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[amber]

Originally Posted by sara1998

I second that. It's been over 2 years since Jason died. I'm ready to try again. 6 year olds just dont care how ****ty your day was at work. They don't take the garbage out either!

yeah. But I mainly care about regularly having that other thing. Good points, though, I guess. Although I try to spare my boyfriends boring details... I like to say "oh, it was lame, as usual. So, what's for dinner, sweetie?"

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by lbelle1214

That is one of my biggest pet peeves, too!

Same. I have this one friend who I used to be really close with but she never returns emails and rarely phone calls. When we do talk its lovely but the other times are so frustrating. I have some of the best times with her but they are few and far between. I want to make some new friends but that isn't the easiest thing for me to do. I'm working on it though. I love to do things like kayak, other kinds of boating, water skiing, yet I have trouble finding companions somehow. I often feel isolated. I hate it. People are so noncomittal. I have a friend at work, I've asked him to do a number of things over the past month and he always has some excuse. I give up. I must be picking people that aren't interested in hanging otu with me or something. I don't know. Okay, I'm gettign too personal on here. Lagringa, dangerous topic for Suze!

And Curtis, I'm sorry you're sad about the ex BF. He's an idiot. Okay, I don't know what he is but if he's made you feel sad I have to say he's an idiot.

I am so happy for you that you love what you are doing. When are you moving to Boston?

[amber]

Originally Posted by sara1998

Here ya go: I had my first boyfriend in kindergarden. We "dated" off and on until I was about 18. By that time, he had his head in his ass... dealing drugs and stealing cars/radios out of cars, etc. Anyway, I was his first love. The last time I saw him, we were 18, and he had enlisted himself in the Marines to get himself out of trouble. So, he came over and we talked for a long time, yadda, yadda, yadda, and he asked me to marry him. I told him no, and I haven't heard from him since. Last Friday comes along, and he stops over at my parents house wondering how he could get in touch with me. He gave my dad his business card and asks for me to give him a call. I was estatic to hear he came around after 10 years, and I was curious to see how he turned out. We talked the next day for 2 hours, and he goes on about how he never wants to go that long without talking to me, and he would like to keep in touch as often as possible, and he was sorry he wasen't there for me when Jason died.... oh, by the way, I've been married for 4 years now! WTF??? Why are you looking for your first love, then? Would'nt your wife be pissed if she found out you were looking for me? Have you even told your wife your calling me? I mean, it could be totally innocent, and he was just checking up on me, come over to a BBQ, meet my wife.. but why say all the things you just said to me?? And, he has told me zilch about his wife. I tried to ask. He would'nt talk about her. Is it just me, or does he have an "itch"?

Be careful, or run!!!!

[sara1998]

Originally Posted by amber

Be careful, or run!!!!

I've not called him since that first time. He's called me since. I don't want to be a bitch, but I do want to figure out his intentions.

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by amber

Be careful, or run!!!!

Right, he has an itch. Also, people don't change. I've tried to go back and it's never worked. It ended the first time for a reason. However, I don't think it is a bad thing to be in touch, just be very forthcoming and honest about what you will and won't tolerate. If he cannot fit into that then tell him it is best if you two don't keep in touch. If it looks like a rat and smells like a rat...

[SuzeQuze]

Originally Posted by sara1998

I've not called him since that first time. He's called me since. I don't want to be a bitch, but I do want to figure out his intentions.

Let yourself be at least 20% bitch. Being too nice will always get you the raw end of the deal. You could just ask why he's contacted you after so many years. Could it be that simple?

[ontheEdgeof17]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Right, he has an itch. Also, people don't change. I've tried to go back and it's never worked. It ended the first time for a reason. However, I don't think it is a bad thing to be in touch, just be very forthcoming and honest about what you will and won't tolerate. If he cannot fit into that then tell him it is best if you two don't keep in touch. If it looks like a rat and smells like a rat...

I disagree. It's obvious he's unhappy in his marriage and looking for something that meant a lot to him...and still does. Why live a life of uncomfort?

[ontheEdgeof17]

Random Question:

Is it possible to date someone who doesn't like sex?

