My mom passed away

[fumidesigns]

sorry for you loss *hugs*

[SummerlongBoots]

I'm so sorry for your loss/losses. You have my heartfelt condolences.

Life changes drastically when one parent dies, but when both are gone, like you said, it's "surreal."

It was a sobering experience to stand in front of my parents' headstone and see both their names for the first time. Too many emotions to name but "alone" ranks high.
I realized that I was now the carrier of the "baton" and had stepped into the next generations shoes, even though I was feeling very young and very small.

I totally understand your loss of faith. I remember being told when my father died (I was ten-years-old) that he had been chosen to go to Heaven because God needed him. (What? I needed my dad more!) Talk about screwin' with my head. I was pissed off at God but also petrified that he would strike me dead if he knew that. We've been on the outs ever since.

If it helps you at all, I do understand the "new job" situation you're in. I started a new job a month after the loss of a sibling and I was in no shape to take it on. I went from being 90% confident in my ability to do that job to zero because my mind would not pay attention to the tasks at hand, plus, the companies' "priorities" seemed so trivial compared to the grief and loss that I was dealing with.

I wish I had a magic pill that would make things better for you. Some people believe that time heals all. I believe that time lessens the pain. I'm hoping you will find peace in your own time.

[holidayroad]

I am deeply sorry for your loss. I haven't lost either of my parents, but I saw the hard time my husband went through when he lost his mother. There isn't much that prepares you for such a blow. I don't think anyone realizes how hard it can be to take until they go through it themselves.

[GypsySorcerer]

I'm so very sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my thoughts.

As an educator myself, I have great respect for those who are able to work with(and more importantly, work WELL with) young people with behavioral problems. It's a gift.

[wondergirl9847]

Sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family. I hope you keep in contact with your brothers and sisters (?) as I would imagine that would help with the burden of sorrow.

I am an only child and don't even want to think about losing my parents.

[sara1998]

I'm truly sorry for your loss. I can't imagine. My aunt was like my second mom, and we lost her in December. Still going through all the stuff in the house. It is a hard task. So many things that being back memories. Try not to drink too much. I know with time the grief will get a little easier.

[Macfanforever]

I'm sorry to hear about your mom Jondalar.I''ve been down the same road.I lost my mom 2 years ago with a gallbladder/liver infection. at 77 .she was a teacher too.My dad is 79 a prostate cancer survivor,he 's doing fine at the moment.Take care of yourself.

[KarmaContestant]

Jondalar,

I am so sorry for the loss of your mom. The death of people close to me is not something I've had to endure yet. I'm sure it will be hard, but I can't really even imagine. I have no father, so I won't have to deal with that loss. My mom and I aren't close, and really haven't been since I was around 8 or so. As a result, I don't know what I will feel when she dies. We barely talk once a year - maybe twice.

Anyway, I wish I had some words to make it all better, but, well, I don't. Keep your chin up and know that this fog you are wandering in will clear up, maybe not soon, but it will in time.

[msLinds]

I am sorry to hear Jondalar that your Mom passed away.My condolences to you and your family.I am sending out positive energy and my Pagan prayers for your Mom and you and family.Take care of yourself and be good to yourself.

[BombaySapphire3]

I lost my mother to an asthma attack when she was in her early 6os .I was very close to her like you were to your mother so I think I kind of get how you are feeling .The grieving process is different for everyone but do know that things will get better.

[mylittledemon]

They truly are a gift to us for as long as they are in the world. That's the only comfort you can take after their loss. After the anger subsides from the initial shock, I think you will focus on the great things that happened in your lives together. I still get sad about my Dad and I still cry but I still think of him as alive.

[vivfox]

My heart goes out to you in your time of sorrow. I'll be sending kind thoughts your way.

[Jondalar]

Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

I'm so sorry about your loss Jondalar! I still have both of my parents so I cant relate too much. But my grandmother has alheimers(sp) and I feel cheated...I spent a LOT of time with my grandmother when I was younger..mostly because she lived right up the street and i rode my bike there...but now she forgets(even on her meds) and repeats herself and mixes stories up..

like she called me this morning and she TOTALLY forgot that I took her to the bank yesterday and that we went grocery shopping =\ she also thought that when my mom went to the hospital before she went to the rehab that they had to pump her stomach which they didnt do...

That is so sad. This last year, we through similar things with my mom for different reasons. At one point she couldn't remember us becuase she not getting oxygen to her brain. She was also saying things that never made sense.

We really thought she was going to get better. Like I said, she hadn't been in the ICU for two weeks and everything had stabilized and we even got her into a renal rehab facility close to her house. Apparantly, she fell out of bed and hit her head. About a week later, blood had filled her brain and the doctors and nursing home didn't notice it. We kept asking them why she was slurring her voice and they said it was from pain meds. The blood moved her brain by 2 cenimeters and caused a hermorrage on her brain stem which could not repaired.

Thanks for all your kind thoughts and prayers. Last night was a bad night.

[gfd1963]

Sorry for your loss Jondalar. I know how you are feeling right now. I lost my mother, to whom I was very close, almost 11 years ago very suddenly at the young age of 64. It is a very, very hard thing to go through and you will have bad days and not so bad days but eventually you will find yourself having good days again. I don't think you really get over it but you DO get used to it and life does become bearable again - only different. My thoughts are with you.

[desertangel]

Very sorry for your loss. My dad passed away 9 years ago today and there isn't a day goes by that I don't think of him. They say time heals all wounds, but the loss of a parent is never healed completely... it just gets less painful.