Suggestions/Advice on How To Be A Little More Social/Personable With A Little Someone

Musicman408 · #1 11-11-2007, 08:55 AM

Now, I know this is going to sound rediculous people, as crazy of a talker as I am on here, but there are times when I am at school with friends and people that I know and I just don't really know exactly what to say to start conversation and whatever. This is Especially true when I am around one of my many attractive female friends. The ones that I may want to have more with.

I was just wondering if any of you all had any ideas on how to just be a little more social. You know, I'm always asking question like "how are you doing", "how was your weekend" and all of that good stuff but with a lot of them, I feel like I just can't be completely loose and I was wondering if any of you all had any suggestions on how to be a little more conversational. That's my biggest problem actually and I really wish I knew how to get better at it.

Thanks for reading, and hopefully I'll be hearing from some of you people out there.

I appreciate it so much.

Much Love

**mylittledemon** · #2 11-11-2007, 08:58 AM

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Originally Posted by Musicman408

Now, I know this is going to sound rediculous people, as crazy of a talker as I am on here, but there are times when I am at school with friends and people that I know and I just don't really know exactly what to say to start conversation and whatever. This is Especially true when I am around one of my many attractive female friends. The ones that I may want to have more with.

I was just wondering if any of you all had any ideas on how to just be a little more social. You know, I'm always asking question like "how are you doing", "how was your weekend" and all of that good stuff but with a lot of them, I feel like I just can't be completely loose and I was wondering if any of you all had any suggestions on how to be a little more conversational. That's my biggest problem actually and I really wish I knew how to get better at it.

Thanks for reading, and hopefully I'll be hearing from some of you people out there.

I appreciate it so much.

Much Love

Listen to people. Make them feel better about themselves.

Musicman408 · #3 11-11-2007, 09:05 AM

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Listen to people. Make them feel better about themselves.

Well I do most definately. I'm always complimenting people and stuff and sometimes I feel like maybe I kind of annoy them. Maybe I'm completely off base with thinging that though.

danax6 · #4 11-11-2007, 09:11 AM

Quit trying so hard.

GODDESS6 · #5 11-11-2007, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by danax6

Quit trying so hard.

ditto, it's obvious~

David · #6 11-11-2007, 11:44 AM

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Listen to people.

Yes I agree with demon. Listen to people. Ethan sometimes gives me the impression that, while he solicits responses from other people on the forum, he doesn't really listen to them; he seems to glide right past, whether it's from impatience or boredom or something else.

The people you're talking to (or trying to talk to) generally have a keen feel for whether you're paying genuine attention or whether you're just phoning in or even yanking their chain.

Musicman408 · #7 11-11-2007, 07:54 PM

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Originally Posted by David

Yes I agree with demon. Listen to people. Ethan sometimes gives me the impression that, while he solicits responses from other people on the forum, he doesn't really listen to them; he seems to glide right past, whether it's from impatience or boredom or something else.

The people you're talking to (or trying to talk to) generally have a keen feel for whether you're paying genuine attention or whether you're just phoning in or even yanking their chain.

Well in face to face convos, I promise, I am a good listener. I remember EVERYTHING.

Chrislit18 · #8 11-11-2007, 08:15 PM

compliments are amazing

give a girl a compliment, and shell love you forever

-well, a friend love at least.

Musicman408 · #9 11-11-2007, 08:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Chrislit18

compliments are amazing

give a girl a compliment, and shell love you forever

-well, a friend love at least.

Yeah, well I'm tired of being only the friend.

Chrislit18 · #10 11-11-2007, 08:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Musicman408

Yeah, well I'm tired of being only the friend.

youre not the only one

But still, girls always love compliments.

and even guys do, if you want guy friends, just be like 'your shoes kick major arse, are those [insert brand name popular where you live]?' and that makes for a conversation as well.

My friend Adam tries to be ghetto, so we talk about his Ghetto shoes, that was a twenty minute conversation in itself. haha.