Good thoughts and prayers, please - Page 2

Johnny Stew · #16 08-31-2005, 04:08 PM

I'm extremely sorry to hear of your friend's loss, Janet.

As I've mentioned, my mother works in a funeral home, and not more than two months ago, they had services for a baby boy who died that exact same way... his parents had him in their bed with them, and the father accidentally rolled over on the infant.

Thank God the coroner decided to rule it an accidental death, so the father wasn't charged with homicide.
I can't imagine having the guilt of knowing you killed your baby, AND having to go to prison for several years because of it. The mental anguish alone would be its own prison.

I sincerely hope the authorities are as compassionate towards your friend's son/son-in-law.

My thoughts and prayers are with your friend and her family.

jannieC · #17 09-01-2005, 11:16 AM

After a preliminary autopsy, they have ruled it "accidental suffocation". Fortunately, I am a volunteer for Hospice and I have arranged for our bereavement counselor to contact them (at the request of my friend, of course). SO sad.

What do you all feel about co-sleeping?

gldstwmn · #18 09-01-2005, 11:17 AM

My condolences.

Gypsy-Rhiannon · #19 09-01-2005, 12:42 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

After a preliminary autopsy, they have ruled it "accidental suffocation". Fortunately, I am a volunteer for Hospice and I have arranged for our bereavement counselor to contact them (at the request of my friend, of course). SO sad.

What do you all feel about co-sleeping?

What an awful thing to happen. I'm so sorry.

As for co-sleeping... both my 2 did sleep in our bed on occasions when they were babies. I remember many a time falling asleep whilst breastfeeding them. It was never a problem for us but hearing something like this does make you think

Pip

lbelle1214 · #20 09-01-2005, 01:57 PM

It's a new day and I thought that I would let you know that your friend/family are still in my thoughts and prayers thru this very sad and difficult time.

jannieC · #21 09-01-2005, 02:05 PM

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Originally Posted by lbelle1214

It's a new day and I thought that I would let you know that your friend/family are still in my thoughts and prayers thru this very sad and difficult time.

Thank you so much.

reebokandlace · #22 09-01-2005, 02:37 PM

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Originally Posted by jannieC

What do you all feel about co-sleeping?

It is very risky. SO many deaths happen from a mother breast feeding their baby while laying in bed and then falling asleep and suffocating the baby with the breast. I am 100% against putting a baby in the same bed with grown adults for only that reason. If you are on a bed with a baby (playing or whatever) you should NEVER allow yourself to even lay your head down for a moment (to prevent you from accidentally falling alseep) and suffocating the baby.

I can think of a few reasons why parents do it. I can think of only one reason why they shouldn't. The good does not outweight the bad.

It is sad. It is tragic. But it is preventable. Don't do it.

Ok-- I will get off my soap box now.

DavidMn · #23 09-01-2005, 06:47 PM

For what I can do here goes.....

Gypsy-Rhiannon · #24 09-02-2005, 03:23 AM

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Originally Posted by reebokandlace

It is very risky. SO many deaths happen from a mother breast feeding their baby while laying in bed and then falling asleep and suffocating the baby with the breast.

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It's scary to think about. I always breast fed my babies in bed and often fell asleep.

jannieC · #25 09-02-2005, 10:47 AM

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Originally Posted by reebokandlace

It is very risky. SO many deaths happen from a mother breast feeding their baby while laying in bed and then falling asleep and suffocating the baby with the breast. I am 100% against putting a baby in the same bed with grown adults for only that reason. If you are on a bed with a baby (playing or whatever) you should NEVER allow yourself to even lay your head down for a moment (to prevent you from accidentally falling alseep) and suffocating the baby.

I can think of a few reasons why parents do it. I can think of only one reason why they shouldn't. The good does not outweight the bad.

It is sad. It is tragic. But it is preventable. Don't do it.

Ok-- I will get off my soap box now.

This is my position as well. Some may say that you risk SIDS if you put your baby in a crib but I feel that I'd rather lose my baby to SIDS than know that *I* or my husband suffocated her.