Well now I'm thoroughly depressed - Page 4

GardenStateGirlie · #46 05-28-2005, 11:28 PM

It could more than likely be applied to me as well though

HomerMcvie · #47 05-29-2005, 04:33 AM

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Originally Posted by amber

Hmm, actually, I always think my life's too short not to look hot, and good in a swimsuit.

I find that if you're drunk, on a float, and everyone there is your guest......F*CK EM!

Mari · #48 05-29-2005, 05:44 AM

I've never been overweight in my life, I've the opposite problem, so I don't know if I should join in on this thread

(you all probably hate me

)
But about stupid comments from people.. there's several guys (it's always the men!) at work who've commented whenever I eat a candybar, or even just bread, that I shouldn't eat so much because I would get fat. HEL-lo, that's the point!
It's SO ridiculous that I really don't give a damn, I just laugh about it in their faces, but I can imagine if you're not underweight that that sort of comment would hurt and make you insecure.
Uh.. conclusion: people are stupid.

The whole western society is obsessed about weight, and especially for women. That's the only explanation I can come up with for people to even comment on me, when it clearly makes no sense at all.

GateandGarden · #49 05-29-2005, 08:21 AM

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Originally Posted by HomerMcvie

I find that if you're drunk, on a float, and everyone there is your guest......F*CK EM!

DrummerDeanna · #50 05-29-2005, 12:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Mari

I've never been overweight in my life, I've the opposite problem, so I don't know if I should join in on this thread

(you all probably hate me

)
But about stupid comments from people.. there's several guys (it's always the men!) at work who've commented whenever I eat a candybar, or even just bread, that I shouldn't eat so much because I would get fat. HEL-lo, that's the point!
It's SO ridiculous that I really don't give a damn, I just laugh about it in their faces, but I can imagine if you're not underweight that that sort of comment would hurt and make you insecure.
Uh.. conclusion: people are stupid.

The whole western society is obsessed about weight, and especially for women. That's the only explanation I can come up with for people to even comment on me, when it clearly makes no sense at all.

I think weight issues can go both ways...

And why people think it's okay to remark about how skinny someone is I'll never get - I've got a couple of really really thin friends and they get rude and insensetive remarks all the time...

So they're just as insecure in their bodies as I am in my slightly chubbed out body....

Mari · #51 05-29-2005, 12:24 PM

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Originally Posted by DrummerDeanna

I think weight issues can go both ways...

And why people think it's okay to remark about how skinny someone is I'll never get - I've got a couple of really really thin friends and they get rude and insensetive remarks all the time...

So they're just as insecure in their bodies as I am in my slightly chubbed out body....

true.. I know some for who that's true as well.

apart from those dumb remarks about what I eat, I do get a lot of "you've got nothing to complain about, do you?".
Even though I used to be so underweight that I was sick all the time from flu etc. No resistance. When you look at it that way, it's better to be slightly overweight!

ontheEdgeof17 · #52 05-29-2005, 12:37 PM

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Originally Posted by Mari

true.. I know some for who that's true as well.

apart from those dumb remarks about what I eat, I do get a lot of "you've got nothing to complain about, do you?".
Even though I used to be so underweight that I was sick all the time from flu etc. No resistance. When you look at it that way, it's better to be slightly overweight!

If I hear, "Are you anorexic?" or "Here's a burger," I will scream! I eat.

It has a lot to do with genetics, IMO. Not all overweight ppl eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Not all underweight ppl are starving themselves. Stereotypes...hrump!

HomerMcvie · #53 05-29-2005, 01:01 PM

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Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

If I hear, "Are you anorexic?" or "Here's a burger," I will scream! I eat.

It has a lot to do with genetics, IMO. Not all overweight ppl eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Not all underweight ppl are starving themselves. Stereotypes...hrump!

Still, I would KILL to have to fight to gain weight. No problem....make that TWO large pizzas please!
A true license to EAT! Kewl.

I can't IMAGINE eating everything I want.

strandinthewind · #54 05-29-2005, 01:04 PM

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Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

If I hear, "Are you anorexic?" or "Here's a burger," I will scream! I eat.

It has a lot to do with genetics, IMO. Not all overweight ppl eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Not all underweight ppl are starving themselves. Stereotypes...hrump!

BASTARD

go do your Jane Fonda jazzercise

ontheEdgeof17 · #55 05-29-2005, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by strandinthewind

BASTARD

go do your Jane Fonda jazzercise

It's Paula Abdul. Get it right. Gosh!

