LIFE SUCKS!!!! Nothing can get worse then this! - Page 3

Enchanted_Stevi · #31 05-09-2006, 09:24 AM

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Originally Posted by Sorcerer386

Caitlin, I don't know you very well...I can't claim to know everything you've gone through, and even if I did I might not be able to say I can relate. However, as someone with a terrible anxiety disorder, I can tell you that this thought pattern is not healthy for you. Now, I don't want this to sound condescending or like I'm talking down to you, but for your own sake, you have to look at some positives in your life, as hard as it may be to remember them. Which, I'm talking about this string of bad luck since 1997, NOT about the foreclosure on the house. You may not realize it because you're young, but these negative thoughts do build up in your subconscious, and I'm scared that one day they will explode like they did with me. I wouldn't wish what happened to me on anyone. I know life for you is hard right now, and again, I don't know you very well, but it still scares me anytime ANYONE says they are sick of life. Take this for what it's worth: you can bash me, tell me to shut up, agree with me, whatever. But, I thought I should offer that advice. Hang in there...sometimes the people with the hardest childhoods end up having the best adult lives.

I totally agree with everything u say. I do have really bad anxiety and depression. I scare myself when I say I am sick of life. I just cant stand it anymore. It seems like everything goes wrong in it. I do really hope I have a great adult hood. I do take medicine for my anxiety and depression but I keep on forgeting to take it...STUPID ME! Thanx again for those words

Enchanted_Stevi · #32 05-09-2006, 09:28 AM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

pearls of wisdom caitlin
we all care about you
friends and family love you
find the positive caitlin

Thanx Niki I kno That i do have many freinds and family that care about me....I aleays try to find positive stuff

Enchanted_Stevi · #33 05-09-2006, 09:30 AM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

Caitlin,
Hang in there. Just take every day as it comes and do your best. Please don't ever say you are sick of life. What you are going through is rough, but try to find a few moments in your sadness and stress to think of people who have gone through hard things and made it through alright. Be there for your family too. As hard as this is on you, it's got to be harder for them to lose what they worked for. It's probably safe to say that on top of that they feel that they may have failed their children. Be strong for them and take comfort in eachother.

Thank You... I really dont like to say i am sick of life but that is my feelings. I try to confort my mom and her boyfreind but its kinda hard to comfort 2 alcoholics...When I come home from school they r already like buzzed

Enchanted_Stevi · #34 05-09-2006, 09:33 AM

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Originally Posted by ragandbone

Hi Caitlin, I actually went through this when I was 17. It is scary, and awful I know, and I am really sorry to hear that you are going through this!

For me the hardest thing was that my mother was so stressed, and caught up in the legal problems, that I couldn't lean on her at all when I needed to. I recall that I made a lot of bad decisions at that time, while looking for a feeling of security, and I didn't really look for guidance from adults who were outside my family.

Obviously I don't know the details of your situation, aside from what you posted, but I want to encourage you to find some steady mentor or counselor (school?), teacher, or relative, to talk to while all of this is going on.
I think it is really great that you shared this with us.

Thanx...I am glad i am not the only one who has went through this! I HATE to see my mom cry and I try to comfort her but I start crying and its just so hard to be strong when ur whole family is stressed and try to lean on eachother and we cant. I do have people I talk to about this tuff like Niki(BTFLCHLD) and my frind Ally

jannieC · #35 05-09-2006, 10:58 AM

Caitlin, sometimes things that seem totally ****ty happen for a reason. Maybe you need to get away from your mom and her boyfriend for a little while if they're buzzed when you come home from school? You *will* get through all this, and it will make you a stronger adult. I had a lot of hardships at your age too- my father died suddenly when I was 17- and I made horrible choices. I ended up raped and left for dead in when I was 21. Try to stay strong and focused and as someone said earlier- find a stable adult (school counselor, etc) to help you through this process. The adults on this board are here for you too, but you definitely need someone in "real" life in your corner, helping you make decisions. Hang in there and please try to make it a priority to remember to take your meds. Things will seem unbearable if you don't.

Enchanted_Stevi · #36 05-09-2006, 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

Caitlin, sometimes things that seem totally ****ty happen for a reason. Maybe you need to get away from your mom and her boyfriend for a little while if they're buzzed when you come home from school? You *will* get through all this, and it will make you a stronger adult. I had a lot of hardships at your age too- my father died suddenly when I was 17- and I made horrible choices. I ended up raped and left for dead in when I was 21. Try to stay strong and focused and as someone said earlier- find a stable adult (school counselor, etc) to help you through this process. The adults on this board are here for you too, but you definitely need someone in "real" life in your corner, helping you make decisions. Hang in there and please try to make it a priority to remember to take your meds. Things will seem unbearable if you don't.

