What Depresses You? - Page 5

Mari · #61 10-16-2005, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

I'm thinking of getting a light box this year because we have almost as little light as you in the winter. I think the sun comes up a bit earlier but the shortest days do get dark at 4:00. That really depresses me.

Really? I hear they're pretty expensive. But you can use them for years, I guess. A friend of mine did light therapy last winter, she did feel a lot better. Actually, the results of light therapy are very high!
I don't know if I'll do that. Some years it's better than others.. but it's always been there.

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What you said about right wing parties, lately that has been bringing me to tears very easily. I get so frustrated when I cannot communicate the truth to people. It's making me sad as I type.

Going to get my car and it is not there because it has been towed.

The fact that the things that depress me are trivial compared to others' real problems depresses me.

Children/animal neglect and cruelty.

My debt.

Ouch, there's something else that's familiar.

Next year there will be some changes in our health care system which means I'll have to pay a lot more. I don't know how I'm going to do that. That stuff makes me depressed as well.

Johnny Stew · #62 10-16-2005, 03:34 PM

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Originally Posted by David

It's interesting (at least to me) that virtually nothing most of you cite as depressants is of what I or most of us would consider joyous, pleasureful or even affectively neutral (although one of you very astutely mentioned old photos).

Ah, I get what you were going for.

Well, I often get mightily depressed when I see men around my age interacting happily with their young children.

It should be a sweet thing to witness, but it really gets to me because I know I'll never have that opportunity.

Anyway....

Richard B · #63 10-16-2005, 03:37 PM

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Originally Posted by David

It's interesting (at least to me) that virtually nothing most of you cite as depressants is of what I or most of us would consider joyous, pleasureful or even affectively neutral (although one of you very astutely mentioned old photos).

Our affects can be so unpredictable; they can be brought low by the most seemingly innocent or neutral of sights, recollections, or musings.

I think of William Styron's recollection of the terror he suddenly felt -- which helped trigger a depression -- on a walk along the lakeshore of his summer home when a flock of geese suddenly flew skyward.

I once saw a lizard -- a harmless, cute enough little lizard -- dart across an expanse of low-cut bushes; & this for some reason laid me low in the following weeks with maleficent effect. There's no simple explanation for it, for the mind has its own motor.

Gosh. You sound skittish. Are you a Cancer?

DavidMn · #64 10-16-2005, 03:48 PM

When I hear stories about people in Nursing homes being mistreated. That really upsets me

ontheEdgeof17 · #65 10-16-2005, 04:15 PM

-My job...lots of sick ppl out there

-When you know you f-ed something up and you can't go back to fix it...or the other person won't let you fix it

-seeing Stevie sing songs live....makes me happy, yet sad

-living alone

LikeAWillow · #66 10-16-2005, 04:52 PM

Hmm, I think what depresses me the most is people who are apathetic to what the rest of you have already mentioned. Seeing an old woman neglected in a nursing home is horrible, watching someone not care about it is worse.

Red · #67 10-16-2005, 05:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss Vicky

Getting older (I'll be 25 in 7 months, ack!) and still having nothing to show for it
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I remember this feeling when I turned 25 (3 years ago). Everything I thought I would have, or done, or accomplished was way off from where I was and made me super depressed. It took me while to realize that I have it pretty good compared to a lot of people, having my health, good friends and such. There's something about turning 25 that can induce panic. But I'm now 28 and not too concerned about aging. But I TOTALLY get what you're saying and its a such a crappy feeling. But trust me, it gets better!

HomerMcvie · #68 10-16-2005, 08:04 PM

Getting older
Animal cruelty
Rain
Winter - yep, it could be 85 and sunny, EVERY day of the year, as far as I'm concerned.
Cancer - Lost my Mom two years ago, and have been fighting my dog's cancer since Feb.
Being alone - occasionally
Not being able to be with the love of my life.

GateandGarden · #69 10-16-2005, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

Not being able to be with the love of my life.

Same here.

Miss Vicky · #70 10-16-2005, 08:06 PM

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Originally Posted by GateandGarden

Same here.

What's more depressing is not having one to begin with.

HomerMcvie · #71 10-16-2005, 08:43 PM

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Originally Posted by Miss Vicky

What's more depressing is not having one to begin with.

Wrong, IMO. It's far worse knowing that they're the one for you, and you'll most likely never be able to be with them. You wanna talk about depressing!!!

Happily married now, my ass!

I guess that's why I still get a few phone calls a year...

Trust me. I was FAR happier before. And actually had a sex life. I simply don't care anymore. I, quite literally, gave everything I had. I have nothing left to give. That was 7 years ago.

Thanks David, for starting this utterly depressing thread!!!

GateandGarden · #72 10-16-2005, 08:47 PM

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Trust me. I was FAR happier before. And actually had a sex life. I simply don't care anymore. I, quite literally, gave everything I had. I have nothing left to give. That was 7 years ago.

I am so sorry about that.

I totally understand why you don't care anymore; I have felt the same way. But I truly believe there is more than one soulmate for us all, so it isn't over for either one of us.

Red · #73 10-16-2005, 08:55 PM

This thread depresses me.

HomerMcvie · #74 10-16-2005, 09:00 PM

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Originally Posted by GateandGarden

I am so sorry about that.

I totally understand why you don't care anymore; I have felt the same way. But I truly believe there is more than one soulmate for us all, so it isn't over for either one of us.

I've walked down a few more roads though, Hill, so I've probably got a little more experience to draw from(I mean nothing by that, only that you're still very young{damn you!

}). I'd THOUGHT I'd found it a couple previous times. I was wrong. Those times now PALE in comparison.
I'm not the depressive type, though. I try not to dwell on it, and am hopefully open to future relationships.

Now why can't the 1% of the population that I'm attracted to(this might be an upward exaggeration), be attracted to me?

GateandGarden · #75 10-16-2005, 09:03 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I've walked down a few more roads though, Hill, so I've probably got a little more experience to draw from(I mean nothing by that, only that you're still very young{damn you!

}). I'd THOUGHT I'd found it a couple previous times. I was wrong. Those times now PALE in comparison.
I'm not the depressive type, though. I try not to dwell on it, and am hopefully open to future relationships.

Now why can't the 1% of the population that I'm attracted to(this might be an upward exaggeration), be attracted to me?

I know you're older and have seen more and all; I completely understand that. You have a right to be more discouraged. I'm glad that you are open to future relationships, though.

As to why that 1% of the population won't reciprocate--I haven't a clue. That damn 1%.