crushes... - Page 2

Neal · #16 07-22-2005, 12:24 PM

I'm currently in the midst of a dry spell, so pretty much I'm crushing on just about every guy in my life right now! Pathetic, I know...

But anyways, my primary crush is the bartender at the club I hang out at the most. He's a little bit older, which I'm not usually attracted to, but has a great body and is a huge flirt! I've always been a sucker for bartenders though. And pizza boys. If you can get me drunk or feed me, I'm all yours!!!

SuzeQuze · #17 07-22-2005, 12:25 PM

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Originally Posted by seeker007nmss

Now - what would YOU do if someone had a crush on you and you didn't feel the same? Just curious. How would you handle it?

(Just for discussion - not meant to be for anyone in particular).

Try to be friends with them until, right after they tell you they think they've fallen in love with someone, they proposition you. Then not be friends.

Its a really uncomfortable position to be in. Very flattering but agonizing because you cannot force those kinds of feelings. No matter how much the person says they're fine with being friends they're never satisfied with that.

DrummerDeanna · #18 07-22-2005, 12:26 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Try to be friends with them until, right after they tell you they think they've fallen in love with someone, they proposition you. Then not be friends.

Its a really uncomfortable position to be in. Very flattering but agonizing because you cannot force those kinds of feelings. No matter how much the person says they're fine with being friends they're never satisfied with that.

OH!!

I'm an idiot - I totally misread Seeker's question

DrummerDeanna · #19 07-22-2005, 12:30 PM

Ok - so someone having a crush on me that I don't feel the same way about - I've actually got two of that situation going on right now - both situations vastly different.

I tried to remain friends with both guys - it's worked with one - he's a good guy, and calls me lovely ego-building nicknames - but understands the boundaries and the fact that I don't feel the same way.

The other guy? IDIOT! I told him MANY TIMES that I am not interested - the first he seemed cool so we continued to be friends - then one night he literally went through EVERYTHING I'd said/done and outlined how he though that my words/actions meant I like him

So I pretty much stopped talking to him after that until he begged me to be friends again - I felt bad and so I agreed - then one night at a bar I was very drunk, and he followed me to the bathroom (he was not drunk) and tried to kiss me etc...I was drunk but not THAT drunk and I shoved him out of my way and left....to find out he then told everyone we were with that I made out with him WTF!?!

So um I basically yelled at him and told him to go away, I would never ever go out with him.

So um - usually I try to be nice about it and stay friends - until the other person ends up being a putz in which case they get bitchy me.

sparky · #20 07-22-2005, 12:43 PM

I have a bit of a crush on this little latin bodybuilder at my gym. He is adorable. I see him out occasionally. With his boyfriend. We talk and hang out, and I enyoy the heck out of it.

all the same · #21 07-22-2005, 12:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Neal

I'm currently in the midst of a dry spell, so pretty I'm crushing on just about every guy in my life right now! Pathetic, I know...

Uhhh... I can totally relate. I'm awesome

Neal · #22 07-22-2005, 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by all the same

Uhhh... I can totally relate. I'm awesome

Well that explains your dry spell; you're just too hot to approach! All the boys are intimidated by you...

SuzeQuze · #23 07-22-2005, 01:07 PM

I do have a crush on this guy at work. I never see him anymore though. But once in a while I do, I see him at our beer blasts which we haven't had for a while. He's cool but he's not a good person to get involved with as far as I can see, in terms of emotional issues/baggage. So I stay away. He may know I have this crush because I told this girl we work with who is friends with him.

Cocktails'll do it to ya! If he asked me out would I go? You betcha!

But he hasn't and its probably for the better.

I have a crush on this bass player in this band I love but that isn't realistic at all. Nevertheless it is fun to swoon while he's up on stage looking all hot and such.

Last nite my roommate and I met a couple of underage guys who got into a club here cuz they know someone or whatever. One asks, "Where do you go to school?"

That was too funny. One of them was 21 and he was cute. But not really a crush I guess, hehe.

all the same · #24 07-22-2005, 01:41 PM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

I have a crush on this bass player in this band I love but that isn't realistic at all. Nevertheless it is fun to swoon while he's up on stage looking all hot and such.

And his name is John McVie! RIGHT!!!

I knew it!

all the same · #25 07-22-2005, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Neal

Well that explains your dry spell; you're just too hot to approach! All the boys are intimidated by you...

I look exactly like this ----->

So, you be the judge! No, I have been told I'm intimidating before. I have a certain way of appearing confident, when I'm really more like this ----->

Janet · #26 07-22-2005, 01:50 PM

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The lame thing about crushes is deep down you don't want anything to ever happen between you and the person you have a crush on 'cause it will kill the organism that is the crush. Crushes are like living, breathing things. They're really strange. If you watched My So-Called Life, Angela talks about her crush on Jordan like that.

So.... who else has a crush and wants to blither about it?

Oh in high school, I was the same age as Angela was in that show and I had this massive, huge, crush on a guy. I was seriously infatuated with him until a year after I graduated. Anyway, that show helped me so much with that crush...anyway.

I was crushing on a guy at work. He turned me down. I'm over it now. I am crushless now and life just seems easier that way. Boring, but so much easier. Lately any guy I crush on I don't get anyway.

macfanken · #27 07-22-2005, 02:01 PM

Haven't had a crush in a long time. It would probably be good for me to have one... a little excitement in my life!

all the same · #28 07-22-2005, 02:42 PM

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Haven't had a crush in a long time. It would probably be good for me to have one... a little excitement in my life!

Ugh! Believe you me, you don't want one! They suck the life out of you. But at least they pass the time.

darklinensuit · #29 07-22-2005, 03:04 PM

My biggest crush was when I was 12/13, though I continued to have crushes through college. These days I don't think I get crushes (other than maybe on Stevie or a couple of unreachable celebs); if I have an interest, I go for it. Otherwise not worth my energy.

- Jake

darklinensuit · #30 07-22-2005, 03:05 PM

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They suck the life out of you.:

- Jake