Facebook: The Pros and the Cons - Page 3

WildHeart69 · #31 02-18-2010, 06:16 PM

As for the " a lot of friends" thing... I know I have a lot of people that I dont really talk to anymore b/c I think a lot of college age students meet a lot of different people that they meet in different classes/ work on projects with, etc and then they wont see them anymore after that semester is over, but still are friendly with when they see them on campus/at the local bar/ what have you... and it used to be kinda taboo to "de-friend" anyone... Facebook started when I was a freshman and it was exclusive to only college students and then it opened up to High Schools and then EVERYONE, but anyway, when it first came out it was a real fad and everyone was "friending" everyone! I think if I were to have just gotten Facebook there is NO way I would have nearly as many "friends" on there but nobody from my "facebook generation" really "de-friends" anyone

skcin · #32 02-19-2010, 10:26 AM

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Originally Posted by petep9000

the amazing thing I've found David, is that while in high school I could count probably half a dozen friends at the very most. 2o years later, I have about 50 FB friends who were in my graduating class. I wonder what makes me so friend-worthy now, and so icky then.

But why would you want them as "friends" now? Even if it's for a superficial website?

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Originally Posted by chriskisn

Actually there is one thing that really annoys me about facebook, when people send you random friend requests and you have no idea who they are. I run a couple of groups on facebook so sometimes people will send me a friend request but it really wouldn't hurt for them to say "Hey just joined the Rick Vito group and thought I'd add you as a friend" etc.

Same thing goes for Ledgies too, it doesn't hurt to say "Hey its XYZ from the Ledge". Otherwise I have to backtrack and find out what friends we have in common, etc.

Oh well that is my little rant...

ITA.

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Originally Posted by joe

I think the misnomer is the word "friend." For me, a friend is what you would consider a real life friend. "Friend" is old school now. Friend to me means you get together every so often or chat on the phone here and there etc. They know things about your personal life.

So, I tend to look at some of my friends on there as business contacts or mere acquaintances. I have refrained from posting updates or getting too in depth about anything personal in my life because I've let people in from all walks of life. There are certain things that I only feel comfortable sharing with my true circle of people and not with a former coworker that I spoke to on occasion about the weather.

So true.

DefDumbandBlond · #33 02-19-2010, 11:40 AM

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Originally Posted by ButterCookie

Texas Hold 'Em. I had my doubts but after finding Debbie Harry I thought I'd be optimistic

I just wish he'd stop sending me those 'rare' demos.

Ha yeah, 'rare' and you already had it.

Woo-hoo Debbie! & it only took us 6 months for her to accept us

DefDumbandBlond · #34 02-19-2010, 11:42 AM

The only thing that comes to mind that really irritates me about Facebook is random people adding me, like nobody I've ever come across in my life. I don't really add just anyone anymore unless we have more than a few friends in common, or if it's someone off forums that I post on.

Zombie · #35 02-19-2010, 02:23 PM

I'm not Facebook crazy - I've had a profile for about a year, and honestly forget to check it most of the time. Definitely do not care about anyone's new cows, Mafia Wars whatever,

New con discovered last night, though - logged on to respond to a funny thing from my sister's boyfriend, and my ex's mother instant messaged me to see how I'm doing or whatever. She's a very nice lady and I like her, but that's still awkward. I had NO idea what to say.

ButterCookie · #36 02-19-2010, 05:46 PM

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Originally Posted by DefDumbandBlond

The only thing that comes to mind that really irritates me about Facebook is random people adding me, like nobody I've ever come across in my life. I don't really add just anyone anymore unless we have more than a few friends in common, or if it's someone off forums that I post on.

They love you

LikeAWillow · #37 02-19-2010, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by WildHeart69

As for the " a lot of friends" thing... I know I have a lot of people that I dont really talk to anymore b/c I think a lot of college age students meet a lot of different people that they meet in different classes/ work on projects with, etc and then they wont see them anymore after that semester is over, but still are friendly with when they see them on campus/at the local bar/ what have you...

Agreed. Completely. I checked how many friends I had after reading this thread, and it's something near 500. Do I consider even an eighth of those people actual friends? Of course not. Facebook is a great way to network, though. I've found out about different courses and professors by posting on the walls of people I've had previous classes with, and I routinely figure out what I'm doing over the weekend through invitations to parties that come through facebook friends who added me after we met somewhere the weekend before.

