An Emotional Life- Divorce, Emotions, and Past Relationships- A Mini Vent By: Ethan - Page 9

HomerMcvie · #**122** 01-06-2010, 04:24 PM

I just can't believe, the TURMOIL he brings to this board, time after time after time after time, yet that turmoil is perfectly accepted. It truly boggles my mind. It's unbelievable.
I think JS's initial stance on protecting him, is much akin to Bush's stand on Iraq. There's no way he'll ever admit that he was wrong. No matter what.
Just my two cents...

sara1998 · #**123** 01-06-2010, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I just can't believe, the TURMOIL he brings to this board, time after time after time after time, yet that turmoil is perfectly accepted. It truly boggles my mind. It's unbelievable.
I think JS's initial stance on protecting him, is much akin to Bush's stand on Iraq. There's no way he'll ever admit that he was wrong. No matter what.
Just my two cents...

BANT......

GODDESS6 · #**124** 01-06-2010, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by golddustdrummer

no, you're not.
I'm done with this thread.

me too, it's soooo last year

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HomerMcvie · #**125** 01-06-2010, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by sara1998

BANT......

I'm with the banned!
3/26 - never forget!

Musicman408 · #**126** 01-06-2010, 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by HejiraNYC

From my impartial, objective take on this ****storm of a thread, I have concluded that everyone is missing the point. I don't think Ethan is intentionally whining about his parents divorcing or some chick ignorning him in an effort to evoke pity. I think what he is really trying to communicate (albeit not very articulately or concisely) is his fear of becoming emotionally dead inside, i.e., building up an emotional barrier and becoming distant from people in his life. It wasn't a pleasant read by any means, but I suppose he has a right, as a young adult, to share his story and then ask the world what this all means. Since he obviously does not have any close confidents that he feels comfortable sharing such intimate knowledge with, he probably felt comforted by the anonymity of the Ledge and hoped to compare notes with others who may have been in his situation. Obviously it didn't pan out as expected! I don't think it was a competition over who has it rougher, nor was it a blatant attempt to evince sympathy or a cry for help. Admittedly he has engaged in rather narcisstic and/or annoying posting behavior in the past, but I don't think this is one of those episodes to get riled up about. If anything I think Ethan's biggest fault here was simply not being able to express himself well.

If nobody had anything constructive to say, I think this thread should have died a quick, painless death on its own. The personal attacks were unnecessary.

Ladies and gentleman, we have a winner.

Please contact guest services.

Stew_Matthews · #**127** 01-06-2010, 05:51 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I just can't believe, the TURMOIL he brings to this board, time after time after time after time, yet that turmoil is perfectly accepted. It truly boggles my mind. It's unbelievable.
I think JS's initial stance on protecting him, is much akin to Bush's stand on Iraq. There's no way he'll ever admit that he was wrong. No matter what.
Just my two cents...

I think your two cents are worth more than most peoples..........

The turmoil to some extent passes me by cos I don't read his threads.......unless I see there are over a hundred replies - then I'm as curious as other people

. What is frustrating is that there is no obvious attempt to moderate or control what he posts. I'm all for people posting some rubbish, I do myself on occasion. But seriously, there has to be a limit on the number of self indulgent threads that one member creates and when it is exceeded, the threads should be deleted in my view.

jannieC · #**128** 01-06-2010, 05:52 PM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I just can't believe, the TURMOIL he brings to this board, time after time after time after time, yet that turmoil is perfectly accepted. It truly boggles my mind. It's unbelievable.
I think JS's initial stance on protecting him, is much akin to Bush's stand on Iraq. There's no way he'll ever admit that he was wrong. No matter what.
Just my two cents...

Ethan has been gone from this thread (as is the usual MO) long enough for everyone to stop bickering about it. Ethan is not creating the turmoil anymore, everyone else is. It amazes me (still) how Ethan can bring people out of the woodwork and that people really are calling each other names,as well as being judgmental and rude to one another based on this thread. I really didn't mind people telling Ethan how silly his story was. When you put your personal business up on a public message board, you're fair game. But the fact that now members are attacking EACH OTHER over it...this thread is getting tiresome.

jannieC · #**129** 01-06-2010, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by Stew_Matthews

I think your two cents are worth more than most peoples..........

The turmoil to some extent passes me by cos I don't read his threads.......unless I see there are over a hundred replies - then I'm as curious as other people

. What is frustrating is that there is no obvious attempt to moderate or control what he posts. I'm all for people posting some rubbish, I do myself on occasion. But seriously, there has to be a limit on the number of self indulgent threads that one member creates and when it is exceeded, the threads should be deleted in my view.

How can we moderate that- if Ethan posts a self indulgent thread, is there somewhere in the Ledge rules that says I can delete it? As it stands now, I figure he can post them and people can respond (within REASON and within the rules) or just ignore him.

Stew_Matthews · #**130** 01-06-2010, 06:05 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

How can we moderate that- if Ethan posts a self indulgent thread, is there somewhere in the Ledge rules that says I can delete it? As it stands now, I figure he can post them and people can respond (within REASON and within the rules) or just ignore him.

I could debate the inconsistent ways in which the ledge rules are applied all day but that would be tiresome and I have better things to do.

How about telling him that he can't create more than one thread a week or that he can't create the same thread within a year of posting a similar one?

BTFLCHLD · #**131** 01-06-2010, 06:23 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

or just ignore him.

and the heaven's sang..."hallelujah" ... There is an ignore user feature provided; why some so bothered by a poster would choose to ignore using it is beyond me.

jannieC · #**132** 01-06-2010, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Stew_Matthews

I could debate the inconsistent ways in which the ledge rules are applied all day but that would be tiresome and I have better things to do.

How about telling him that he can't create more than one thread a week or that he can't create the same thread within a year of posting a similar one?

Obviously the first one is out of the question, as it would have to apply to everyone. The second one, I can get behind. What I could do is merge the new post with an old thread and ask him (and everyone) to please remember to find their old threads and bring them back to life rather than starting a new one. The problem there is that the subject matter is still going to irritateand offend, and Ledgies are still going to respond.

I'm going to say this and if it makes me a "bad" moderator, oh well. I can't STAND Ethan's posts. If I were not a moderator for the forums he spends so much time in, I would have him on ignore. I bite my tongue and suck it up and try not to encourage him to post further either by complimenting him OR criticizing him. Honestly it's when people start telling each other how stupid they are and to fkcu off that it becomes a problem!

Zombie · #**133** 01-06-2010, 06:55 PM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

and the heaven's sang..."hallelujah" ... There is an ignore user feature provided; why some so bothered by a poster would choose to ignore using it is beyond me.

But...but...I thought squabbling with strangers over nonsense is what the Intarnets is for?

PS - Jannie, you're a doll. Just wanted to let you know.

HomerMcvie · #**134** 01-06-2010, 07:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Zombie

PS - Jannie, you're a doll. Just wanted to let you know.

Yes, she certainly is!

David · #**135** 01-06-2010, 07:10 PM

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Originally Posted by marinnette

really, i'm about to start a thread about "how i manage with my period"....gosh!

I have adored you for months, marinnette. Tell us more about yourself. You live in Spain, you love film, painting, & the rocky coasts of Gibraltar. What else? Do you like dogs? Beethoven?

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i have nothing against people who talk too much, but i think, ethan, you should be much more respectful. nor only for the topic you chose, but specially for the way you talk about it.

What if Ethan is really a werewolf?