An Emotional Life- Divorce, Emotions, and Past Relationships- A Mini Vent By: Ethan

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by skcin

You're mean.




Nice.



I will be keeping this post for future cut & pastes. It applies to so many posts I've read here over the years, so I'm sure it will apply in the future.


Ethan wants to know why "veteran ledgies" didn't find this thread thought-provoking. He thinks it's a post of "substance" that will jump-start conversation here. Well, it's because nobody wants to read a long-assed story about you & your life without being asked to share something about theirs. It would have been different if you had posted that your parents are divorcing & it sucks, and you wanted to know what are other ledgie's experiences with divorce have been. But you never do that. Ever.

The reason you turn people off is that you never show any interest in any other members' threads, posts, lives. You frequently ask for "yours guys alls" advice & then never return to read it (or if you do, you don't bother to acknowledge that you've done so.) It's rude, and it's a waste of my (and many other posters') time to bother to read & respond to any your threads because it's obvious you don't WANT to know what yous guys all think.

I can't believe you're still here pulling the same ****. Seriously. Either you get off on baiting people into bitching at/about you (see, you got me again!) or you're ridiculously socially immature for your age with a touch of ADHD. You're either a mad genius or developmentally disabled. I still can't figure out which, so shame on me.

Paula, get a divorce NOW, and marry me!

[Ghost_Tracker]

"Each one of us is a brain. And an athlete. And a basket case. A princess . . . and a criminal. Does that answer your question?
Sincerely yours, The Breakfast Club...."

[chriskisn]

I'm curious though, the title of this thead says it all. For those people who are over the Ethan-centred threads why do you even bother reading it? I like Ethan, I do, but I don't bother reading these theads any more. I'll sometimes quickly skim (as I'm doing now) to see if there is anything I want to read then move on. (Personally I tend to do this with most of the Chit Chat forum not just Ethan related threads).

I would understand the concern if Ethan was hijacking other threads and talking about himself (and maybe he has done this in the past I don't know) but really he can talk about himself to his hearts content in a thread clearly marked so and those who care can contribute and those that don't can ignore it.

So, I'm finished skimming, going back to reading the thread about Paper Doll now...

[Ghost_Tracker]

Originally Posted by chriskisn

I'm curious though, the title of this thead says it all. ...

I would understand the concern if Ethan was hijacking other threads and talking about himself (and maybe he has done this in the past I don't know) but really he can talk about himself to his hearts content in a thread clearly marked so and those who care can contribute and those that don't can ignore it.

I completely 100% agree with you. And Ethan I'm really busy with the Holidays but I'll try to contribute something constructive to the thread as soon as all that dies down.

[carrie721]

Originally Posted by mylittledemon

Pity. The way I see it, you're at an advantage in the game! A prime position to get some quality "practice what you preach" time in by being the better source of wisdom here.

Now remember, the rules are simple, and fair. 1) Appearance of helpfulness gets you zero points. 2) If you fail, you'll get a cantankerous debunking of your post in which the replying Ledgie is under no obligation to back up his/her lampooning of your advice (or lack thereof) with a solution of their own.

I'll help you step up to the plate by giving you a nudge in the right direction... Perhaps a chat with the young man when he's down in the Cayman's? I know from my perspective, going on an island vacation might make the seemingly callow (yet arguably tough & emotional) problems a teenager might have to suss out just a bit easier to deal with.

Aaaaaaand... PLAY BALL!

was this post intended to be a complete non sequitur? cuz it doesn't really make any sense in relation/reaction to what i said ... sarcastically ... to a friend ... who is not you.

am i supposed to feel bitchslapped?

just let me know how i should feel, since your heavy handed attempt to sound esoteric has resulted in my not being able to follow your logic, were any present.

[Miss Vicky]

Ethan -

At the risk of repeating what others have said (I got cross-eyed trying to make it through this thread, so I didn't actually read every post), the reason why so many Ledgies have a problem with your posts is that, even after nearly 4 years of being here, you haven't matured a bit.

