A Little Bit of Relationship-ial Venting~

[Musicman408]

So, (yes I know starting with so may not be the best, but for some reason, it helps me get my thoughts together ), I am sure some of you were aware of that girl that I was kind of interested in (the one from the Waffle House picture. Well, I was trying to take some time and get to know her. We have had several math study sessions together, which she initiated by the way, and I thought things had been going well. I make her laugh a lot (she's even told me as much). But after the one before last, her Facebook messages became shorter, and the last study session was not quite as intimate as the others. I was trying to read things like body language and things, but the big thing was that she wasn't talking very much. She is a very quiet and demure girl, but this was less than usual.

Then this evening, I went down to the lobby for something, and I see her with a guy friend of hers, and she was sitting much closer, body turned toward his, and seemed to be more animated than she was with me. At that moment I knew for a fact that I'd be forced to move on from her. It does kind of hurt me that once again, I lose the one I would like to spend some time with as more than just a friend, but I guess it is just something that you get used to. That being said, I'm a very passionate person, and it is just hard for me and sometimes I don't know what to do. I just want for someone to be interested in me, and for me to not have to worry about these things.

On the positive side however, one of the desk clerks who is not to terribly unattractive if you know what I mean (however she does have a boyfriend), commented on how much she liked my sweater, in the elevator. She then acknowledged that she always seems to be complimenting my attire, and that I am a very snazzy dresser. This being said in front of her boyfriend, I do believe. So anyway, it's not that I am interested in this girl at all, but just the fact that she acknowledged me in that way, really made me feel good about myself.

Anyway, just wanted to vent a little bit and make of this what you will.

Take Care,
Ethan

[SuzeQuze]

Sorry to hear this happened. Women are attracted to confidence and assertiveness. Maybe you waited too long to make a move. That being said, you never know what could happen in the future.

[Gypsy-Rhiannon]

Originally Posted by Musicman408

So, (yes I know starting with so may not be the best, but for some reason, it helps me get my thoughts together ), I am sure some of you were aware of that girl that I was kind of interested in (the one from the Waffle House picture. Well, I was trying to take some time and get to know her. We have had several math study sessions together, which she initiated by the way, and I thought things had been going well. I make her laugh a lot (she's even told me as much). But after the one before last, her Facebook messages became shorter, and the last study session was not quite as intimate as the others. I was trying to read things like body language and things, but the big thing was that she wasn't talking very much. She is a very quiet and demure girl, but this was less than usual.

Then this evening, I went down to the lobby for something, and I see her with a guy friend of hers, and she was sitting much closer, body turned toward his, and seemed to be more animated than she was with me. At that moment I knew for a fact that I'd be forced to move on from her. It does kind of hurt me that once again, I lose the one I would like to spend some time with as more than just a friend, but I guess it is just something that you get used to. That being said, I'm a very passionate person, and it is just hard for me and sometimes I don't know what to do. I just want for someone to be interested in me, and for me to not have to worry about these things.

On the positive side however, one of the desk clerks who is not to terribly unattractive if you know what I mean (however she does have a boyfriend), commented on how much she liked my sweater, in the elevator. She then acknowledged that she always seems to be complimenting my attire, and that I am a very snazzy dresser. This being said in front of her boyfriend, I do believe. So anyway, it's not that I am interested in this girl at all, but just the fact that she acknowledged me in that way, really made me feel good about myself.

Anyway, just wanted to vent a little bit and make of this what you will.

Take Care,
Ethan

Do you ever tell these girls you're interested in them? Women/girls aren't mind readers you know

[Musicman408]

Originally Posted by Gypsy-Rhiannon

Do you ever tell these girls you're interested in them? Women/girls aren't mind readers you know

They aren't????? I was giving her plenty of signals, so I am pretty sure she had an idea. I'd tell her how pretty she was, various things she'd do that were cute, and stuff like that. So I'm pretty sure if she were at all interested, she would have kind of returned these favors. Like I said, I often get complimented on my attire, but never once did I hear it from her. Get my point?

[Chrislit18]

Oh Ethan....
You need to FB message me....

Honey, you do need to tell these girls before stuff goes on...

And with WaffleHouseGirl [not using names...]...was it the same night she was with the other kid? If not it may just be she was having a bad day or something. Trust me, girls have bad days.

like I said hon,
FB me.

[estranged4life]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Women are attracted to confidence and assertiveness.

that memo, I thought it was looks and money that attracted women...

