Gay dating

[vivfox]

Originally Posted by louielouie2000

Unfortunately, your experiences are all to common. I just don't understand why gay guys have to be so nasty to one another. After all, the majority of the rest of the world is nasty to US! Why pick ourselves apart further? You'd think we'd all want to band together .

Louie, you are such a good writer. All the posts you've made in every forum for the last couple of months are very enjoyable to read. The part I highlighted is the way I've felt all my life. Thank you for sharing how you feel too.

[louielouie2000]

Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

this is so funny because I have seen this kind of stuff over and over again. I've never really "fit in" with any one group. I never really know how to act around a bunch of gay people. I'm just myself. I definitely don't fit into any one category. but I feel like I'm always judged because I'm either too fem or not fem enough or wear too much makeup or not edgy enough, etc. etc.

I know exactly what you mean. I'm probably on the more masculine end of the scale: I like cars, boating, snow skiing, hiking, classic rock (no Lady Gaga for me! ), don't care much for the gay scene, etc. But I don't fit in with the real masculine guys either, because I hate sports, act silly, am not a gym rat, or a log cabin Republican. Oh well, I'm supremely happy with who I am, and am very comfortable in my skin. People who are nasty enough to insult others are just showing how insecure they really are. And to each their own I say... our differences is what keeps life interesting!

[fringed n fab]

Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

I agree.

this is so funny because I have seen this kind of stuff over and over again. I've never really "fit in" with any one group. I never really know how to act around a bunch of gay people. I'm just myself. I definitely don't fit into any one category. but I feel like I'm always judged because I'm either too fem or not fem enough or wear too much makeup or not edgy enough, etc. etc. I've always been the floater among lots of different crowds for that reason, but I've had my share of haters. what I love is to see them now. I've managed to maintain my divinty, and they just look like tired, haggard morons. lol. I've always had the "to the left, to the left" kind of attitude anyway.

I can understand this because I have always been the same way. I was just always myself around people and never fitting in, although I always had more straight friends than I ever did gay ones and it kind of confuses people when I say that. It's not that I planned things that way, it's just the way things always were. And from the things you guys are telling me, I'm glad I haven't had to deal with such a mean, rude gay bunch. But I know not all of us are that way. I could never be so mean to any man who is trying to politely flirt with me or kindly pick me up. If I didn't like someone or accept their advances, I would simply deal with it the same polite way that women have done since the beginning of time with men. There are ways to refuse someone politely without being so mean. I don't want to seem like I'm talking about "my people" but I'm just glad I've never had to deal with some's cattiness. I hope I made sense.

[DavidMn]

I just dont feel like giving this person the attention they seek. I'm really over it but I did send PM the name of this person to one member. I will say the person who PM'd me has barely any posts here. And I should've known that they probably completely made up the whole "I've gotten several pm's from other's saying the same thing about you." I'm just sensitive and easily riled up. I should just ignore this BS which is what I'm going to do from now on. I really enjoy hearing the stories of how alot of u guys out there are trying to be just yourselves. It's good to know I'm not the only one that has that attitude. For me, I AM very much into sports, especially baseball, my 2 favorite teams being the Boston Red Sox and Minnesota Twins. I get umpteen comments from guys at the bar OMG UGHHH HOW CAN U LIKE SPORTS?! I dont know if Ive told many people here this, but baseball is like my alter ego to Fleetwood Mac. As most of you know I've been to quite a few Mac related shows, and Ive also had the priveledge of having been to every major league baseball park in the country with the exception of the 2 new parks in NYC. So I guess I'm going to have to give at least 1 up to fit a boyfriend in eh?

[DavidMn]

Oh I havent mentioned this because I dont know exactly where its going to go yet. But Ive been talking to this guy online from Long Island whos a HUGE baseball fan just like me. His name's Rick, and he's 25. He doesnt care about my age or what I look like. I couldnt believe the words that came out of his mouth when he said at only 25 that he was so tired of all the Gay bull**** just like I was... Godamnit why cant he live near me UGH!!! I'll keep everyone posted here as to how it goes. I really like him. Oh Did I mention he's Italian and knows how to cook some mean Veal Parmigiana! Now there's a man that knows what I love!

[DavidMn]

Originally Posted by skcin

Didn't this happen to you before David? I'm having a case of deja vu here. Seems that you started a very similar thread a couple years back & got a mean PM then too? Maybe it was someone else.

Yeah it was. I dont remember that person's sn, but they made comments to me in a pm after supposedly seeing me in Las Vegas for Stevie in 2005.

[skcin]

Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Well because unfortunately, the PM has been deleted, so now it's hearsay.

Yes, it is. Too bad.

Originally Posted by louielouie2000

I know exactly what you mean. I'm probably on the more masculine end of the scale: I like cars, boating, snow skiing, hiking, classic rock (no Lady Gaga for me! ), don't care much for the gay scene, etc. But I don't fit in with the real masculine guys either, because I hate sports, act silly, am not a gym rat, or a log cabin Republican. Oh well, I'm supremely happy with who I am, and am very comfortable in my skin. People who are nasty enough to insult others are just showing how insecure they really are. And to each their own I say... our differences is what keeps life interesting!

Why don't you & David hook up? Sports, classic rock, don't like the gay scene or the gym. Sounds like you two are meant for eachother.

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Yeah it was. I dont remember that person's sn, but they made comments to me in a pm after supposedly seeing me in Las Vegas for Stevie in 2005.

Good to know I'm not losing my mind. I thought this all sounded really really familiar.

[louielouie2000]

Originally Posted by skcin

Why don't you & David hook up? Sports, classic rock, don't like the gay scene or the gym. Sounds like you two are meant for eachother.

Because I've been happily "married" for 3 years now. Thanks for thinking of me tho!

[skcin]

Originally Posted by louielouie2000

Because I've been happily "married" for 3 years now. Thanks for thinking of me tho!

Aw. And here I thought I was going to be a matchmaker.

[vivfox]

[Enchanted_Stevi]

David, who ever said that is an asshole. Seriously, looks arent everything. They help a little bit, but they arent everything. Your such a nice guy!! Dont listen to that person. Put them on ignore. I cant believe they would have the balls and tell you that and not even be anonymous.

Anyway, from what I have been reading there was been some good advice. Try not to LOOK for the right person. I wasnt looking for someone to date mostly because I've been trying to concentrate more on school, but it just happened that I started dating my best friend. We're still dating and its almost 4 months and we're madly in love. So just dont try to look for the person. Go out to gay clubs or bars or get togethers and just meet people and who knows.

GOOD LUCK DAVID!!