"Love Changes" ~ First TISL Single???

[JohnL]

Originally Posted by UndoingTheLaces

I always say that the Universe speaks to me through Stevie Nicks. Every time I have some sort of issue in my life, Stevie releases an album or I discover an unreleased track, or a changed lyric in a live recording that puts things into perspective for me.

When TISL came out I was just ending a really bad relationship. He was a total sociopath and knew just what to say to control me. I was moving out and setting out on my own and trying to make sense out of it all. The guy was really bad for me and damaged my self-esteem to the point that even though I knew I was doing the right thing, he made me feel like a horrible person for leaving. Every time I hear this song it gets me right down to the soul. "It wasn't that I didn't love you, I just couldn't make you see that as hard as I tried to make it all better, it was not better for me. The love that I gave you was all around you there was nothing left for me." That made me see that it was okay to leave and that I had a very good reason to. It was so empowering.

If I ever had a chance to thank Stevie for all the pieces of "advice" she's given me over the years I'd end up boring her to tears with all the stories. But somehow "thank you" wouldn't seem enough. But it is a life long dream of mine to be able to thank her someday. Oh well.

Although my situation happened a few years after TISL had been released, I can relate to every single word you just wrote here. The sociopath, control, trying to take my self esteem...so hit the target with me too. And that line from the song hit me and hit me hard along with "I only say what you wanna hear, when there is a conflict I stay clear, when he was loving I was in tears, he knows my fears". It took everything out of me to get out of that relationship and it probably took about 3 years for me to even feel like me again. Thank God I had the strength to do that. And Stevie deserves quite a bit of the credit.