My mom passed away

[Jondalar]

My mom battled renal failure for almost solid year and we finally got her into a dialysis clinic near all her kids and she hit her head and died of a subdermal hemotoma at the age of 75. We were all there (7 kids) when she took her last breath.

Happened almost 3 weeks ago. I just started a brand new job and had to take bereavement 3 days into it and had to train for this job and suck it up. My mind is not on this job. Foreclosures of all things.

I feel adrift, like I don't know what to think or do. My dad only lived to be 59. His death was strange. He was trying to fill a water tanker in a cemetary so people could water their plants on memorial day and the leg buckled and crushed him in a cemetary. Mom was a rock. We fealt cheated by my dads death and thought mom would live a lot longer. She still worked at 75 and had no plans of retiring. She had minor illnesses but nothing major until about a year ago, when her kidney's decided to just quit working.

This weekend, we had to start cleaning out the house for an appraisal. I found tons of old things that she kept. Her kids were life. She saved my class ring, my varsity jacket, tons of stuff me and my siblings made and people were like take things you want. We found her bills and letters and I think starting to clean out of the house was worse than funeral.

I think nothing prepares you for the death of your mother. I think I could of left that house and walked off the planet. I sorta realized when I left that house that our family got the short end of the stick and that there was no god.

My mom had a will and insurance but she didn't have any of her papers in one spot and we had to search the house thourougly for all her papers and we are still discovering things. I realized this weeked why all her papers weren't together. She never planned on dying. She was planning to work well into her 90s. It's amazing to me that someone who had so much life and zeal died. I'm not way, so I never understood her completely.

I'm finding comffort right now in my booze. I'm having lots of trouble getting to sleep and and the only thing that helps is booze.

I just find surreal experience to be such a ****over. I an't really wrap my mind arouond it.

And no, I don't want help.

[mylittledemon]

I'm sorry to hear that Jond. I lost my father 5 years ago so I understand that you feel cheated. I can only take some comfort in the fact that I had Dad in my life as long as I did. I'm sorry for your loss.

[Silver Springs]

I'm sorry for your loss. *sends good thoughts and energy your way*

[darklinensuit]

Very sorry for your loss.
What did your mom do for a living at 75? If it helps, tell us about her life (not just her death).
Peace.

- Jake

[Jondalar]

Originally Posted by darklinensuit

Very sorry for your loss.
What did your mom do for a living at 75? If it helps, tell us about her life (not just her death).
Peace.

- Jake

She was a teacher's aid. Once all of her children left the house, she discovered the job. She handled hard to handle students. They liked her and she likked doing it. She took great pride in itt. The funeral was full of teachers.

[darklinensuit]

Originally Posted by Jondalar

She was a teacher's aid. Once all of her children left the house, she discovered the job. She handled hard to handle students. They liked her and she likked doing it. She took great pride in itt. The funeral was full of teachers.

- Jake

[jannieC]

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Jondular.

[Jondalar]

Originally Posted by jannieC

I'm sorry to hear of your loss, Jondular.

I just don't know what to think of it all. Thanks.

[Travis]

Jondalar ~ I'm so sorry for your loss. My father and mother are 79 and 76 and loosing them has been on my mind for the last few years now, though they are in relatively good health, you just never know. I can only imagine how hard this is for you right now. Best wishes for you and your family.

[Jondalar]

Originally Posted by Travis

Jondalar ~ I'm so sorry for your loss. My father and mother are 79 and 76 and loosing them has been on my mind for the last few years now, though they are in relatively good health, you just never know. I can only imagine how hard this is for you right now. Best wishes for you and your family.

surreal...

[GODDESS6]

i am very sorry for your loss~

[Lee]

Sorry to hear about your mom, Jondalar. I can relate though both of my parents are still living, my mother-in-law died @ the age of 77 of pancreatic cancer. It was a shocker. Though she had various other health problems, she should have lived longer. She would have loved her two grandchildren. She would have loved to have had them come over to her house so they could have been showered with love like her children were.

Please don't turn to booze as a solution. There are grief counselors out there that you can talk to. They can help you.

Take care,

Lee

[Enchanted_Stevi]

I'm so sorry about your loss Jondalar! I still have both of my parents so I cant relate too much. But my grandmother has alheimers(sp) and I feel cheated...I spent a LOT of time with my grandmother when I was younger..mostly because she lived right up the street and i rode my bike there...but now she forgets(even on her meds) and repeats herself and mixes stories up..

like she called me this morning and she TOTALLY forgot that I took her to the bank yesterday and that we went grocery shopping =\ she also thought that when my mom went to the hospital before she went to the rehab that they had to pump her stomach which they didnt do...

[kak125]

so sorry to hear about your mom. take care of yourself and please come here whenever you need to talk or you can always pm me as well.

[WildHearted]

I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. My condolences go out to you and the rest of your family, and I'll be praying that you find some comfort in this time of grief.