You constantly profess that you have changed, but absolutely nothing has changed. Why, in the very first post of this thread you said this:

I know in the past, I would always ramble on and on about said girl and whatever. I know it was ANNOYING AS HELL (yes, I really do realize that)

and you then proceeded to ramble on and on and ON about some girl you liked in HIGH SCHOOL but never had the balls to ask out or even express your feelings to until it was too late.

And you wonder why people got annoyed as hell and started mocking you, criticizing you, etc.?

Clearly you either don't actually realize just how annoying you truly are or you take glee in irritating the hell out of people. If the latter is the case, just own it already. If the former is the case, then you are undoubtedly socially "disabled" and beyond hope. Either way, please, please stop posting this crap.

[carrie721]

Originally Posted by skcin

You're mean.

sorry, i get off on preying on the weak.

You're either a mad genius or developmentally disabled. I still can't figure out which, so shame on me.

lately i've been leaning towards evil genius.

[skcin]

Originally Posted by chriskisn

I'm curious though, the title of this thead says it all. For those people who are over the Ethan-centred threads why do you even bother reading it? I like Ethan, I do, but I don't bother reading these theads any more. I'll sometimes quickly skim (as I'm doing now) to see if there is anything I want to read then move on. (Personally I tend to do this with most of the Chit Chat forum not just Ethan related threads).

I would understand the concern if Ethan was hijacking other threads and talking about himself (and maybe he has done this in the past I don't know) but really he can talk about himself to his hearts content in a thread clearly marked so and those who care can contribute and those that don't can ignore it.

So, I'm finished skimming, going back to reading the thread about Paper Doll now...

I don't know. I honestly don't. And I didn't for several days, until I noticed there were a bunch of replies & I came to see what was being discussed. My own fault, for sure.

Originally Posted by Miss Vicky

Ethan -

At the risk of repeating what others have said (I got cross-eyed trying to make it through this thread, so I didn't actually read every post), the reason why so many Ledgies have a problem with your posts is that, even after nearly 4 years of being here, you haven't matured a bit.
You constantly profess that you have changed, but absolutely nothing has changed. Why, in the very first post of this thread you said this:

and you then proceeded to ramble on and on and ON about some girl you liked in HIGH SCHOOL but never had the balls to ask out or even express your feelings to until it was too late.

And you wonder why people got annoyed as hell and started mocking you, criticizing you, etc.?

Clearly you either don't actually realize just how annoying you truly are or you take glee in irritating the hell out of people. If the latter is the case, just own it already. If the former is the case, then you are undoubtedly socially "disabled" and beyond hope. Either way, please, please stop posting this crap.

ITA.

Originally Posted by carrie721

sorry, i get off on preying on the weak.



lately i've been leaning towards evil genius.

1) You need a hobby.
2) I'm with you.

[sara1998]

God damn, Ethan... how old are you now?

Want to talk emotional life? Find your mother screwing another man - not your father. While they're still married.

Give birth to a 2 lb. baby. Go home without her. Visit her in the hospital everyday for 2 months.

Survive the suicide of your husband at 25 years old. Then explain it to the 4 year old.

IDK, maybe I'm a hardened bitch, but seriously? Emotional life? Then you go on and on about some girl? I know I don't have it that bad. I'm not even complaining. But there is my "emotional life" summed up in 50 words or less. I guess my point is that you're a grown man. Suck it up and move on, or get some professional therapy.

A mini vent by: Maria

[HomerMcvie]

Originally Posted by sara1998

God damn, Ethan... how old are you now?

Want to talk emotional life? Find your mother screwing another man - not your father. While they're still married.

Give birth to a 2 lb. baby. Go home without her. Visit her in the hospital everyday for 2 months.

Survive the suicide of your husband at 25 years old. Then explain it to the 4 year old.

IDK, maybe I'm a hardened bitch, but seriously? Emotional life? Then you go on and on about some girl? I know I don't have it that bad. I'm not even complaining. But there is my "emotional life" summed up in 50 words or less. I guess my point is that you're a grown man. Suck it up and move on, or get some professional therapy.

