Orientation Poll

[seeker007nmss]

Originally Posted by LikeAWillow

To slightly paraphrase a lovely little gay fluff pic,

A lovely little gay FLUFF pic?

"I am not gay, I am just FAB-U-LOUS!"

[Mari]

I couldn't tell what percentages go for me, really! There's just so many different reasons why I feel attracted to someone, and whether I'd like to have a relationship or not. I gave up wondering/worrying about the male-female thing a few years ago. I just know I'll never be completely gay or straight. What's the big deal

[LikeAWillow]

Originally Posted by seeker007nmss

A lovely little gay FLUFF pic?

"I am not gay, I am just FAB-U-LOUS!"

I love it. Don't make fun of this cat though, or he might just pop a cap in your ass.

[seeker007nmss]

I am not afraid, My HomeKitty has my back!

[LikeAWillow]

I prefer the Old School gangsta's...

[seeker007nmss]

Originally Posted by LikeAWillow

I prefer the Old School gangsta's...

Oh That kitty has my back too!

[LikeAWillow]

You win.

[seeker007nmss]

Originally Posted by LikeAWillow

You win.

Is it safe to post again?

[Rickypt]

Originally Posted by AliceLover

I have learned that its very hard to find another gay guy to be with when you aren't out of the closet and go to an all boys school. My friends do not suspect a thing. All of my best friends are guys and I am not attracted to them at all, which is why I think I am their friends. I really don't have any girl buddies that gay guys usually have just because, IMO, I come off as straight. Theres this girl thats rubbing up to me and talk that she likes me or so I hear, so thats gunna get awkward fast.

Its. Hard. Being. Gay.

Ryan we should start a club.

Jimmy, it is hard being gay. Not saying it's not hard for other people or as hard as other people, but it's hard. As long as we are oppressed and kept from reaching our full potential and happiness and as along as people like that basketball dude feel like they can spew vitriol at us as a group and suffer minimal consequences, then it's okay to say it is hard. Otherwise, you would be able to be at an all boys school and be out of the closet, find other gay guys to be friends/bf's with, etc.

Things have gotten a lot better. Your generation has it better than my generation, which has it a lot better than the generation before me. Just that fact that you are semi-out and can talk to other gay people on this board is light years better than I had it. I was out when I was 16-17, but I had to sneak into gay bars and my "friends" were 35 year old gay dudes trying to deflower me.

But....it's hard. You should be able to be open with all of your friends and it shouldn't be a big deal to anyone.

[Rickypt]

Originally Posted by BlackWidow

I wish you and I lived closer..I have a feeling we would be great friends!
Tom & I do get a little to insular sometimes. My gay single friends seen very threatened by our 8 yr relationship..it pushes buttons..because we really are terrific together and very happy. Envy sets in most of the time I have found.
I have close straight guy friends who are now coupled & married. So we end up hanging out with a couple of gay men couples that seem to be working well. I miss having a close male gay friend I can really talk to! You are very special - hang with people that get you and YES..Respect you and your time. That group you mentioned sounds good and WORTH pursuing!!!
Andre

You have a nice, healthy outlook and I do think we would be good friends.

Oh, Landslide just came on. I think I'll dedicated it to you.

~This is for you, Andre.

[BlackWidow]

Originally Posted by Rickypt

Jimmy, it is hard being gay. Not saying it's not hard for other people or as hard as other people, but it's hard. As long as we are oppressed and kept from reaching our full potential and happiness and as along as people like that basketball dude feel like they can spew vitriol at us as a group and suffer minimal consequences, then it's okay to say it is hard. Otherwise, you would be able to be at an all boys school and be out of the closet, find other gay guys to be friends/bf's with, etc.

Things have gotten a lot better. Your generation has it better than my generation, which has it a lot better than the generation before me. Just that fact that you are semi-out and can talk to other gay people on this board is light years better than I had it. I was out when I was 16-17, but I had to sneak into gay bars and my "friends" were 35 year old gay dudes trying to deflower me.

But....it's hard. You should be able to be open with all of your friends and it shouldn't be a big deal to anyone.

I have said everything you have said and more..in the past!
You can also attract what you defend against. People get how to treat you..FROM YOU. Friends and lovers. Yes..there are assholes out there.
But - lots of great men too. When I worked on myself...let all my ideas and complaining go...I met Tom. Set your standards high...like attracts like.
You can find plenty of people to tell you otherwise. That is why they are crying in their beer too.

[amber]

Originally Posted by bretonbanquet

Straight guy here

We better capture and tag you, so we can track your movements. It's important that we study endangered Ledge species so that we can better understand them and their habitat, and perhaps gain insight as to why their numbers are so low...

[Johnny Stew]

I had a couple of crushes on girls when I was a teenager and in my early 20s, and I clung desperately to those crushes as a sign that I wasn't gay -- that I was "just maybe, hopefully, only bisexual."

When I finally admitted to myself that those crushes were completely devoid of any sexual feelings, and that the sexual feelings I did have were always directed at other guys, I gave up on the Great Bi Hope and accepted the fact that I'm a big ol' 10-on-the-Kinsey-Scale 'mo.

[BlackWidow]

Originally Posted by Johnny Stew

I had a couple of crushes on girls when I was a teenager and in my early 20s, and I clung desperately to those crushes as a sign that I wasn't gay -- that I was "just maybe, hopefully, only bisexual."

When I finally admitted to myself that those crushes were completely devoid of any sexual feelings, and that the sexual feelings I did have were always directed at other guys, I gave up on the Great Bi Hope and accepted the fact that I'm a big ol' 10-on-the-Kinsey-Scale 'mo.

That was beautiful.

[Johnny Stew]

Originally Posted by BlackWidow

That was beautiful.

Thanks!

Of course, I forgot the Kinsey Scale only goes up to 6... but I'm probably still a 10, even at that.