Love

markolas · #1 02-08-2005, 08:35 PM

Here's a topic for y'all...

How soon is too soon for someone to say "I love you" in a relationship?

dissention · #2 02-08-2005, 08:41 PM

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Originally Posted by markolas

Here's a topic for y'all...

How soon is too soon for someone to say "I love you" in a relationship?

If I heard that in the first month or two of a relationship, I'd go running for the hills. But that's just me.

ontheEdgeof17 · #3 02-08-2005, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by dissention

If I heard that in the first month or two of a relationship, I'd go running for the hills. But that's just me.

Absolutely.

Gimme 8 months to a year before the LOVE word.

skcin · #4 02-08-2005, 08:52 PM

After 4 or 5 months is OK, but better after 6. Hubby thinks a year.

I used to know this guy in HS that used to tell a girl "I love you" right after she agreed to date him.

Hope he got out of that habit.

wondergirl9847 · #5 02-08-2005, 08:54 PM

You say, I heart you, on the first date, after dinner. After the main course, but before dessert. HELLO!? I watch Blind Date.

strandinthewind · #6 02-08-2005, 08:55 PM

I think it varies. I have known I felt that way within about five minutes. Others, it took much much much longer

I do think it is possible to love someone without knowing them, which is what happens with love at first sight, which IMO is diff than a crush or mere infatuation which I have had as well. Then, once you get to know them, the bad can outweigh the good.

GypsySorcerer · #7 02-08-2005, 08:56 PM

Personally, I'd say six months minimum. Even if I felt it before then, I wouldn't say it so early in the relationship.

strandinthewind · #8 02-08-2005, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by GypsySorcerer

. . . Even if I felt it before then, I wouldn't say it so early in the relationship.

Yep - I say in my 38 years on this planet - that is some VERY good advice!!!!!!!

markolas · #9 02-08-2005, 09:07 PM

Hmm...

Well, the context might help (or maybe it doesn't matter). We've been dating for a little over a month, and this was more like a quick "love ya" at the end of a conversation, not a lingering, romantic "I love you." Although, there was a bit of a pause before he said it. It made me wince a little bit, because I know this guy has been developing strong feelings (from his perspective) for me, but has been biting his tongue.

ontheEdgeof17 · #10 02-08-2005, 09:11 PM

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Originally Posted by markolas

Hmm...

Well, the context might help (or maybe it doesn't matter). We've been dating for a little over a month, and this was more like a quick "love ya" at the end of a conversation, not a lingering, romantic "I love you." Although, there was a bit of a pause before he said it. It made me wince a little bit, because I know this guy has been developing strong feelings (from his perspective) for me, but has been biting his tongue.

Ut oh. Sounds like he is reallllly attached already.

markolas · #11 02-08-2005, 09:13 PM

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Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

Ut oh. Sounds like he is reallllly attached already.

I don't know...he hasn't been clingy, or anything like that. I still feel like I'm getting to know they guy, and deciding how I feel about him (although, I do like him a lot), and he loves me already?

strandinthewind · #12 02-08-2005, 09:47 PM

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Originally Posted by markolas

Hmm...

Well, the context might help (or maybe it doesn't matter). We've been dating for a little over a month, and this was more like a quick "love ya" at the end of a conversation, not a lingering, romantic "I love you." Although, there was a bit of a pause before he said it. It made me wince a little bit, because I know this guy has been developing strong feelings (from his perspective) for me, but has been biting his tongue.

Well, first and foremost - what's not to love about you

Secondly - some people just fall fast - some take more time

I think the important thing is to after say three months or so - make a list of the things you like and the things you do not and go from there. It is actually frightening sometimes when you look at that list

Best of luck to you!!!!!!

If it works out - let me know where to send the blender

BTFLCHLD · #13 02-08-2005, 10:52 PM

the only advice i can offer is to NEVER say it too soon and only when you mean it

way too destructive to give so easily only to take it away

amber · #14 02-08-2005, 11:06 PM

I think it's okay whenever you want, but my rule is: NOT UNTIL THEY SAY THEY LOVE YOU FIRST!

It's nice that guy loves you, though. And I don't think it's too serious that he said it. And if you don't love him yet, you just don't.

BTFLCHLD · #15 02-08-2005, 11:12 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

I think it's okay whenever you want, but my rule is: NOT UNTIL THEY SAY THEY LOVE YOU FIRST!

It's nice that guy loves you, though. And I don't think it's too serious that he said it. And if you don't love him yet, you just don't.

hey heartbreaker...you suck