A mini vent by: Maria

10 characters...

[FMlex]

BOOM! Roasted.

[GODDESS6]

Originally Posted by sara1998

God damn, Ethan... how old are you now?

Want to talk emotional life? Find your mother screwing another man - not your father. While they're still married.

Give birth to a 2 lb. baby. Go home without her. Visit her in the hospital everyday for 2 months.

Survive the suicide of your husband at 25 years old. Then explain it to the 4 year old.

IDK, maybe I'm a hardened bitch, but seriously? Emotional life? Then you go on and on about some girl? I know I don't have it that bad. I'm not even complaining. But there is my "emotional life" summed up in 50 words or less. I guess my point is that you're a grown man. Suck it up and move on, or get some professional therapy.

A mini vent by: Maria

well said & oh soooo true~

[carrie721]

Originally Posted by skcin

1) You need a hobby.
2) I'm with you.

stop victimizing me.

Originally Posted by sara1998

God damn, Ethan... how old are you now?

Want to talk emotional life? Find your mother screwing another man - not your father. While they're still married.

Give birth to a 2 lb. baby. Go home without her. Visit her in the hospital everyday for 2 months.

Survive the suicide of your husband at 25 years old. Then explain it to the 4 year old.

IDK, maybe I'm a hardened bitch, but seriously? Emotional life? Then you go on and on about some girl? I know I don't have it that bad. I'm not even complaining. But there is my "emotional life" summed up in 50 words or less. I guess my point is that you're a grown man. Suck it up and move on, or get some professional therapy.

A mini vent by: Maria

you're my favorite hoosier ever.

a mini suck-up by: carrie

[Black_Moon]

Originally Posted by sara1998

God damn, Ethan... how old are you now?

Want to talk emotional life? Find your mother screwing another man - not your father. While they're still married.

Give birth to a 2 lb. baby. Go home without her. Visit her in the hospital everyday for 2 months.

Survive the suicide of your husband at 25 years old. Then explain it to the 4 year old.

IDK, maybe I'm a hardened bitch, but seriously? Emotional life? Then you go on and on about some girl? I know I don't have it that bad. I'm not even complaining. But there is my "emotional life" summed up in 50 words or less. I guess my point is that you're a grown man. Suck it up and move on, or get some professional therapy.

A mini vent by: Maria

I wish you could hear people applauding you over the internet.

[Zombie]

Originally Posted by sara1998

God damn, Ethan... how old are you now?

Want to talk emotional life? Find your mother screwing another man - not your father. While they're still married.

Give birth to a 2 lb. baby. Go home without her. Visit her in the hospital everyday for 2 months.

Survive the suicide of your husband at 25 years old. Then explain it to the 4 year old.

IDK, maybe I'm a hardened bitch, but seriously? Emotional life? Then you go on and on about some girl? I know I don't have it that bad. I'm not even complaining. But there is my "emotional life" summed up in 50 words or less. I guess my point is that you're a grown man. Suck it up and move on, or get some professional therapy.

A mini vent by: Maria

Not a hardened bitch. A realist. Also, well said.

I read this whole thread. Because I'm a masochist. And I figured something interesting was going on due to all the replies. D'oh.

Ethan, everyone goes through hard times. Some, like Maria, go through harder times than others. And maybe some, like Maria, have more tools in the mental toolbox to handle hard times than others do - whether they have tools already due to natural tendencies or they figured out how to build new tools to suit - but you can either get some new tools so you can work with what you've got or you can spend the rest of your life unhappy and Kermit-flailing to strangers on the Ledge.

If you need professional therapy, I can provide invaluable life advice for a mere 5 cents. Like Lucy.

Actually, I don't even need the nickel. This one's a freebie, and I reproduce it in its entirety as it was told to me many moons ago when bad stuff was happening with me (okay, actually, I was in labor with my son, and a friend was being sarcastic, but nevermind). I use it daily, and it's proven to be completely applicable in nearly all life situations. Here you go:

Walk it off, flower.

It's a small phrase, but I find it instantly puts things in perspective.

Good luck with all that, dude.