What should I do/rant - Page 3

Johnny Stew · #31 08-14-2005, 06:29 PM

She's not a skinny girl, but she's not huge either.
She could pack away the food though, that's for sure!

Come to think of it, maybe I should have let her continue eating here... I'm better off not having "seconds" anyway! :@)

dissention · #32 08-14-2005, 06:57 PM

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*I think I just overdosed on sacharine reading this post. twitch.*

I know.

Thank the stars I'm not diabetic, Le Stew.

SapphireSister · #33 08-14-2005, 07:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

Maybe she does have a learning disability or some other type of challenge. That's very possible from what you described.

I realize being her friend can be exasperating, but if you and your other friend feel this way about her, then she's probably been dealing with these types of reactions from people her entire life.

The nicest thing you could do, might be to reach out to her more and make sure that she feels included. You never know how much it might mean to her to feel accepted.

Will you marry me?

Johnny Stew · #34 08-14-2005, 07:06 PM

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Thank the stars I'm not diabetic, Le Stew.

I'm going to have to start handing out free Glucophage tablets whenever I post, aren't I?

amber · #35 08-14-2005, 07:08 PM

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Will you marry me?

in that case....as long as we're proposing....

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Originally Posted by Dissention

I know.

Thank the stars I'm not diabetic, Le Stew.

Will you marry me?

Johnny Stew · #36 08-14-2005, 07:09 PM

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Originally Posted by SapphireSister

Will you marry me?

Sure I will!
Plus, I'll get to be the first guy to ever have three wives AND a husband!

DrummerDeanna · #37 08-14-2005, 07:10 PM

*sigh* and once again - always the bridesmaid.....

Johnny Stew · #38 08-14-2005, 07:15 PM

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*sigh* and once again - always the bridesmaid.....

Aw, come on, Deanna... for you, I'd be more than happy to make it FOUR wives and a husband!

We might even get our own reality series out of it!!!

macfanken · #39 08-14-2005, 07:16 PM

She ordered the Admiral's Platter at Red Lobster?!

Kick her to the curb!!

DrummerDeanna · #40 08-14-2005, 07:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

Aw, come on, Deanna... for you, I'd be more than happy to make it FOUR wives and a husband!

We might even get our own reality series out of it!!!

OK!! Yea! Lucky number 4

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Originally Posted by macfanken

She ordered the Admiral's Platter at Red Lobster?!

Kick her to the curb!!

Okay - I'll take that advice

GateandGarden · #41 08-14-2005, 07:19 PM

Oh gosh, Deanna, I don't know what to say. You would think I would because I have been there so many times, it seems. Yet, every time it's just as awkward and you feel just as guilty despite the fact that you know it should rightfully be your own choice who you hang out with. I went through something like this in high school, though it was more severe because I'd known the girl for years and years and had tried to put up with her all that time. The thing is, it seemed that she got more and more immature as we grew older, if that's possible. I just sat down and told her that I thought we were growing up and changing and drifting apart and that we were becoming very different people and so I didn't want to be friends any longer. I can't believe I did that. I was only able to do it because it was that aggravating to be around her. But she didn't take it well. But since you haven't known this girl as long, maybe she would take it better than my friend did? I don't know; only you know if it could be appropriate to have that kind of talk with her. I also couldn't help but think that you could seriously talk to the other friend and break it to her as gently as possible that you'd love to hang out with her but not the other chick. You can preface it by saying, "She is very sweet, has the best of intentions, etc," but say that you don't really want to hang around her and you'd prefer to go out with the girl alone and not with the Scooby-Doo esque chick. (Sorry--the "boo-roo" thing and Brian's comment on it were hysterical to me). Maybe you can bow out gently.

Or maybe I'm not being helpful. What I'm saying may not be feasible at all but I wanted to throw it out there.

And of course there's always the chance that time will pass and you'll first get used to her and then cease to find her annoying, but that may be very unlikely to ever happen.

Whatever you decide to do and/or whatever transpires, I wish you the best of luck with it and I hope it's as painless as possible.

amber · #42 08-14-2005, 07:21 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

*sigh* and once again - always the bridesmaid.....

sorry, deanna, but clearly I like them a bit saltier than you, if I asked diss to marry me...

