A Little Bit of Relationship-ial Venting~

[chriskisn]

Its worth remembering though that Ethan is 18 if I am right? Most of the people posting here have been there. Its somewhere between a teenager and an adult. Its easy to forget what it was like.

Oh and Ethan, everyone mentions that you are such a snazzy dresser. Thats kind of like saying "so you're gay right?". I hate to say it but most straight men don't dress to impress.

[Musicman408]

Originally Posted by chriskisn

Its worth remembering though that Ethan is 18 if I am right? Most of the people posting here have been there. Its somewhere between a teenager and an adult. Its easy to forget what it was like.

Oh and Ethan, everyone mentions that you are such a snazzy dresser. Thats kind of like saying "so you're gay right?". I hate to say it but most straight men don't dress to impress.

I'm a music major, so when giving performances and whatnot, I have to be dressed nicely.

As for the original post and my posting patterns or whatever. Sometimes I post just to get the thoughts out of my head. It's kind of like a stream of thought kind of thing. I have talked to friends about related issues, and maintain many close friendships. Sometimes I do think that in the message board world, I am a bit more verbose and hyper than I am in real life, and I do apologize for this. I have made an effort over the past year or so to turn it down a bit. It's still a work in progress.

But the thing with the girl is just kind of frustrating. I am so ready for someone to care about me in that way and want to chase me..... After 18 years of chasing, I am kind of tired.

[gold_dust]

I'm not in the same boat, but it's similar.

My boyfriend works with a guy and they're very close. Anyway, after weeks of such high praise I was actually excited to meet this guy. I was really looking forward to meeting him. At first he was very 'agreeable'. He liked all the same music as me, read all the same stuff as me (and considering some of it is a bit specialist, it was a surprise - groupie books!). No less than two days later he wants to see us again, and this time it was a bit more personal (he was told his father was dying). I was very uncomfortable going, but for the sake of my boyfriend and out of kindess, I went. Again he was pleasant.

Then suddenly, as if a switch had been flipped, he ignores me. Only me. If he sees me, instead of saying, 'Hey, I saw you the other day', he'll facebook my boyfriend and say, 'Oh, I saw .... the other day'. He won't talk to me like before, trying to converse with him is like trying to draw blood from a stone. And he'll be very happy and flirty with every other girl, but not me. I'm not interested in him romantically, obviously, but I was expecting him to treat me the same as every other girl. And it's not like I'm someone else's girlfriend is a good enough excuse. Plenty of his other close friends are in the same situation, yet he's fine with them. He didn't even wish me happy birthday, which I think is rude, considering that my boyfriend will know about it.

What bothers me more than anything is that he doesn't want to even try and act polite to me, if only for the sake of my boyfriend. He works with him 6 days a week! I mean, it's almost like he couldn't act any more disinterested around me if he tried. So, why is it me he's seemed to single me out and ignore me? It actually makes me not want to be his friend, which is a shame, because my boyfriend gets along with him so well.

Edit: Just want to point out that neither my boyfriend nor his work mate are gay.

[GoldDustOrphan]

I'll tell you why - he's into your boyfriend.

[gold_dust]

Originally Posted by GoldDustOrphan

I'll tell you why - he's into your boyfriend.

Lol. Well, that one would be awkward

[GoldDustOrphan]

I'm serious.

You'd better get your Nancy Drew on, pronto.

This is what you'll need: A digital camera, plastic evidence bags, measuring tape, scissors, a flashlight, cast and mold kit, finger-print kit, field drug test kit, a reasonable disguise, and of course, a fake badge.

Don't listen to what anyone else says - "It's all fair in love & war" trumps all "good" advice, such as "ask him directly if there's a been a problem." That's for pussies, and only gives him (who should only be referred to as "the enemy") a chance to lie, distract or confuse.

[chriskisn]

Originally Posted by Musicman408

I'm a music major, so when giving performances and whatnot, I have to be dressed nicely.

Really? Have you seen pictures of the Sex Pistols (etc) recently?

Just don't dress too nicely when you aren't giving performances. I don't mean look like a homeless guy, just don't look too snazzy. Funny but you'd be surprised how many times girls just assume men are gay when they aren't.

As for not wanting to chase after 18 years, you are in for a surprise... thats not going to change. I'm 34, have been with my wife for 10 years and still chasing (her of course!).

[GODDESS6]

Originally Posted by GoldDustOrphan

My advice: touch her boobs.
Girls like that.

that is the funniest thing i heard all week~

[Musicman408]

Originally Posted by chriskisn

Really? Have you seen pictures of the Sex Pistols (etc) recently?

Just don't dress too nicely when you aren't giving performances. I don't mean look like a homeless guy, just don't look too snazzy. Funny but you'd be surprised how many times girls just assume men are gay when they aren't.

As for not wanting to chase after 18 years, you are in for a surprise... thats not going to change. I'm 34, have been with my wife for 10 years and still chasing (her of course!).

This is true about the attire, and I definitely see what your saying.

As for the chasing, what I meant was that I was just ready for someone to share the feelings that I have for them, so that way it's kind of a reciprocal thing. I wouldn't mind chasing if I knew the other person was into me too. That would be fun, but is something that I have never known.

[skcin]

Originally Posted by Musicman408

As for the original post and my posting patterns or whatever. Sometimes I post just to get the thoughts out of my head. It's kind of like a stream of thought kind of thing. I have talked to friends about related issues, and maintain many close friendships. Sometimes I do think that in the message board world, I am a bit more verbose and hyper than I am in real life, and I do apologize for this. I have made an effort over the past year or so to turn it down a bit. It's still a work in progress.

But the thing with the girl is just kind of frustrating. I am so ready for someone to care about me in that way and want to chase me..... After 18 years of chasing, I am kind of tired.

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