A Little Bit of Friend/Girl Trouble (yay for venting). Advice requested,

Musicman408 · #1 08-16-2007, 08:23 PM

Well, here I am, just feeling like I need to vent a little about friends and girls here. One of my good friends, who is the drummer in my band is probably going to end up having a girlfriend here pretty soon, and the girl is one that I sort of am attracted to, I guess.... But the point is not that.

My friend had one girlfriend for about a year and a half. They eventually started having sex WITHOUT protection. This friend and myself, and really all of my friends, don't have the same morals as me. He wasn't worried about pregnancy, and if she DID get pregnent, he'd just make her get an abortion, like it's THAT SIMPLE!!!! Now, you gotta understand, this happened like two years ago, but it's just his thing with girls that makes me so mad.

He really doesn't want a "relationship" he just wants sex. And my other good friend is turning into the same way, although he hasn't gotten any, if you know what I mean.

What gets me mad is that the girl that he currently has his eyes on is a very good, sweet, CHRISTIAN girl (my friends are all for the most part Athiest) and I am scared that he might corrupt her. Like I said earlier, my friend really doesn't care to have a relationship, he just wants to get some action, and if having a relationship with someone is what he needs to have to get it, he'll do it. The sad thing is, is that girls don't know this about him, and I really want to tell this girl to be careful.

You know, here I am, little hopeless romantic me going off again, to shy to get anything started with a girl, but this whole thing frustrates me. My guy friends are just... I don't know, all they seem to be focused on these days are girls. Oh and did I mention what they refer to them as? "Lady Foxes". OMG that drives me freaking insane. I don't really know what to do, and was wondering if any of you all had any suggestions. And YES, I have vented this same topic in song form.

So anyway, I am just feeling a little down right now. Thankfully it's the weekend and we get to go the studio on Saturday, but I just don't know how much more of this kind of stuff my heart can take.........

Much Love,
Ethan

irishgrl · #2 08-16-2007, 08:45 PM

Ethan, you're getting your knickers in a knot for nothing.

If this girl is a good Christian girl (I'll have you know, "other" girls are "good" too~) as you say, her upbringing will be her armour. If her priorities and values are in the "right" place, she'll see your bandmate for what he is.

If you want to "warn" her as a friend, I dont see any harm. She may even appreciate it. Of course, she may not listen or take your advice, but then, she'll have learned a valuable life lesson. Just be there for her if she needs you and chances are it will all work out OK.

ps: "Lady Foxes" is nothing to get steamed up over IMO. its FAR better than "Bitch" or "HO" that I objected to in another thread

carrie721 · #3 08-16-2007, 08:51 PM

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Originally Posted by Musicman408

What gets me mad is that the girl that he currently has his eyes on is a very good, sweet, CHRISTIAN girl (my friends are all for the most part Athiest) and I am scared that he might corrupt her.

ugh. dude, get a clue.

Chrislit18 · #4 08-16-2007, 08:52 PM

This almost made me cry. Im in the same age group as you Ethan, [im 15....] and it seems all guys are like that [its nice to see at least one...you...not be a complete assbag....], If i was that girl, I would want to be warned about a guy like that. Even if he is your friend, he has no right to treat a girl like that. just dont be all wierd about it. just tell her once, and be sincere about it, and if she doesnt listen itll be her own problem. but if i were you, i wouldnt say anything to your friend, if he is a good/true friend you wouldnt want to ruin your relationship over a girl.

and about likeing her [well kindofsortof...

] if you really do, just tell her. seriously. the one thing i HATE about guys is when they like/dont like you and they dont tell you but constantly act like they like you. it gets annoying [esp. this one guy...dont even get me started...little assbag....] but dont try to downplay anything, if she asks especially. girls like guys who are upfoward with them..

oh and tell your friend to get some protection, because its not even about pregneancy, its about just having safe sex...what about deseases? thats the biggest problem. and he cant MAKE a girl get an abortion.

just stating my opinion, as a teenage girl who deals with guys [who sound similar to your 'friend' all the time...]

irishgrl · #5 08-16-2007, 08:53 PM

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Originally Posted by carrie721

ugh. dude, get a clue.

CARRIE! for shame! just because YOU got corrupted by the Dick extension, doesnt mean everyone ELSE is!!

carrie721 · #6 08-16-2007, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by irishgrl

CARRIE! for shame! just because YOU got corrupted by the Dick extension, doesnt mean everyone ELSE is!!

i'm serious, i think that phone was broken

irishgrl · #7 08-16-2007, 08:55 PM

wrong number?
operator, Ive been cut off?

Operator, get me Jesus on the line???? (Manhattan Transfer anyone?

BlackWidow · #8 08-16-2007, 08:57 PM

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Originally Posted by irishgrl

CARRIE! for shame! just because YOU got corrupted by the Dick extension, doesnt mean everyone ELSE is!!

ilu bb ilu

irishgrl · #9 08-16-2007, 08:59 PM

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Originally Posted by BlackWidow

ilu bb ilu

back atcha my dear! remember, I was your first Ledgie girl

BlackWidow · #10 08-16-2007, 09:01 PM

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Originally Posted by irishgrl

back atcha my dear! remember, I was your first Ledgie girl

the one with one face..not two.

Richard B · #11 08-16-2007, 09:13 PM

Let me rain harder on your parade. Girls do not like romance. They like adventure, thrills and bad boys. If you think of your self as more of a teen romancer kind of guy, date women. Especially women approaching 40 and have more than 3 cats. They are ripe and ready for "romance."

Good luck!

Chrislit18 · #12 08-16-2007, 09:14 PM

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Originally Posted by Richard B

Let me rain harder on your parade. Girls do not like romance. They like adventure, thrills and bad boys. If you think of your self as more of a teen romancer kind of guy, date women. Especially women approaching 40 and have more than 3 cats. They are ripe and ready for "romance."

Good luck!

I am sorry, but I must dissagree with your post.
Id rather 'romance' than a guy who just wants to f**k up, and go nowhere with thier lives. even if i dont end up with a guy, i dont want my name attachted to some loser....

carrie721 · #13 08-16-2007, 09:15 PM

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Originally Posted by Richard B

Let me rain harder on your parade. Girls do not like romance. They like adventure, thrills and bad boys. If you think of your self as more of a teen romancer kind of guy, date women. Especially women approaching 40 and have more than 3 cats. They are ripe and ready for "romance."

Good luck!

best advice this recycled thread has ever seen

Richard B · #14 08-16-2007, 09:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Chrislit18

I am sorry, but I must dissagree with your post.
Id rather 'romance' than a guy who just wants to f**k up, and go nowhere with thier lives. even if i dont end up with a guy, i dont want my name attachted to some loser....

You are a serious minority. GIRLS say they want the romance, but girls really don't. Not saying they just wanna get laid either.

Girls are different than women.

Chrislit18 · #15 08-16-2007, 09:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Richard B

You are a serious minority. GIRLS say they want the romance, but girls really don't. Not saying they just wanna get laid either.

Girls are different than women.

I can agree with that statement.
But the main thing is, I just dont dont want to be used...for sex or anything else, and thats mostly what 'bad boys' do. I mean, I dont want a goodygoody...but not some guy who only is with me so they can get laid. In between is a good place for an ideal guy IMO.