landlord, and the cop wouldn't tell me, but still interesting. It's really likely to do with drugs, because they just moved in but already have a serious case of Crackhead Blinds Syndrome in all of the windows and people coming & going at all hours, with tons of different cars, and a lot of cabs from different areas of the County & City. Also Halloween weekend, they had a huge loud party, and I woke up to a floor lamp and toilet seat in the yard. Not the lid, but the actual seat part. Good times, good times.

3.) Sent the kids over to my parents for a bit - the note said to be out by 4:45 PM, so I was expecting douchecanoe to show up at 4:45 on the nose to flip a grip, but...nope. Didn't show up. Hasn't shown up today yet, either. I am sure he'll be by, at some point, though, so I have all the doors double-locked and my "Do you have a court order? No? Well, here's a copy of the Missouri eviction laws so you can look over how it's done. I'll be sending your money registered mail and we'll be out of here pretty soon, too, but if you want us out of here before then, you're going to need to go through the proper channels. Thanks!" speech all prepared.

I am still incredibly uncomfortable with staying here and I want to be out as soon as possible, because even if the cops will be helpful, I'd rather not be in that position to begin with. And I am really reluctant to actually leave the house and go anywhere in case I come back to something awful. But this will do for now, and I am actively trying to relax and keep from having panic time.

Thanks for the support, everyone. And I mean that more than I can express properly. I will keep you updated.