DefDumbandBlond · #38 02-20-2010, 09:56 AM

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Originally Posted by ButterCookie

They love you

Yeah tell me about it, GWAHHHHHH

sara1998 · #39 02-20-2010, 10:23 AM

I absolutely love FB. I have around 100 friends. See, the cool thing about my friends and the people I went to high school with is that we all grew up together. We've known eachother since grade school, graduated HS, and we've all kept in pretty close contact over the years. Hardly any of us "lifers" moved away. We all have a local bar that we go to on the weekends. I know any given weekend, I can walk into Scotty's, and hang out with at least 10 people I went to HS with. Our parents know all of us, and they still live in the same houses they lived in when we were in school. So, posting off the wall crap on my FB doesn't scare me at all. And then there's my kids, my friends' kids, and my kids' friends. I have the people I love on The Ledge there, and that's about it. I won't add coworkers or anyone I don't know. I have a request sitting there now, and I know I know her from HS, but I can't quite figure out who she is. So, I'm not adding her... now it's just me being nosey trying to figure out who she is.

ragandbone · #40 02-20-2010, 12:52 PM

I love FB too. Sure, there are some people on there I don't know well— people from an online singing network on mine— but there are also old friend from HS, from a scene I was in in the 80's in SF, and also old coworkers. I really like seeing the old photos people held onto, and the new photos of their lives and families. Also, my network of friends tend to post really interesting news items and articles. I have to say that I appreciate the way I can dip in to check FB and not spend too much time on it. I guess that might also be a symptom of what is wrong with it too: it can give one the illusion of connection.

jannieC · #41 02-20-2010, 01:00 PM

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Originally Posted by sara1998

I absolutely love FB. I have around 100 friends. See, the cool thing about my friends and the people I went to high school with is that we all grew up together. We've known eachother since grade school, graduated HS, and we've all kept in pretty close contact over the years. Hardly any of us "lifers" moved away. We all have a local bar that we go to on the weekends. I know any given weekend, I can walk into Scotty's, and hang out with at least 10 people I went to HS with. Our parents know all of us, and they still live in the same houses they lived in when we were in school. So, posting off the wall crap on my FB doesn't scare me at all. And then there's my kids, my friends' kids, and my kids' friends. I have the people I love on The Ledge there, and that's about it. I won't add coworkers or anyone I don't know. I have a request sitting there now, and I know I know her from HS, but I can't quite figure out who she is. So, I'm not adding her... now it's just me being nosey trying to figure out who she is.

You are so lucky to have that, Maria. I felt very stifled by the time I was 17 (in addition to some kind of tragic things that happened to me that year) so I couldn't wait to leave. There definitely is something to be said for having a true hometown and being able to visit your parents in the house you grew up in. *sigh* I did mention earlier in this thread that I am a very nostalgic person by nature.

By the way, David is snapping bra straps on FB.

sara1998 · #42 02-20-2010, 04:49 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

You are so lucky to have that, Maria. I felt very stifled by the time I was 17 (in addition to some kind of tragic things that happened to me that year) so I couldn't wait to leave. There definitely is something to be said for having a true hometown and being able to visit your parents in the house you grew up in. *sigh* I did mention earlier in this thread that I am a very nostalgic person by nature.

By the way, David is snapping bra straps on FB.

I just left my mom and dad's house... the one I grew up in. haha! I can never stay too long, becasue that'll always be home, and I get so sleepy sitting there.... It's just sooo comfy! Unfortunately, the neighborhood around it is falling apart, and it scares me that my folks are getting older and I want them to get out of there as soon as possible. They bought that house on January 1, 1981. I was 3.

I know Indianapolis is a tiny city compaired to a lot of cities, but there really is a hometown feel to each side of town. It saddens me to see my side going to hell though. My folks live right next door to the Indianapolis Motor Speedway, and there's talk within a couple of years that the Speedway is going to buy the houses on my parents block, demolish them, and run an artery road through there.

HomerMcvie · #43 02-20-2010, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by sara1998

My folks live right next door to the Indianapolis Motor Speedway, and there's talk within a couple of years that the Speedway is going to buy the houses on my parents block, demolish them, and run an artery road through there.

That might be the best way to get them out of there, Maria. Then find them a more suitable neighborhood/house.

sara1998 · #44 02-20-2010, 05:12 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

That might be the best way to get them out of there, Maria. Then find them a more suitable neighborhood/house.

Trust me, my mom's praying it comes sooner rather than later. It's really getting awful there. Their house is paid for, so whatever they get is pure profit. They want to move out further west than I am, out closer to the country. They're not even that old, but I just don't want anyone to see them as a target. There's all kids of crazy things that happen over there.

HomerMcvie · #45 02-20-2010, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by sara1998

Trust me, my mom's praying it comes sooner rather than later. It's really getting awful there. Their house is paid for, so whatever they get is pure profit. They want to move out further west than I am, out closer to the country. They're not even that old, but I just don't want anyone to see them as a target. There's all kids of crazy things that happen over there.

I wonder how the neighborhood going downhill, has effected property values for them, especially in this economy?

There are good points to living out in the country, like I do(although I'm only 4 miles from town). Way less crime, especially if you're not in a neighborhood, where teens roam at night. I'll bet I could leave my house unlocked for a month, and nothing would happen(knocking wood now).

I grew up waaay in the country, and hated it with a passion. After 10 years in town though, I was READY for compromise.