Cheating

paleshadow · #1 05-27-2005, 06:18 PM

I'm interested in knowing what people think about this question:

If you had a friend or acquaintance who was cheating on their spouse, whom you barely know, would you somehow let them know that they were being cheated on?

From another angle, how would you feel if someone you didn't know told you that your spouse was cheating on you?

amber · #2 05-27-2005, 06:23 PM

Don't tell. Just don't.

diamondsnake · #3 05-27-2005, 06:27 PM

You have to tell their spouse that they are being cheated on. This person is being made a fool of and they deserve to know.

macfanken · #4 05-27-2005, 06:31 PM

No, I wouldn't tell, it would be none of my business. If my friend were the one being cheated on then it might be my business.

Serrart · #5 05-27-2005, 06:32 PM

Don't tell. Even the way these things are said could be important. You don't know her/him well enough to predict his/ her reaction and choose the right words, I think.

Romy

paleshadow · #6 05-27-2005, 06:33 PM

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Originally Posted by macfanken

No, I wouldn't tell, it would be none of my business. If my friend were the one being cheated on then it might be my business.

Also, would it make a difference if the cheater was telling the people they are cheating with that they aren't married?

paleshadow · #7 05-27-2005, 06:34 PM

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Originally Posted by amber

Don't tell. Just don't.

Don't worry Amber, your secrets safe with me...

amber · #8 05-27-2005, 06:36 PM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

Also, would it make a difference if the cheater was telling the people they are cheating with that they aren't married?

Wow, that is a sticky wicket! That's soooo not fair to the person the cheater is cheating with!!! I'm more inclined to say to tell that person that so and so is married, then to tell the husband.

Because the person that the cheater is cheating with isn't really making an informed choice. It's all very sticky, though....

amber · #9 05-27-2005, 06:38 PM

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Originally Posted by paleshadow

Don't worry Amber, your secrets safe with me...

Whew!

seeker007nmss · #10 05-27-2005, 06:41 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paleshadow

I'm interested in knowing what people think about this question:

If you had a friend or acquaintance who was cheating on their spouse, whom you barely know, would you somehow let them know that they were being cheated on?

From another angle, how would you feel if someone you didn't know told you that your spouse was cheating on you?

Isn't there a hallmark card for a situation like this?

I think you should know about your spouse...
He's a cheater and a great big louse.
So take all his junk
and put it out on the lawn
And through the bum out of the house!

seeker007nmss · #11 05-27-2005, 06:46 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paleshadow

I'm interested in knowing what people think about this question:

If you had a friend or acquaintance who was cheating on their spouse, whom you barely know, would you somehow let them know that they were being cheated on?

From another angle, how would you feel if someone you didn't know told you that your spouse was cheating on you?

I think I would only tell if I had proof...like pictures.

amber · #12 05-27-2005, 06:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by seeker007nmss

Isn't there a hallmark card for a situation like this?

I think you should know about your spouse...
He's a cheater and a great big louse.
To take all his junk
and put it out on the lawn
And through the bum out of the house!

macfanken · #13 05-27-2005, 06:51 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by paleshadow

Also, would it make a difference if the cheater was telling the people they are cheating with that they aren't married?

Well now I think you're just trying to confuse me!

I'm inclined to say that the person being cheated with (who could be innocent in this) should be told, but then you might as well tell the person being cheated on because they're innocent too. I don't know, I think I'd still keep quiet at this point.

dissention · #14 05-27-2005, 07:04 PM

It's not my business, so I wouldn't say a word. Let them find out in their own time or not at all. Chances are that if someone is cheating, the relationship is going to hit the skids eventually, anyway, because it's not very solid.

seeker007nmss · #15 05-27-2005, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by dissention

It's not my business, so I wouldn't say a word. Let them find out in their own time or not at all. Chances are that if someone is cheating, the relationship is going to hit the skids eventually, anyway, because it's not very solid.

Unless you want to anonimously tell them both, and then sit back and watch! That would be evil....