Appropriate or Not?

[amber]

What do you think?

Tonight in my Family Law class, my teacher was talking about genetic tests and a bunch of other stuff. Anyhoo, in one of his examples, he said something like..."maybe the mom doesn't know who the father is. Maybe something something she's a WHORE and slept with two people in one week. Which is GROSS!"
He said Whore and Gross. He was judging a theoretical person's sexual activity. But not just judging in his head, but using the words "whore" and "gross" out loud to us.
Bet you can guess if I thought it was inappropriate or not...

[amber]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

That was incredibly inappropriate. I hate it when professors get away with saying crap like that in class.

Oh, good.
He's a good teacher, and a nice man, but that was bad.
I have a "thing" about people judging other people on their sexual activities, and using words like "whore" and "skank". Which actually don't describe any personality qualities of a person, but connotes the person is bad based only on their sexual partnerships. Hate.
On the upside, some girl asked me if I worked in a Family Law office b/c it seemed from my comments and stuff that I knew a lot about it. Oh, and she worked in a Family Law office. So, I guess I don't sound dumb in class....
I was going to say something to the prof., but I chickened out. Sigh.
Anyway, it's weird, because of course he is very liberal in general. I've noticed, though, that lots of liberal people still haven't shed these old standards of judgement. It's too bad.

[GypsySorcerer]

Yeah, not very cool. Totally inappropriate, and I loathe the sexual double standard that still exists.

[Janet]

I don't think that was appropriate. Using such strong words like that was not necesarry.

I would go as far as saying something to this teacher...not cool.

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Originally Posted by Janet

I don't think that was appropriate. Using such strong words like that was not necesarry.

I would go as far as saying something to this teacher...not cool.

Yeah. Again, I chickened.
I was thinking of saying something next week, but the moment will be lost....

[sparky]

Sounds like a good opportunity for discussion. Judgemental and Inappropriate ? Hmmm.

He is probably being a bit cavalier in letting his attitudes spill over into his teaching. What do his opinions have to do with the point he was trying to make ?

I don't know that I would call anyone a whore for sleeping with two people in a week, but I would call some who had unprotected sex with two people in a week an idiot. Certainly not a whore. Calling it gross is probably in the eye of the beholder.

The word judgemental is a bit overused. We're all judgemental. Thankfully. Without judgement we would be aimless.

[amber]

Originally Posted by sparky

Sounds like a good opportunity for discussion. Judgemental and Inappropriate ? Hmmm.

He is probably being a bit cavalier in letting his attitudes spill over into his teaching. What do his opinions have to do with the point he was trying to make ?

I don't know that I would call anyone a whore for sleeping with two people in a week, but I would call some who had unprotected sex with two people in a week an idiot. Certainly not a whore. Calling it gross is probably in the eye of the beholder.

The word judgemental is a bit overused. We're all judgemental. Thankfully. Without judgement we would be aimless.

Technically, I didn't use the word judgemental. Of course we all are. But this one is stupid.
Gross is in the eye of the beholder. I still think it's bad to say in that situation. He often lets his views spill over, but no others have been offensive... And you know I'm not the kind of person that thinks many things are inappropriate.
And calling someone an Idiot for doing what you said is acceptable to me. (btw, the story "The Idiot" by Dostoevsky is good)
I don't think his judgement or his venue was appropriate in this case. But then, like I said, I have a "thing". And it's not because I'm a ho, it's because I think it's wrong. Always have. Have never, ever, ever, even thought of using/judging people about that. There are so many more relevant things to judge people about.

[Karlie]

That's very inappropriate. Teachers shouldn't be allowed to say stuff like that.

[tynan88]

I found that a lot of my teachers make comments, but I don't tend to worry about them because I agree...I think there is a lot of double standards in what is appropriate to discuss in class or not...but that's just my opinion, I just generally find that it is often the more liberal teachers willing to talk their opinions up.

[amber]

Originally Posted by tynan88

I found that a lot of my teachers make comments, but I don't tend to worry about them because I agree...I think there is a lot of double standards in what is appropriate to discuss in class or not...but that's just my opinion, I just generally find that it is often the more liberal teachers willing to talk their opinions up.

I usually agree, too. And I hardly ever find anything inappropriate. And almost everyone is liberal where I live.
This one was different, though.
And I would submit that a truly liberal teacher shouldn't have that particular judgement.
But I'm not going to die or anything. I probably will say something, though, I'm sure he'll appreciate my honest feedback.... Or maybe not. We'll see.


Hi, Tynan! long time no see!

[tynan88]

Yer Amber, I was actually in a car crash last week and have been spending most of time in the Stevie forum.

Good to talk to you

[amber]

Originally Posted by tynan88

Yer Amber, I was actually in a car crash last week and have been spending most of time in the Stevie forum.

Good to talk to you

I hope you are OK, although I don't see how the crash and the Stevie forum are related. Oh, you probably only have time to check one forum.

Are you ok?

[tynan88]

Yer, I'm fine, I have just found myself in last week only checking the Stevie forum as much because I am organising trying to send out Women's Weekly magazines to people. I am very fatigued from it but no actual physical injuries a.

I rolled the car twice after hitting a gutter at only 60km/hr so I am very lucky, I am trying to get back in to swing of things now

[amber]

Originally Posted by tynan88

Yer, I'm fine, I have just found myself in last week only checking the Stevie forum as much because I am organising trying to send out Women's Weekly magazines to people. I am very fatigued from it but no actual physical injuries a.

I rolled the car twice after hitting a gutter at only 60km/hr so I am very lucky, I am trying to get back in to swing of things now

well thank goodness.
wait - you rolled the car?!?!?
Yes, you are lucky.
But otherwise it's good to hear that you are merely busy.
I want the mag, too, but I'm not a super collector girl, not by trade...I'm sure I'm missing out on some money, or cool stuff, but I just want to see the pics, read the article, hear the music, and log it in my mind.

(Okay, I'd like the one mag, though. Because it has unusual pics, mainly. but I can't lie and say I'll ever "use" it again. Collecting just for the sake of collecting is out of my brainwave now. I wish it wasn't, I wish I was more money savvy, and covetous, -



but I just want to hear good songs/see good videos! That's the only thing I *really* care about. The ephemeral.
I used to collect things, but what it ends up as is things that clutter your house. I just want to hear/see the performances, mainly. To me hearing the band live, or just Stevie live, doing the most strangest cool things, is my best reward. )
It's sweet that you are Magazining peops after your accident. That is very cool indeed.
It was also cool that Luxor transcribed that one women's weekly (or whatever) article. That kicked ass. ASS!
I know it's biased, but it kicked even more ass b/c Lux doesn't even like/know much about Stevie. When the pics were first posted, I was pissed off b/c mainly I wanted to read the article. And then Luxor solved my prob.

[Mari]

Hm, it's kind of sexist, isn't it. I mean, there's a double standard there, women are more likely to be called 'whore' for doing that kind of thing than men, and that's the offense I might take when hearing such a comment.