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View Poll Results: How long before you put out?
First date if I'm attracted! 15 38.46%
Usually the second date... 4 10.26%
Maybe 3rd or 4th date. 6 15.38%
I wait a week at least. 3 7.69%
A Month or longer. 11 28.21%
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Old 03-16-2007, 10:15 PM
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Why? I'm not a monk...


I was under the inpression that sex in most forms of buddhism is supposed to be between two people who 'love' or deeply care for each other - how can you love or deeply care for someone two dates in?
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Old 03-16-2007, 10:31 PM
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I was under the inpression that sex in most forms of buddhism is supposed to be between two people who 'love' or deeply care for each other - how can you love or deeply care for someone two dates in?
I think that's interpretation rather than actual Buddhist teaching. Which is fine. But I think, and Nichiren Shonin especially taught, that rather than trying to rigidly follow a code of moral conduct, a better approach is to allow the spirit of the precepts to be embodied naturally through the deepening of one's faith.

Anyway. I don't think I've ever posted this much Buddhist stuff on here. I'm sure everyone is enthralled.
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Old 03-16-2007, 10:34 PM
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I think that's interpretation rather than actual Buddhist teaching. Which is fine. But I think, and Nichiren Shonin especially taught, that rather than trying to rigidly follow a code of moral conduct, a better approach is to allow the spirit of the precepts to be embodied naturally through the deepening of one's faith.

Anyway. I don't think I've ever posted this much Buddhist stuff on here. I'm sure everyone is enthralled.
Well I'm enthralled

I see what you are saying, and I agree. I guess its just my view
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Old 03-16-2007, 10:45 PM
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Well I'm enthralled

I see what you are saying, and I agree. I guess its just my view
It's whatever you're most comfortable with. I was actually just starting to really explore this more casual attitude toward sexuality when I got into this relationship. You have to be careful, though, and make sure both people are on the same page; otherwise, things can get nasty. Moreso with women, I think.
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It really depends, but if its someone I see a real relationship potential then I wait...I'm not one to rush sex at. all.

If it someone I'm attracted to but know it's not really going to go anywhere, I have some fun...

It's all moot thought seeing as I haven't met anyone I'm even remotely attracted to in a looong time.
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Old 03-16-2007, 11:00 PM
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It really depends, but if its someone I see a real relationship potential then I wait...I'm not one to rush sex at. all.
I waited 2 years, I seen serious potential in that girl when we first met, we were together for 3 years (It ended the Spring before I met Debbie).
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I waited 2 years, I seen serious potential in that girl when we first met, we were together for 3 years (It ended the Spring before I met Debbie).
Awww...I love it when guys are willing to wait...2 years is long...personal choice, or a mix of your choice and hers? And the real question is did you wait with the woman you're now married to
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Sorry, but I keep reading this as How long before you pull out?
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Sorry, but I keep reading this as How long before you pull out?
you would.

as for myself I generally wait until the 2nd date, sometimes longer.
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Awww...I love it when guys are willing to wait...2 years is long...personal choice, or a mix of your choice and hers? And the real question is did you wait with the woman you're now married to
to wait. I have to different than other guys, just a quirk in my personality (Kinda obvious aint it?). I thought Christy was the person I would spend my life with, but we know the outcome with her don't we?

I know this may be TMI, but I made it up to Christy with a 10+ hour hump fest (I had to get up and leave for Tech School - Not a good thing to have ended ones carnal fun )

As for Deb, uh, well....She helped get me ****faced and I was all hers for the effort & takin', romantic aint it?
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as for myself I generally wait until the 2nd date, sometimes longer.
My hero.
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well Chris and I fooled around a little 2 hours after we met so...
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This is going to turn into such a TMI thread. Thank you for getting the ball rolling
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um, balls.

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