Gay dating

[mylittledemon]

David, eventually you'll meet that person who loves all those quirky things about you. I can sit here all day and give you advice, but it doesn't matter much... because there is nothing you really need to change. If you do change something, do it for yourself... because you want to, not because someone else wants it.

I find that usually during those times, the right person will come along when you least expect it. All my past "long term" relationships (the good ones anyway) came along when I wasn't even looking for them.

[EnchantedKiwi]

WTF! David! Your the king of this forum! I don't know why anyone would consider saying such things! Anyone who speaks to you like that isnt worth the time of day, and it disappoints me that this ignorant person is a member on The Ledge.

I'm sure you can see everyones got your back Its just annoying for some reason, people can't get over their prejudices (probably due to their own insecurity).

And anyway didn't LB say you lost weight!! You are one lucky guy

[vivfox]

David I know exactly how you feel. Right now I'm the fattest I've ever been in my life and almost everyone I talk to tries to give me unsolicited advice on how to lose weight.
However, I have been overweight for several years now and strangely enough I've had more dates with major hot and thin guys while I've been fat, and much more fun with them than when I was thin.
Also there have been several public verbal attacks against me recently on this board that almost made me want to stop posting completely. Then I thought to myself, "Viv, just keep posting 'cause there are more nice Ledgie's than mean ones and I like it here so screw 'em, I'm staying."

[fringed n fab]

Vivfox I would stay right here and wouldn't move. You seem nice and you contribute to the board and people seem to like you so you stay for those ones over the ones that don't. I tend to think most people are nice and easy to chat with and befriend on these fan boards, but I have also found them sometimes to be sort of clique-ish and some tend to pick and choose their friends which that's ok because in turn we can do the very same if need be. But I just try to get along with everyone really even tho I'm known to be outspoken sometimes. I have also found that no matter how hard you try, some people just simply will never like you and that goes for online people and ones in real life. You just live with that and surround yourself with people that do.

[louielouie2000]

I used to find the board quite cliquish as well, and that was a big turn off for me. I went years without posting because of it. Then one day I realized that I just didn't give a damn about any of it, and that I was going to start sharing my opinion even if a single person didn't care what I said. It seemed like for a long time I was largely ignored. But the more I posted, the more people perhaps took seriously what I had to say, and saw I had something to add around here. I'm sure there are people who would love to see me shut the hell up. But this is my favorite band damnit, and they aren't going to affect that in the least! I'm going to keep on posting here because I love Fleetwood Mac, and I love interacting with others who like the band. If others don't like what I have to say, or don't like me personally... that's fine. That's their problem, not mine. I'm not out to make others happy here. I'm not here to be popular. If somebody doesn't like me, they can just ignore me. I'm simply on here to voice my opinions, and read others. I hope to disperse some knowledge, and hope even more to gain some.

If somebody were to attack me personally, I'd see that as a weakness on their part. Why? Because it's so easy to attack somebody personally. The tougher thing to do is to dispute opinions and differences through logic and reason and facts. It chafes a certain group of people's asses that I like Stevie Nicks. They try to throw personal insults at her and try to degrade me to make their points clear. The thing they don't realize, is they make their points perfectly clear: they're intellectually weak, and can't have carry out a dispute using purely factual evidence. They have to make it personal. So when other people take cheap digs at you Dave, remember they're simply showing their own inherent weakness, and their own insecurities. They're the ones with far bigger problems to work on than you!

[diane_k]

Horrifying!

I can't believe what some people have the nerve to post. So sorry to hear of all of this, and I mean it.

[fringed n fab]

Well I like you Louie. You're cool as far as I'm concerned and obviously a vital member here. I like your posts and what you have to say. We chatterboxes are what move these boards along lol.

[MoonWaterPoet]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Ok, it seems that I recieved a PM yesterday from someone here that felt it neccesary to make disparaging remarks about me. I wont name the person here because that's not my style but you know who you are because you obviously read this thread. The person wrote and I quote "Honey, no one wants to date Jonah the whale. And besides you're not even good looking. Oh and if you think I'm the only one that feels this way, you're wrong because I've recieved Pm's from SEVERAL other people saying the same thing." Ok fine I can accept that. I know i'm overweight and I'm not exactly what you'd call hot, but I would NEVER even fathom of treating another member here the way this person treated me. In case you didn't know Mr. smart ass, my weight issues are tied to my depression which has been made worse since my mother nearly died last year. I have been working on it, but I have a long way to go I know. I have done nothing but try to be a friend to everyone here and be as friendly as possible and it really hurts that there are people here talking behind my back like this because like I said I would never do that to someone else. The only reason I started this thread is because I genuinely wanted advice on how I could meet someone and have a boyfriend, not to be insulted and backstabbed. I'm just totally disgusted with this board right now and quite honestly I dont want to come somewhere where people dont like me and I dont even know who they are.

