Who's The Most Beautiful Woman (or Man) You Know?

[jannieC]

I have an odd tendency to find "prettiness" where someone else may not. I'm not sure why.

Good lord, is this true:

Originally Posted by goldustsongbird

It's a double edged sword: If you say you're attractive, then the knee jerk reaction from some people is that you must be conceited. Downplaying it might make people think you are truly not aware of what you are (thus, maybe dumb?), or it might aggravate them even more if they think you're playing dumb.

I also think that if someone is pretty, but the self-esteem doesn't match, she may be perceived as someone who is fishing for compliments. I wish I had understood how pretty I was in my younger years. I really struggled with self esteem for many years. Only now, in my 40s, do I have an air of confidence that probably doesn't even match the reality! (Ala Elaine in Seinfeld, "...is it possible I'm not as attractive as I think I am?')

Alternately, if someone comes out and says they're ugly or that they feel that way, it's almost guaranteed that someone will try to dissuade them. So... looking at it like that, if you want to be black and white about it, then it seems no one can comment on their own appearance.

I believe that we all are capable of finding beauty in people when the reality may be different . I had a boyfriend once that I found pretty physically unattractive at first sight. After getting to know him, I became really attracted to him and ended up with him for 5+ years.

I'm glad this thread turned out to be more involved than Ethan's friend who really is "quite the piece."