A Little Girl Help Please

[Musicman408]

Ok, so maybe you know, maybe you don't but to just remind you, I am totally crazy about this girl named Sarah. We know each other more than aquantances but we aren't friends in the sense that we like do stuff together. We are in this singing group together and she is partnered with this one guy whom she at one point had feelings for, but he is a jerk and rude, and she has definately told me that and has told me she can't stand him. Yet when they are together, she talks to him more than she ever talks to me.......

I would absolutely love to date this girl, but I doubt she has feelings for me, but then again maybe the semi not talking to me thing is her way of hiding her feelings. Now what is weird, is on myspace I am in her top friends, and this guy isn't. I used to message her all the time, and at first she would write me back, but pretty much every time since then, I haven't heard from her..... There are so many things that I could say to her (hints the like 17 songs about her). So I ask you all this. Do I tell her how I feel? and if so how?

The choral group we are in performs these dinner things and they start tonight and run through saturday. We are called Madrigals and are these royal people from the 1600's and are dressed in these elaborate costume, and she is just soooooooo unbelievably beautiful that everytime I look at her my heart just melts.......

So guys what should I do? Talk to me about this....... All help would be greatly appreciated.

Much Love,
Ethan

[irishgrl]

not sure what you should do about your girl troubles, but I like the idea of your performing madrigals! that is so cool.....Ive been getting into medieval music lately and have had a hard time finding Madrigals and such on CD. I hope you have a great time.

as for the other, I think if it were me and it was really bothering me, I'd go up to her and ask her why she doesnt respond to your messages any more.
Maybe her boyfriend got wind of it and is jealous.

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by irishgrl

not sure what you should do about your girl troubles, but I like the idea of your performing madrigals! that is so cool.....Ive been getting into medieval music lately and have had a hard time finding Madrigals and such on CD. I hope you have a great time.

as for the other, I think if it were me and it was really bothering me, I'd go up to her and ask her why she doesnt respond to your messages any more.
Maybe her boyfriend got wind of it and is jealous.

I don't think she has a boyfriend.

I think I would ask her out if I were you. Do you kids date anymore? You could do something together. I don't think you have to profess your feelings for her just yet. You can put yourself out there by asking her on a date without wearing your heart on your sleeve. Know what I mean?

[markolas]

Yes, I agree. Telling her you're in love with her, or have feelings for her, will probably put her right off. Just ask her out. To dinner or something. And never take someone to a fast food restaraunt on a date. Though possible exceptions could be made for Chipotle or Chick-fil-A (just not the ones in the food court at the mall).

[irishgrl]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

I don't think she has a boyfriend.

I think I would ask her out if I were you. Do you kids date anymore? You could do something together. I don't think you have to profess your feelings for her just yet. You can put yourself out there by asking her on a date without wearing your heart on your sleeve. Know what I mean?

I guess I just assumed her "partner" was her boyfriend

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by irishgrl

I guess I just assumed her "partner" was her boyfriend

I think he meant singing partner.

[joshywashy377]

How old are you? Im sixteen and still deep within those high school dramas... Trust me i know exactly how you feel. I would have to agree completely with the girls on this one, the best thing you can do is ask her out, which up here pretty much means that you sit together at lunch and spend hours and hours on the phone. But trust me, i have let many many girls who i had those same feelings for slip by, and i have regretted every single one of them. I've also asked a girl who i was IN LOVE with if she would and she said no. yes it was crushing at the time but ultimately im glad i did it. I dont know about you but im the way overly shy type and i think even if she does say no, its a good growing oppurtunity and you can still keep trying anyways. And if she says yes, then problem solved! The best of luck with whatever you do.

[Musicman408]

Yall are right, she doesn't have a boyfriend. Yes I am very shy and self consious about myself. I am very short (we're talking like 5 3ish 4 ish) and have never asked a girl out because I feel that they wouldn't want me....... So honestly I don't know. The imaginative side of me dreams of asking her out and being with her. Then the "down to earth" side of me is saying that she would never want to be with me. If I ask her and she says know, that creates awkward tension because in essence she knows I have feelings for her and all of that.......

