Childfree

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Originally Posted by mylittledemon

It depends on what day of the week you catch me.

Generally I think I don't want kids, ever. Maybe once or twice a month I wish I was a father. My wife says she wants kids... but no plans on having them.

I'm kind of the same way. I really wanted nothing to do with kids until my niece was born. I totally fell in love with her when her personality started emerging, though. By the time she was 1 year old she was running around finding necklaces and hairbows for you to put on her. She changed shoes like 12 times a day. She would bring you nail polish for you to paint her nails. All of this before she could even talk. I call her my little Carrie Bradshaw . Carlee is just such an amazingly cool kid. She wakes up in the morning with the biggest smile, and goes to bed with that same smile. She's just plain fun to be around (she's nearly 3 now). I really wish she were my own. On top of that, my Brother's such a piece of crap... not only does he not deserve my niece, but he's going to expose her to such terrible things... and relegate her to an awful childhood and probably an awful life. It's crossed my mind so many times the past few years that I wish it were me who'd had a child and not him (tho since I'm gay, that's not exactly possible!).

But then I sober up and realize how I'd be a terrible Dad. I'm horribly selfish. And I wouldn't want to sacrifice certain aspects of my life to have a kid. Not to mention, most small children are not as fun AND low maintenance as my niece. Add to the fact my other half absolutely does NOT want kids, so no kids will be in my future. And that's probably for the best, to be honest.