Which reminds me....
BACKSTORY
the other day I told my friend that I just wanted to be quiet for a little bit. Which is what I say to him almost every time he comes over. Because we're usually together for at least, like, 2-3 hours (usually waaaay longer) and we talk the whole time. He talks a lot, and argues and stuff. Anyway, that takes a lot of my energy, and after a bit, I just want to chill out, listen to music, straighten up my house, you know. For like, maybe just 20 minutes or something. But it's fricking like - he just can't not say anything!

And then so he'll just start making these noises and stuff.

So, I'm like, "dude, it's okay, it's not personal. I just need to regroup my energy a little bit!". So then, each time he usually gets insulted. BUT - I ALWAYS START OUT SAYING IT REALLY NICELY, AND MORE SUBTELY, BUT HE NEVER DOES IT. SO THEN, I START GETTING A BIT MORE PISSY! And so, of course, even though I asked nicely, like, three times ("hey, mind if we just chill for a bit? I kind of want to just listen to music and rest, straighten up my house a bit" etc).
LEADING UP TO IT
So, the last time he was here, we just finished playing, like, power frisbee for an hour on the hill, watching the sun go down with a view of the whole bay. And I was playing barefoot on concrete, and really RUNNING my ass around.
So I'm hella tired, I have a huge blood blister, I just got home, etc. So I say the same thing....nicely...he starts in with the same ****....i'm getting hella irritated, why do we have to have this convo every time. So finally, all pissy, with slightly raised venomous voice, I go....DAMNIT, ****, WE HAVE THIS F**CKING CONVERSATION EVERY TIME! I JUST WANT TO REST! BUT NO, YOU ALWAYS HAVE TO GET YOUR PANTIES IN A WAD, AND YOU CAN NEVER JUST GIVE ME TEN MINUTES TO REST! WHY CAN'T YOU BE QUIET FOR 10 MINUTES!? WHY? JESUS CHRIST, YOU KNOW I LOVE YOU, BUT WHY DO YOU HAVE TO DO THIS EVERY FRICKING TIME!?

he left shortly after.....

I felt really bad, but it's his fault for not getting it when I say it the first fricking thousand times, assmonkey.

GateandGarden · #43 08-14-2005, 07:21 PM

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Sure I will!
Plus, I'll get to be the first guy to ever have three wives AND a husband!

There are two Ledgie brides I'd love to have.

And that is all I will say.

The Tower · #44 08-14-2005, 07:22 PM

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Thank the stars I'm not diabetic, Le Stew.

OY!!!!! Both of my parents are diabetic and think all this swill has knocked my system into insulin shock...

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Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

The nicest thing you could do, might be to reach out to her more and make sure that she feels included. You never know how much it might mean to her to feel accepted.

Blecchhhhh.................. this is the total insincere thing to do. If you don't like her, don't fake it and be nice to her. There's nothing wrong with not clicking with someone, it happens all the time.

If you don't like her Deanna, be honest with her. If she someone butts in and tries to inviter herself to stuff she wasn't invited to, just tell the truth- "I'm sorry Jane Doe, but I'm not really clicking with you and this is a gathering for me and my friends. I'm not trying to offend you- I just don't think we'll be getting along and I'd like to enjoy myself."

amber · #45 08-14-2005, 07:24 PM

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Originally Posted by The Tower

OY!!!!! Both of my parents are diabetic and think all this swill has knocked my system into insulin shock...

Blecchhhhh.................. this is the total insincere thing to do. If you don't like her, don't fake it and be nice to her. There's nothing wrong with not clicking with someone, it happens all the time.

If you don't like her Deanna, be honest with her. If she someone butts in and tries to inviter herself to stuff she wasn't invited to, just tell the truth- "I'm sorry Jane Doe, but I'm not really clicking with you and this is a gathering for me and my friends. I'm not trying to offend you- I just don't think we'll be getting along and I'd like to enjoy myself."

AAAAnnnnd now we can add Towie to my list of gay husbands, too.