Would you want to know? - Page 3

HomerMcvie · #31 09-15-2006, 02:32 AM

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Originally Posted by sparky

It's easy to romanticize the past. We're all guilty of it. I did kind of the same thing. I can only speak for myself, but I keep exhaustive journals. I was not as happy as I think I was in hindsight. I was worried about the future and pissed that I wasn't independent. Now is better. I know who I am and what I want. I have some power. I am way more f*ckable than I was then (much to my surprise). And I have money ! 40 kicks ass !

I remember a moment at 21, sitting in my friend's driveway(waiting for them to get home from work, for the party to start),.....looking at myself in the rearview mirror, and telling myself that life was never going to be ANY more fun that this, at this moment in time(and it wasn't the PARTY, but those who were present). Ten(or so) of us, who were practically inseparable, at that time. I've never had friends like that since. God I miss them.

But, kinda back to AMber's point, or the antithesis(your point), having money and all the responsibility that goes with, certainly doesn't buy happiness(maybe only some distractions). And I find all that responsibility (or blame it for) taking away from what I perceive as a happy life, or the time/ability to achieve it. Yet, I can't seem to bring myself to abandon the American dream!

amber · #32 09-15-2006, 02:49 AM

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Originally Posted by sparky

Now is better. I know who I am and what I want. I have some power. I am way more f*ckable than I was then (much to my surprise). And I have money ! 40 kicks ass !

Plus, you have a pool.

Yeah, your life seems pretty fun. It seems like your work is a great fit for you and you enjoy it. That is important.
I'd probably at least like to see 60. There is so much to find out about, I wouldn't want to miss cool things. As long as I feel okay.

As to your guys' points about money, I see what you are saying, but you don't have to think about it that way. I know that is true that it gets more complicated. On the other hand, it decomplicates a bunch of other things. I feel like it is possible to have a different mindset about it. Plus, that is what life is and always has been is a set of responsibilities and tasks that you have to accomplish in order to continue your life. It is a challenge to be satisfied with what you already have sometimes, not want to get or achieve more always. It helps to simplify if you pare down your priorities to more essential and important things.
I dunno.

irishgrl · #33 09-15-2006, 07:45 AM

The only thing wrong with this premise is that people's fates can be influenced by a myriad of things they might do or not do, thus the actual "end date" could change. I guess Im trying to say I dont believe in a hard and fast fate, I think our lives have multiple possibilities that depend upon our choices in the here and now (or even from our past).

Now I have a question and a comment:
1) DrummerDeanna, did that bus accident ever happen when you were 15? and
2) Sparky, I didnt know you were 40! How many 40somethings are on this board? (raises hand)

sammigold · #34 09-15-2006, 07:57 AM

I would not want to know...

I am happy being alive and want to stay that way as long as possible.. if its going to be cut short I dont want to know...!

markolas · #35 09-15-2006, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by sparky

It's easy to romanticize the past. We're all guilty of it.

I'm not. I hear people my age (late 20s, pushing 30) going on about how great high school was, and how much they miss being that age, and I think...how could *I* miss that?? I was a sexually repressed closet case with no friends. I hated my family and couldn't wait to escape that ****hole town I was from and never have to see any of those people again.

There are things I would have done differently if I could go back in time, but those were far from enjoyable years for me.

My 20s have been no great shakes, either. When I first moved to Austin, I thought everyone was my friend. I found out real fast that was definitely not the case. And I'm still dealing with the fallout from that.

So, I'm definitely not ready to go anytime soon. My 30s and 40s better be kick-ass to make up for the last 27 years.

JazmenFlowers · #36 09-15-2006, 08:38 AM

I've thought about this since yesterday and I still can't say 100%, but I don't think I'd want to know. I'd focus entirely on that and probably worry myself into the grave.

chiliD · #37 09-15-2006, 10:22 AM

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How many 40somethings are on this board? (raises hand)

50somethings count?

(raises hand)

SuzeQuze · #38 09-15-2006, 10:37 AM

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...I am gonna hit home plate with a cocktail in one hand, a cigarette in the other, and a big ole grin on my face.