David ~ I am so sorry you had to endure any kind of backlash like this from your post... People who bully other people like this, is truely insecure with their ownselves... and just ignore them. I know it's hard to... I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve on these message boards, only to have some mean people to pounce on me... Some people forget that We are All Human Beings with true Life feelings, though they think they can be mean to one another... But we are real people behind these email addresses and screen names... And we all have feelings... So don't pay any attention to these bashers... Karma is a Bitch...

xoxoxox to You... ;-)


Donnie Wayne ~

[MoonWaterPoet]

Originally Posted by MoonWaterPoet

David ~ I am so sorry you had to endure any kind of backlash like this from your post... People who bully other people like this, is truely insecure with their ownselves... and just ignore them. I know it's hard to... I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve on these message boards, only to have some mean people to pounce on me... Some people forget that We are All Human Beings with true Life feelings, though they think they can be mean to one another... But we are real people behind these email addresses and screen names... And we all have feelings... So don't pay any attention to these bashers... Karma is a Bitch...

xoxoxox to You... ;-)


Donnie Wayne ~

I also meant to add... that... "There is An Ass, for Every Chair that is Made" ~... Send that response to the one who made the bad remarks... J/K...


Donnie Wayne ~

[louielouie2000]

Originally Posted by fringed n fab

Well I like you Louie. You're cool as far as I'm concerned and obviously a vital member here. I like your posts and what you have to say. We chatterboxes are what move these boards along lol.

Thank you Shane! Your personality is starting to reveal itself through your posts as well, and I'm liking what you have to say too! I look forward to "getting to know you" more in time.

As a rebuttal, I say the more people who don't like what any of us say, the more we talk! It's exactly opposite of what anyone who dislikes another person wants. So David, post away my friend!

[MoonWaterPoet]

Originally Posted by louielouie2000

Thank you Shane! Your personality is starting to reveal itself through your posts as well, and I'm liking what you have to say too! I look forward to "getting to know you" more in time.

As a rebuttal, I say the more people who don't like what any of us say, the more we talk! It's exactly opposite of what anyone who dislikes another person wants. So David, post away my friend!

Amen ~ Louie...


Donnie Wayne ~

[mylittledemon]

Originally Posted by DavidMn

Ok, it seems that I recieved a PM yesterday from someone here that felt it neccesary to make disparaging remarks about me.

Btw, why didn't you forward this PM to a mod? Regardless of the fact that it was sent in private, it's still not cool.

[LukeA]

Originally Posted by fringed n fab

No not at all. I was actually agreeing with you about whoever it was that was trying to be "cute" and so mean.

That's what I thought No worries!

I also thought that I had already posted a response to you hours ago, but it seems to have disappeared without notification or explanation- which is odd, since it didn't contain anything controversial or inflammatory. A mystery!

[fringed n fab]

Originally Posted by LukeA

That's what I thought No worries!

I also thought that I had already posted a response to you hours ago, but it seems to have disappeared without notification or explanation- which is odd, since it didn't contain anything controversial or inflammatory. A mystery!

It's cool... and don't you hate when that happens? lol

[fringed n fab]

Originally Posted by louielouie2000

Thank you Shane! Your personality is starting to reveal itself through your posts as well, and I'm liking what you have to say too! I look forward to "getting to know you" more in time.

As a rebuttal, I say the more people who don't like what any of us say, the more we talk! It's exactly opposite of what anyone who dislikes another person wants. So David, post away my friend!

You're welcome. For almost 10 years now ever since I have been online I have tried to be as genuine and as real on here as I am offline with people and I always hope people pick up on that because I never wanted to be someone else when I sit down in this chair when online. I talk and carry on the same as if you were right here with me in person. So that's how I always wanted to be around people on here. Just myself really. I know some people prefer to escape on here and take on a whole other persona from themselves but that was never me. I also like people to make up their own minds regarding me and not ever be steered by what anyone else would have to say. If I could sum myself up quickly I would say I am outgoing and funny, outspoken about topics on occasion (but I always mean well) and I can be very serious sometimes. Like sit down Oprah serious. You'll just have to see sometime I guess.