Count me out on both confidence and assertiveness

[camchristo]

How many of these threads have you started? Have you ever taken any advice that anyone has given you? It seems like you are always interested in girls out of your league or girls that already have boyfriends. I don't know why I'm wasting my time responding though, because you will probably never come back to this thread. Do you really think a message board of strangers is going to be able to cure your relationship woes? If you act in real life how you act on message boards, it will probably be a really long time before you have a relationship.

[chriskisn]

Originally Posted by camchristo

How many of these threads have you started? Have you ever taken any advice that anyone has given you? It seems like you are always interested in girls out of your league or girls that already have boyfriends. I don't know why I'm wasting my time responding though, because you will probably never come back to this thread. Do you really think a message board of strangers is going to be able to cure your relationship woes? If you act in real life how you act on message boards, it will probably be a really long time before you have a relationship.

ouch...

[chiliD]

Originally Posted by camchristo

How many of these threads have you started? Have you ever taken any advice that anyone has given you? It seems like you are always interested in girls out of your league or girls that already have boyfriends. I don't know why I'm wasting my time responding though, because you will probably never come back to this thread. Do you really think a message board of strangers is going to be able to cure your relationship woes? If you act in real life how you act on message boards, it will probably be a really long time before you have a relationship.

Originally Posted by chriskisn

ouch...

Truth hurts.

[Zombie]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Women are attracted to confidence and assertiveness.

Except for those of us that often mistake being a jerk for confidence and assertiveness...

[ashton]

Originally Posted by camchristo

How many of these threads have you started? Have you ever taken any advice that anyone has given you? It seems like you are always interested in girls out of your league or girls that already have boyfriends. I don't know why I'm wasting my time responding though, because you will probably never come back to this thread. Do you really think a message board of strangers is going to be able to cure your relationship woes? If you act in real life how you act on message boards, it will probably be a really long time before you have a relationship.

I would be fascinated to know if you feel any better about yourself now? I found it interesting that the basis of your "post" was about someone posting too much, yet you read the post, responded to it and even acknowledged that it was a waste of your time. Yet somehow the original poster should be viewed as the odd one?

I hope it accomplished something, but putting others down in an attempt to lift your self up rarely works and tends to make you like rather nasty in the process.

[LukeA]

Originally Posted by ashton

I would be fascinated to know if you feel any better about yourself now? I found it interesting that the basis of your "post" was about someone posting too much, yet you read the post, responded to it and even acknowledged that it was a waste of your time. Yet somehow the original poster should be viewed as the odd one?

I hope it accomplished something, but putting others down in an attempt to lift your self up rarely works and tends to make you like rather nasty in the process.

I don't know- I thought the message was crafted rather tactfully, and posed legitimate criticisms and observations.

[jannieC]

Interestingly, this happens in a lot of Ethan's threads. He posts about something, people start arguing over the validity of his post, and then either Ethan will not come back to the thread, or if he does, he is shocked that people are being crappy to one another over it. I really do find the Ethan Phenomenon quite fascinating in an almost clinical way.

[camchristo]

Originally Posted by ashton

I would be fascinated to know if you feel any better about yourself now? I found it interesting that the basis of your "post" was about someone posting too much, yet you read the post, responded to it and even acknowledged that it was a waste of your time. Yet somehow the original poster should be viewed as the odd one?

I hope it accomplished something, but putting others down in an attempt to lift your self up rarely works and tends to make you like rather nasty in the process.

Hey Ashton. I feel fine about myself. Both before my post and after. I have a successful career and I'm in a great relationship. I have a lot of close friends. When I have problems, as we all inevitably do, I talk to my friends. I listen to their advice and take it to heart. Likewise, when they have problems, I listen and provide my suggestions to improve things. I don't post about my personal problems continuously on a public message board. It's certainly fine to do so, if one is comfortable with that. But when people take the time to respond and provide advice, the one requesting it should take it into consideration once in a while.

I've been around here, and other message boards, dealing with Ethan and his ways for quite a while. He has a definite pattern of starting new threads about his various issues, both technical and personal, and then abandoning his threads. So, if he treats people in real life the way he does online, it's no wonder he has problems.

Sorry if you had a problem with my post. I didn't think it was nasty or out of line. However, it always seems that whenever anyone criticizes Ethan, there is someone waiting to jump to his rescue. Note that he rarely defends himself, he just lets the discussion ensue in his absence.

Thanks for your concern about my well-being.

[GoldDustOrphan]

My advice: touch her boobs.
Girls like that.