But you're not compatible with strand?

estranged4life · #39 09-15-2006, 10:42 AM

have to be in my Uncle Doyle's position from earlier this year-He went to the hospital complaining of pain in the abdomen (Which had swelled up) to only be told he had cancer (He was never sick a day in his life)...He died less than 7 days later.

If I am gonna die soon, I dont wanna know since it may put an obvious cramp in purchasing upcoming music releases.

SuzeQuze · #40 09-15-2006, 10:43 AM

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Originally Posted by markolas

I'm not. I hear people my age (late 20s, pushing 30) going on about how great high school was, and how much they miss being that age, and I think...how could *I* miss that?? I was a sexually repressed closet case with no friends. I hated my family and couldn't wait to escape that ****hole town I was from and never have to see any of those people again.

There are things I would have done differently if I could go back in time, but those were far from enjoyable years for me.

My 20s have been no great shakes, either. When I first moved to Austin, I thought everyone was my friend. I found out real fast that was definitely not the case. And I'm still dealing with the fallout from that.

So, I'm definitely not ready to go anytime soon. My 30s and 40s better be kick-ass to make up for the last 27 years.

My 30s have been way better than my 20s if that's any consolation.

estranged4life · #41 09-15-2006, 10:47 AM

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My 30s have been way better than my 20s if that's any consolation.

fun in my 20's than I do in my 30's, but life is somewhat more relaxed now than it was in my hectic 20's (ie-Tech school 40 hours a week along with 40 hours of work a week)

I'll should reach the 40's in a few years, I'm not betting on seeing the 50's however.

irishgrl · #42 09-15-2006, 12:53 PM

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Originally Posted by chiliD

50somethings count?

(raises hand)

Well, Im right behind ya missy, only two years away from the midpoint

DrummerDeanna · #43 09-15-2006, 01:16 PM

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Originally Posted by irishgrl

Now I have a question and a comment:
1) DrummerDeanna, did that bus accident ever happen when you were 15? and

Did I say 15? I meant 35. She told me it would happen when I was 35. I'm not there yet.

The weird thing is - I'm not a big believer in that stuff, mostly because of my upbringing. BUT the other stuff she told me? Eerie. She told me I'd meet a mate in three years, that he'd be either a music buff, or in the music industry, he'd have long hair and an off-the-way sense of humor.

At the time I thought she meant Weird Al - so I was very excited about the prospect of meeting him

But seriously - 3 years after that reading - I met my boyfriend - long hair, biggest music collection I've ever seen, and well that was just eerie to me.

So - she got that right - but I don't ever take the bus...

She also said "3s" play a big role in my life - don't know exactly what that means....it was all odd - and even stranger that I still remember what she told me all these years later...

sparky · #44 09-15-2006, 01:40 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

But you're not compatible with strand?

Not sexually. But we have lots of other stuff in common.

sparky · #45 09-15-2006, 01:50 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

Plus, you have a pool.

Believe me, that helps.

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As to your guys' points about money, I see what you are saying, but you don't have to think about it that way. I know that is true that it gets more complicated. On the other hand, it decomplicates a bunch of other things.

The right mindset makes all the difference. It makes a few problems go away, but it brings problem with it. Just logistical crap. For example. yeah I have a pool, and a huge yard, and house that is pretty big. And I work long hours. So, I need a pool guy. I need a yard guy. I need a maid and don't have one. You hire people, you have to pay em and keep track of them. Pools and yards and houses also require maintenance, thought, and time. Even if you hire the work out. Money doesn't make that all go away. It still takes up mental space.

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I feel like it is possible to have a different mindset about it. Plus, that is what life is and always has been is a set of responsibilities and tasks that you have to accomplish in order to continue your life. It is a challenge to be satisfied with what you already have sometimes, not want to get or achieve more always. It helps to simplify if you pare down your priorities to more essential and important things.

It's possible to have a different mindset. But it's no cake walk. My life was much simpler in a crappy apartment. The satisfaction thing is tough. I am pretty satisfied, but I am also a progress and motion junkie. I need to feel growth and momentum to be happy. Which makes for complications. It's all good, basically. But it's not simple.