Mari · #56 05-29-2005, 01:07 PM

If it's any comfort

, I can't exactly eat anything I want either. If I eat some junkfood or too much sugar/chocolate then the next day my face is covered with blackheads and spots

And I do feel kinda insecure about that. Oh well, there's make-up.

amber · #57 05-29-2005, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by strandinthewind

BASTARD

go do your Jane Fonda jazzercise

So your girlfriend rolls a honda? Playing workout tapes by Fonda? Well, Fonda ain't got a motor in the back of her Honda!!!
*you're anaconda don't want none unless he's got buns, hon!*

CreepingDeath · #58 05-29-2005, 04:09 PM

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Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

If I hear, "Are you anorexic?" or "Here's a burger," I will scream! I eat.

It has a lot to do with genetics, IMO. Not all overweight ppl eat ice cream for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Not all underweight ppl are starving themselves. Stereotypes...hrump!

Word.

I get that "do you have an eating disorderor something ?" all the time. When I was a kid I was sick quite frequently and at the time those comments really bothered me. Now, I just figure people are LAME.

SuzeQuze · #59 05-31-2005, 09:52 AM

I really hate the food police and get pissed off if people comment on what I am eating. I can't believe how some of your mothers have called you fat.

I grew up with a sedentary Mom who was never happy with her weight but never able to successfully get down to a weight she was happy with. I was a thin kid and could eat whatever I wanted until puberty. Then I got all screwed up about food and they say that girls with a critical mother who has body image issues herself will likely develop this problem. Although my Mom never commented on my weight she was highly critical of herself and other people and I figured, even if she didn't say it out loud, of me too.

But I never actually was over weight until my late 20s. The charts said I was over weight but I still don't really think I was. Then last year a doctor told me to lose weight and I was like.

Well, I have lost some and it does feel great. The real key is to do things that make you feel good and you'll be on the right track. Things that support your self-esteem. Also, it has to be gradual. Make a small change, when that is habit, make another, and so on. And always do it in a positive light, NEVER beat up on yourself because you'll never get anywhere. Exercise because it makes you feel good, not because you "should because I'm a fat ass".

Eat healthy foods because they make you feel good not because "if I eat another cookie I will jump off a bridge"

Anyway, this is a constant battle for me but to gain perspective I realize that obese people have goal weights heavier than mine and I am a fortunate person to not have to battle that type of issue. For those that do I can only imagine the difficulty and the hurt.

DrummerDeanna · #60 05-31-2005, 11:31 AM

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Originally Posted by SuzeQuze

I really hate the food police and get pissed off if people comment on what I am eating. I can't believe how some of your mothers have called you fat.

I grew up with a sedentary Mom who was never happy with her weight but never able to successfully get down to a weight she was happy with. I was a thin kid and could eat whatever I wanted until puberty. Then I got all screwed up about food and they say that girls with a critical mother who has body image issues herself will likely develop this problem. Although my Mom never commented on my weight she was highly critical of herself and other people and I figured, even if she didn't say it out loud, of me too.

But I never actually was over weight until my late 20s. The charts said I was over weight but I still don't really think I was. Then last year a doctor told me to lose weight and I was like.

Well, I have lost some and it does feel great. The real key is to do things that make you feel good and you'll be on the right track. Things that support your self-esteem. Also, it has to be gradual. Make a small change, when that is habit, make another, and so on. And always do it in a positive light, NEVER beat up on yourself because you'll never get anywhere. Exercise because it makes you feel good, not because you "should because I'm a fat ass".

Eat healthy foods because they make you feel good not because "if I eat another cookie I will jump off a bridge"

Anyway, this is a constant battle for me but to gain perspective I realize that obese people have goal weights heavier than mine and I am a fortunate person to not have to battle that type of issue. For those that do I can only imagine the difficulty and the hurt.

Great post, Suze and you're right

I totally need to get to a place where I am not beating myself up constantly aboout the way I look/eat.

I'm not grossly out of control or anything - but I enjoy my sweets.

I didn't have critical parents or anything - I really don't know where my body image issues came from? I remember being really young - like 7 or 8 and telling my mom I didn't want to wear shorts because I was fat and she freaked out and was like, "YOU ARE NOT!!" And then she took me to an aunt of mine who was a health guru to talk some sense into me and my aunt tried to convince me I wasn't fat..

Hmmm.....perhaps I should enroll myself into therapy

I really don't know where these issue emerged for me

Anyway - I'm off to eat my healthy lunch in which all of the food groups are represented