I have been telling myself that I need to get away for a while for a month or 2....I REALLY need a vacation!!!!!! I will be strong...I AM related to my mom....lol...I am actually in this thing at school which 3 of my freinds r in with me and we talk about our parents drinking and doing drugs...it helps me cope

BTFLCHLD · #37 05-09-2006, 12:03 PM

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Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

...I am actually in this thing at school which 3 of my freinds r in with me and we talk about our parents drinking and doing drugs...it helps me cope

and you know how pleased i am you have become a part of this group...
talking about your shared experiences in a structured enviornment will become a positive direction for you...
as ive said it is not good to keep things in honey...
i am very very proud of you

keep it up caitlin...moving forward...
youve so much to look forward to sweetgirl

life is sweet...always remember you are loved

ragandbone · #38 05-09-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

I am actually in this thing at school which 3 of my freinds r in with me and we talk about our parents drinking and doing drugs...it helps me cope

I am really glad you have that group, and I am glad to hear that you have some other adult support, including Niki.

I wanted to quickly respond to dreamongypsydkm
's post to say that I can check off some of the horribles listed,and some not listed like many other Ledgies, and just like so many adults, (alcoholic parent, watching a parent try to kill the other, date rape, and on) and I do count the house foreclosure as traumatic and difficult. I don't even think I could rate awful events as being more or less horrible, what can be the most difficult is the cumulative effect of these events. Some people are more resilient, and better equipped for adversity than others.

It is hard to have perspective when you are in the spin cycle, and I often find myself wishing now that I could go back and tell me teenage self about all of the amazing adventures I would have in life, and that there would be more "bad luck" and but also a lot of good and so many opportunities. And, I wish I could have known how much control and power I already had over my own life.

Sorceror386 brought up an important point: watch out for the negative loop that can happen when you feel overwhelmed, and keep talking to your friends and advisors! This is a great time to plan where you want to be in a few years and make it happen.

DavidMn · #39 05-09-2006, 04:03 PM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

david...youve turned MOD?
we are having a discussion
sharing views only
thanks

I wasnt coming after you dear. sorry.

Enchanted_Stevi · #40 05-09-2006, 07:07 PM

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Originally Posted by BTFLCHLD

and you know how pleased i am you have become a part of this group...
talking about your shared experiences in a structured enviornment will become a positive direction for you...
as ive said it is not good to keep things in honey...
i am very very proud of you

keep it up caitlin...moving forward...
youve so much to look forward to sweetgirl

life is sweet...always remember you are loved

Niki I am so glad u are proud of me!!!!!!!

BTFLCHLD · #41 05-09-2006, 09:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

and youve something else to share with us, dont you younglady?

we all want to hear about the p/t phonework you begin
friday with your mom...youre so
'jazzed' about that and so am i!!! youre going to be
very good @ it as you shown with your trail-run today!
excellent news caitlin! keep finding the positive

Sorcerer386 · #42 05-09-2006, 10:18 PM

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Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

I totally agree with everything u say. I do have really bad anxiety and depression. I scare myself when I say I am sick of life. I just cant stand it anymore. It seems like everything goes wrong in it. I do really hope I have a great adult hood. I do take medicine for my anxiety and depression but I keep on forgeting to take it...STUPID ME! Thanx again for those words

Oh you are very welcome hon. I'm just glad that you took it as I meant it and not as something derrogatory. As far as your adulthood, now, I know I might be getting into rather far-fetched things, but whenever I can, I watch Montel on Wednesdays because Sylvia Browne, the psychic, is on every Wednesday. I remember her saying on one episode that everyone has some point of extreme roughness in their lives, either early on, in the middle, or near the end. She apparently had a rough life early on, and she said she was glad that she did because she got it over with. So, hopefully it'll be the same for you.

GODDESS6 · #43 05-09-2006, 10:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Enchanted_Stevi

MY HOUSE IS BEING FORECLOSED!!!!! In 2 months I will be homeless!!!!!!! I might have to move with my dad. Which means I wont have a computer I DONT KNO WHAT TO DO!!!!!

i am very sorry to hear this, but things could get worse, when i was your age my father passed away suddenly, i would give any house just to have him back~

don't worry things will look up~

BTFLCHLD · #44 05-11-2006, 02:12 PM

hi caitlin
how are you doing?

irishgrl · #45 05-11-2006, 03:27 PM

Caitlin, I dont know you but I can relate. I lost ALL my belongings when my husband deserted me. I was pregnant with a 4yr old and in a new town. didnt know anyone, didnt have a car or phone, didnt know anyone and my family all lived somewhere else. its tough. But, you will survive. you WILL.

Im there for you. believe it.