ahhh! I'm so frustrated.

JazmenFlowers · #1 10-16-2006, 10:53 AM

seriously. I am so PO'd...I'm sick to death of the job I have. god. and I hate feeling this way. so today is boss' day, right? and I work for 3 attorneys. no one mentioned anything about doing a gift from the team or anything and I was kind of like, ok, well, guess we won't do one. but this morning I was feeling gracious and thought we should at least do a little something. so, I email everyone and say if you want to contribute to a gift card to a little cafe downstairs, let me know by 10. so, 10 comes and goes, and get a couple of dollars from folks. I go down, get cards for all 3 and gift certificates for 2 (the other one has an assigned paralegal and I thought it was really her role to get a "gift") - anyway, I get back and the senior paralegal has responded and said the main boss is a stickler for firm policy of "no gifts" - now, what does that mean? and why is she just now responding? and then she says, but I'll contribute if the group does. wtf? does that mean? so, I just gave them all the cards and kept the gift cert. for now. I mean, I'd look like a dumbass. this is just the latest in a line of things that piss me off here. what's a bitch to do? I'm so over it. I need to find something else, seriously. and not to mention that everything they told me in my interview to get me here was a lie. I left a job I had been at for 4 years with senior classification...come and go as I please, preapproved overtime and working for the big partner. they lied to get me here and now I'm screwed.

anyway, thanks for letting me vent.

GypsySorcerer · #2 10-16-2006, 11:06 AM

That sucks, Jason. Life is miserable if you're miserable at work. You've got a lot of paralegal experience, so hopefully you could find another job if you wanted. Or, if you're looking to get out of the legal field, it might be a good time to think about starting a new career. I hope everything works out for the best.

ryan8472 · #3 10-16-2006, 11:08 AM

I'm sorry you work for assholes, honey. Remember, you can always pour rat poison into their coffee.

Nobody would evar knowww.....

BTFLCHLD · #4 10-16-2006, 11:09 AM

THOSE BASTARDS! I am finding with quite a few friends that seems to be the a standard business practice - lie to get them in the door. If that were ever a situation for me, I would get everything in writing before hand. I hate office politics...so I feel for you. Chitty how they handled the whole boss-day bit. Good for you in wanting to make an effort though...that shows kindness in the face of jerks. sorry that happened jazzy.

Rickypt · #5 10-16-2006, 11:11 AM

I can't believe there is such a thing as "Boss Day".

Jazmen, the important thing is that you did the nice and gracious thing. Why not start shopping your resume; I'm sure someone will jump to get a smart and talented person like you.

JazmenFlowers · #6 10-16-2006, 11:18 AM

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Or, if you're looking to get of the legal field, it might be a good time to think about starting a new career.

exactly. I think I do want to do something outside the law firm world. I'm sick of it and I can't see myself at 50 doing this. I do have one lead, but I'd have to move and I don't know if I can swing that right now, but we'll see.

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Originally Posted by ryan8472

I'm sorry you work for assholes, honey. Remember, you can always pour rat poison into their coffee.

Nobody would evar knowww.....

I volunteered to make the cakes for the monthly birthday celebration (feeding about 150 folks) and I seriously thought about dropping in a little weed. but alas, I can't do it. see, I'm even baking for these bitches. argh!

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

THOSE BASTARDS! I am finding with quite a few friends that seems to be the a standard business practice - lie to get them in the door. If that were ever a situation for me, I would get everything in writing before hand. I hate office politics...so I feel for you. Chitty how they handled the whole boss-day bit. Good for you in wanting to make an effort though...that shows kindness in the face of jerks. sorry that happened jazzy.

I know. I should've gotten it in writing cause now overtime is "discouraged" and the traveling they went on and on about ain't happening either.

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Originally Posted by Rickypt

I can't believe there is such a thing as "Boss Day".

Jazmen, the important thing is that you did the nice and gracious thing. Why not start shopping your resume; I'm sure someone will jump to get a smart and talented person like you.

it's a joke, right? to have Boss' Day, I know. I did what I thought I'd want someone to do for me (that's the way I usually approach anything). I'm gonna start looking around. hell, I may end up on a street corner before it's all said and done just to get out!

SuzeQuze · #7 10-16-2006, 12:15 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

exactly. I think I do want to do something outside the law firm world. I'm sick of it and I can't see myself at 50 doing this. I do have one lead, but I'd have to move and I don't know if I can swing that right now, but we'll see.

I volunteered to make the cakes for the monthly birthday celebration (feeding about 150 folks) and I seriously thought about dropping in a little weed. but alas, I can't do it. see, I'm even baking for these bitches. argh!

I know. I should've gotten it in writing cause now overtime is "discouraged" and the traveling they went on and on about ain't happening either.

it's a joke, right? to have Boss' Day, I know. I did what I thought I'd want someone to do for me (that's the way I usually approach anything). I'm gonna start looking around. hell, I may end up on a street corner before it's all said and done just to get out!

They lied to you so do whatever the f* you want. Hell, keep the gift cert and if anyone asks you about it say, "What gift certificate?"

Or, write "Happy boss day to the most honest (crossed out) boss in the world." on the card. I hate bad bosses and unfortunately there are plenty to go around.

DrummerDeanna · #8 10-16-2006, 01:02 PM

I'm sorry Jazz - that just sucks - and as said before - life sucks when life at work is ****ty---so I hope things get better...

cliffdweller · #9 10-16-2006, 01:44 PM

Sorry about all of the ****, Jason. Is this the job you were thinking about taking a while back? I remember there being a thread or something... Anyway, don't get too discouraged, perhaps things will lighten up soon. you haven't been there that long have you?

DavidMn · #10 10-16-2006, 01:53 PM

Buddy, I feel for you. You try to do something nice and you get F***ED.

JazmenFlowers · #11 10-16-2006, 02:03 PM

thanks for letting me vent. ehhh, it'll be ok. I've been listening to If You Were My Love to calm down and it worked. I will forgive, but not forget.

jannieC · #12 10-16-2006, 02:46 PM

I remmember when you were struggling about whether or not to take this job. I'm sorry it has turned out to be not a happy situation for you, Jason. To think that you were just doing something sweet and you got kicked in the teeth for it...

Anyway, it probably would be best for you to at least start keeping your eye out for other possibilities right now. You have so much going for you.

JazmenFlowers · #13 10-16-2006, 02:50 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

I remmember when you were struggling about whether or not to take this job. I'm sorry it has turned out to be not a happy situation for you, Jason.

yeah, me too. I had high hopes for this job. it sucks that I often regret leaving my last job. regret.ain't.fun.

sara1998 · #14 10-16-2006, 02:54 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

yeah, me too. I had high hopes for this job. it sucks that I often regret leaving my last job. regret.ain't.fun.

I really hate going through work stress. It all works out in the end, but it's so hard to see that when you're in the thick of it. Keep your head up, babe. It'll get better eventually.

cliffdweller · #15 10-16-2006, 03:32 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

yeah, me too. I had high hopes for this job. it sucks that I often regret leaving my last job. regret.ain't.fun.

Been there, done that. Just remember that it's always good to try to better yourself, that's what you were doing right? Just because this situation didn't work out, it doesn't mean you made a mistake, you tried it and realized it didn't work for you, chalk it up to a learning experience. Just don't be afraid to continue to take risks, sometimes they pay off!