My boyfriend is in the psych ward - Page 2

DavidMn · #16 09-07-2006, 08:05 PM

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Originally Posted by irishgrl

Aw, sweetie, you know Im grieving for ya....here's a virtual *hug* and a *kiss* and a prayer for you both

Hang in there, do what your heart tells you is best

Right back atcha babe!

jannieC · #17 09-07-2006, 08:08 PM

I hope Derek gets the help he needs and that you two can start a new life together. I have been in your shoes. If you're able, get some help and start talking either to a therapist or a group (AL-anon) to address your co-dependency issues. The stronger YOU are, the better you'll be able to help Derek. xoxoxo

DavidMn · #18 09-07-2006, 08:12 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

I have been in your shoes.

Great point! One of the reasons I share these things is that we all go through our lives, and you never know who you run into might be dealing with some form of mental illness. I do it everyday, and I'm more than willing to share my experiences, if for no other reason than to raise more awareness for the issue. Having said that, I believe people here are very understanding of it and not ignorant at all.

gldstwmn · #19 09-07-2006, 08:26 PM

You know, in my own kooky way I don't see this as a bad thing. He is trying to help himself and he just took the first step.
Hang in there baby.

DavidMn · #20 09-07-2006, 08:27 PM

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Originally Posted by gldstwmn

You know, in my own kooky way I don't see this as a bad thing. He is trying to help himself and he just took the first step.
Hang in there baby.

I will. Thank you.

JazmenFlowers · #21 09-07-2006, 08:42 PM

well good for him to be smart enough to go to the hospital and try to work through it. I think you need to do what you need to do and let him go through his treatment and then re-evaluate things when he gets out. you may both realize that either this relationship is or isn't worth salvaging. if you both want it, I hope it works out; but it has to be a mutual "want to" and I hope, either way, you both find what you need and are happy.

try to be there for him as much as you can and as needed, but be there for yourself as well.

DavidMn · #22 09-07-2006, 08:44 PM

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Originally Posted by JazmenFlowers

well good for him to be smart enough to go to the hospital and try to work through it. I think you need to do what you need to do and let him go through his treatment and then re-evaluate things when he gets out. you may both realize that either this relationship is or isn't worth salvaging. if you both want it, I hope it works out; but it has to be a mutual "want to" and I hope, either way, you both find what you need and are happy.

try to be there for him as much as you can and as needed, but be there for yourself as well.

I'm definitely realizing that now, the think about yourself part. It's very sobering indeed.

WelshWitchPMD · #23 09-07-2006, 09:15 PM

David, I am sorry that you are going through this but I do hope that Derek gets the help that he needs. I hope that the 2 of you can work it all out.

Rickypt · #24 09-07-2006, 11:58 PM

David,

While it's hard to see, the bright light in this (as has been said by so many on this thread) is that Derek is getting some badly needed help.

Like I've said, people do drugs for a reason, and hopefully Derek will get to the root of his problems with this professional help so the both of you can move to a much better place in your relationship and lives--if that's what you both decide.

Just please make sure you get the support you need and look out for yourself with the same energy as you are for Derek.

You have a lot of friends on this board who care---Ryan

desertangel · #25 09-08-2006, 02:42 AM

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Originally Posted by DavidMn

I think it's ironic that as things look up for me, they take a turn for the worse for him. Guess you never know do you.....

I have a few people in my life like that, a couple of them are family members. And it's been going on for years. I don't believe in the irony of it anymore. I won't say what I believe it is because you are a gentle soul and I don't want to seem negative. Only wish you the best and will pray for you.

sammigold · #26 09-08-2006, 05:39 AM

Hi David,
I wasnt here when the "highway" incident happened so I dont know the past history of your relationship and your friend derek..... but I notice that you said that "derek went to the doctor" and that is the most positive thing you could say.... If he had gone because you made him then you would have little or no progress, but as he has gone of his own accord I feel that maybe he has taken some personal responsibility for his depression and is accepting that he needs help... The first step to getting better, whether it be due to addictions or due to mental illness, is the willingness to ask for help...

I think it is very important to remember to look after your own personal needs as well as supporting Derek through this time...

sounds like he may be on the road to a possible recovery.... hope it all works out for you.

GODDESS6 · #27 09-08-2006, 06:27 AM

awww david, good luck w/ all of this

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SuzeQuze · #28 09-08-2006, 07:25 AM

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Originally Posted by gldstwmn

You know, in my own kooky way I don't see this as a bad thing. He is trying to help himself and he just took the first step.
Hang in there baby.

I don't either. My first thought was, "Great!" People need help to get off of drugs, you can't do it on your own. Good for him for getting help.

skcin · #29 09-08-2006, 12:00 PM

Nothing wrong with supporting your BF. But be strong & don't let him bring you down with him. Things are going well for you now, so don't let that go.

SuzeQuze · #30 09-08-2006, 12:13 PM

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Originally Posted by skcin

Nothing wrong with supporting your BF. But be strong & don't let him bring you down with him. Things are going well for you now, so don't let that go.

Right, just keep focusing on you staying healthy. Check out Al Anon's site if you're interested http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/