Cheating

paleshadow · #1 05-27-2005, 06:18 PM

I'm interested in knowing what people think about this question:

If you had a friend or acquaintance who was cheating on their spouse, whom you barely know, would you somehow let them know that they were being cheated on?

From another angle, how would you feel if someone you didn't know told you that your spouse was cheating on you?

amber · #2 05-27-2005, 06:23 PM

Don't tell. Just don't.

diamondsnake · #3 05-27-2005, 06:27 PM

You have to tell their spouse that they are being cheated on. This person is being made a fool of and they deserve to know.

Serrart · #4 05-27-2005, 06:32 PM

Don't tell. Even the way these things are said could be important. You don't know her/him well enough to predict his/ her reaction and choose the right words, I think.

Romy

macfanken · #5 05-27-2005, 06:31 PM

No, I wouldn't tell, it would be none of my business. If my friend were the one being cheated on then it might be my business.

paleshadow · #6 05-27-2005, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by macfanken

No, I wouldn't tell, it would be none of my business. If my friend were the one being cheated on then it might be my business.

Also, would it make a difference if the cheater was telling the people they are cheating with that they aren't married?

amber · #7 05-27-2005, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

Also, would it make a difference if the cheater was telling the people they are cheating with that they aren't married?

Wow, that is a sticky wicket! That's soooo not fair to the person the cheater is cheating with!!! I'm more inclined to say to tell that person that so and so is married, then to tell the husband.

Because the person that the cheater is cheating with isn't really making an informed choice. It's all very sticky, though....

macfanken · #8 05-27-2005, 06:51 PM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

Also, would it make a difference if the cheater was telling the people they are cheating with that they aren't married?

Well now I think you're just trying to confuse me!

I'm inclined to say that the person being cheated with (who could be innocent in this) should be told, but then you might as well tell the person being cheated on because they're innocent too. I don't know, I think I'd still keep quiet at this point.

dissention · #9 05-27-2005, 07:04 PM

It's not my business, so I wouldn't say a word. Let them find out in their own time or not at all. Chances are that if someone is cheating, the relationship is going to hit the skids eventually, anyway, because it's not very solid.

paleshadow · #10 05-27-2005, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

Don't tell. Just don't.

Don't worry Amber, your secrets safe with me...

amber · #11 05-27-2005, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

Don't worry Amber, your secrets safe with me...

Whew!

seeker007nmss · #12 05-27-2005, 06:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paleshadow

I'm interested in knowing what people think about this question:

If you had a friend or acquaintance who was cheating on their spouse, whom you barely know, would you somehow let them know that they were being cheated on?

From another angle, how would you feel if someone you didn't know told you that your spouse was cheating on you?

Isn't there a hallmark card for a situation like this?

I think you should know about your spouse...
He's a cheater and a great big louse.
So take all his junk
and put it out on the lawn
And through the bum out of the house!

amber · #13 05-27-2005, 06:50 PM

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Originally Posted by seeker007nmss

Isn't there a hallmark card for a situation like this?

I think you should know about your spouse...
He's a cheater and a great big louse.
To take all his junk
and put it out on the lawn
And through the bum out of the house!

seeker007nmss · #14 05-27-2005, 06:46 PM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

I'm interested in knowing what people think about this question:

If you had a friend or acquaintance who was cheating on their spouse, whom you barely know, would you somehow let them know that they were being cheated on?

From another angle, how would you feel if someone you didn't know told you that your spouse was cheating on you?

I think I would only tell if I had proof...like pictures.

CelticGypsy · #15 05-28-2005, 02:18 AM

I would want to know. I have been married for over 25 yrs and yes, I would want to know. Most women do move on after divorce and eventually marry good, honest men. I am just happy I found one the first time

I do remember while in the military about 18 yrs ago, there was this guy who went to an Army school with my husband and he kept telling his buddies and their spouses that he was divorced. After the school is finished, most of the same classmates and their spouses find themselves in CA and this jerk is shopping in the PX with his cute wife and very cute young kids and this jerk sees a few of us and you could tell he wanted to sink into the floor. He had lied to everyone about being divorced and he lied to the woman he cheated with by telling her he was divorced so she fell in love with him. This guy thought he was homefree from ever seeing any of us again but about 12 people from the class along with some of their families were sent to the same Language school in CA

and his wife eventually found out her husband was a cheat and the young woman he cheated with felt really terrible that she was lied to and she had alot of trust issues afterwards

This guy lost respect from his classmates when we all found out about him being married to this really nice woman and we felt bad that he had kids too. So if you cheat, people will find out eventually.