[sara1998]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Right, he has an itch. Also, people don't change. I've tried to go back and it's never worked. It ended the first time for a reason. However, I don't think it is a bad thing to be in touch, just be very forthcoming and honest about what you will and won't tolerate. If he cannot fit into that then tell him it is best if you two don't keep in touch. If it looks like a rat and smells like a rat...

Well, as far as his changing, as far as I can tell, he has to the point where he owns his own business, and is going back to college in the fall for his MBA. So, in that sense, I'm proud of him. He went much further then I ever did. But I won't tolerate a cheater. If his intentions are to cheat on his current wife, now, I will have nothing to do with that. Who's to say he wouldn't do it to me in 4 years..... I'm not even saying that's his intentions. But I'm puzzled on why now.

[sara1998]

Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

Random Question:

Is it possible to date someone who doesn't like sex?

Some people don't like sex. I don't know why you wouldn't............

[sara1998]

Originally Posted by amber

yeah. But I mainly care about regularly having that other thing.

Well YA!!!!!

[ontheEdgeof17]

Originally Posted by sara1998

Some people don't like sex. I don't know why you wouldn't............

It's not me.

[estranged4life]

Originally Posted by sara1998

Here ya go: I had my first boyfriend in kindergarden. We "dated" off and on until I was about 18. By that time, he had his head in his ass... dealing drugs and stealing cars/radios out of cars, etc. Anyway, I was his first love. The last time I saw him, we were 18, and he had enlisted himself in the Marines to get himself out of trouble. So, he came over and we talked for a long time, yadda, yadda, yadda, and he asked me to marry him. I told him no, and I haven't heard from him since. Last Friday comes along, and he stops over at my parents house wondering how he could get in touch with me. He gave my dad his business card and asks for me to give him a call. I was estatic to hear he came around after 10 years, and I was curious to see how he turned out. We talked the next day for 2 hours, and he goes on about how he never wants to go that long without talking to me, and he would like to keep in touch as often as possible, and he was sorry he wasen't there for me when Jason died.... oh, by the way, I've been married for 4 years now! WTF??? Why are you looking for your first love, then? Would'nt your wife be pissed if she found out you were looking for me? Have you even told your wife your calling me? I mean, it could be totally innocent, and he was just checking up on me, come over to a BBQ, meet my wife.. but why say all the things you just said to me?? And, he has told me zilch about his wife. I tried to ask. He would'nt talk about her. Is it just me, or does he have an "itch"?

My ex-fiancee' Christy located my late Mother in March 2004 asking to see if she could get in contact with me, So my Mother obliged with my address/phone info.

Now I thought that was rather strange considering she wanted to know everthing about me since we parted in early 1991, Then she told me she was married and I told her I was also married (As apparently my Mother also did.), It felt weird talking to my ex after all these years, She said she wanted to tell something, But she never did state what it was that was

Kinda funny but yet rather mysteriously, on Father's Day 2004 my Mother sent me a Father's Day card, Knowing full well Deb & myself have no children (Mom said she did it by mistake, Sure...Like any Mother would not remember if their children were parents)...Hmmm, Maybe that couldve been what Christy was wanting to tell me.

[amber]

Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

Same. I have this one friend who I used to be really close with but she never returns emails and rarely phone calls. When we do talk its lovely but the other times are so frustrating. I have some of the best times with her but they are few and far between. I want to make some new friends but that isn't the easiest thing for me to do. I'm working on it though. I love to do things like kayak, other kinds of boating, water skiing, yet I have trouble finding companions somehow. I often feel isolated. I hate it. People are so noncomittal.

If that's really what you like to do, I'd be soooooo there with you! My friends are like that, too, but there's nothing I can do, because they really are very busy. Plus, one is a gemini and one an aquarius, so, really, non committal are their middle names. Step away from the wall, Amber.
making new friends is hard, I think. For me. I have friends that make new friends constantly, though. I guess they're just different, ie, people automatically like them, but not me.

[amber]

Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

Random Question:

Is it possible to date someone who doesn't like sex?

Random answer -
No. They're called friends. Unless...
you don't like sex either. Then they are called "your boyfriend".