I just wish I knew how she feels about me right now. For me potentially asking someone out is a HUGE deal because for some reason for me (and my sister too) romantic feelings are always this big hush hush secret kind of thing......... I mean, nobody really knows about Sarah except for yall and my sister..............

I also tend to not know what to say to her. Like walking up to her and just starting a conversation........ I always ask her how she is or whatever, but that doesn't often carry into a long affair.........

Now, let's say I am going to ask her out, what would be the best way to do it to give me the best chance of a yes???

Thank you all for your comments and such. I really appreciate it.

Much Love,
Ethan

[emfan2377]

Originally Posted by Musicman408

Yall are right, she doesn't have a boyfriend. Yes I am very shy and self consious about myself. I am very short (we're talking like 5 3ish 4 ish) and have never asked a girl out because I feel that they wouldn't want me....... So honestly I don't know. The imaginative side of me dreams of asking her out and being with her. Then the "down to earth" side of me is saying that she would never want to be with me. If I ask her and she says know, that creates awkward tension because in essence she knows I have feelings for her and all of that.......

I just wish I knew how she feels about me right now. For me potentially asking someone out is a HUGE deal because for some reason for me (and my sister too) romantic feelings are always this big hush hush secret kind of thing......... I mean, nobody really knows about Sarah except for yall and my sister..............

I also tend to not know what to say to her. Like walking up to her and just starting a conversation........ I always ask her how she is or whatever, but that doesn't often carry into a long affair.........

Now, let's say I am going to ask her out, what would be the best way to do it to give me the best chance of a yes???

Thank you all for your comments and such. I really appreciate it.

Much Love,
Ethan

Don't worry that your height would be a big issue. I dated a man that I had a good 3 inches on. He's barely over five foot. I never made an issue out of.

I think you should go for it. The worst she can say is no.

[Musicman408]

Thank you for your words em fan. For those of you who might be interested in what the group sounds like, google ballard high school madrigal audio and click i'm feeling lucky..... Then scroll down until is says ballard magrigals. The performace was back in like 2002, but that is what our group sounds like......

Keep on with the girl advice,
Much Love,
Ethan

[joshywashy377]

Man I think you and me should hang out sometime! I'm that same exact way, where you feel like if you asked a girl out she just wouldnt feel that same way, that cursed down to earth side! there are so many factors that go into going out with someone, the social issues are countless (friends, different cliques (which are still very much around)) and can seriously stop a realationship in its tracks. i think the best way you can ever make something out of it is to ask her out. Are you friends with her friends (or could you be?) cuz that is one of the key things is to make sure they like you and that way you may be able to ask them what she thinks of you.

[CelticGypsy]

Good luck, Ethan and just ask her out to a movie or just to have a soda. If you are in same singing group than it should be easy to talk to her. It has been a very long time since I was in high school but as a girl, I would be very flattered if any young man asked me out on a date so just go and ask her to the movies or out for a soda and hamburger (do they do this anymore?) and if she says No then at least you tried. I am sure she will be thrilled that you asked her out. Hope everything turns out great.

[SuzeQuze]

It's such a risk because there is no way you can know her feelings beforehand. It doesn't work that way unfortunately. But you're a fine young man whether she's says yes or no, right? Try not to put so much weight in her answer. I know how hard that is. I kept everything in my heart a secret when I was your age too and could barely take a risk to save my life. It gets easier! It just takes practice. Remember what we old people say, when you look back on your life you don't regret the things you did just the things you didn't do. I think the movie is a good idea because then you have something you can talk about.

[BTFLCHLD]

You could ask her to practice singing with you away from the rest of the choir and see how receptive she is to that.

[DrummerDeanna]

Everyone has good advice I think it's important to not lay it all down - don't come across as too intense, that could freak her out...

I'll add my name to the "just ask her out for a date" group...see what happens from there...Good luck!!