Asexuality

[amber]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

Thanks Amber.


Now, I just have to ask (jokingly) why I got into trouble and dissention didn't get into trouble for his comment about not putting one's parts to use?

Hillary

ah, i was just going to say - maybe cause i'm not gay,and you are, your post seemed different to curtis - and diss isn't gay either, so maybe.... More is expected of you?
AMber

[ontheEdgeof17]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

Thanks Amber.


Now, I just have to ask (jokingly) why I got into trouble and dissention didn't get into trouble for his comment about not putting one's parts to use?

Hillary

shhh....sometimes I dont read diss' posts.

-Curt

[ontheEdgeof17]

Originally Posted by amber

Gosh, i didn't get anything at all from your post. I mean any intolerance. It just seemed like you didn't get how someone could, even though they are asexual, not want companionship. You didn't say anything about not accepting them, you just said you wondered about that. So basically i don't know what Curtis is talking about, really. I've never seen you say anything uh, bad. And one time Curtis said my posts are sometimes too off the wall and strange for him to understand. so. I say, no harm, no foul.
Amber

I didn't say she didn't accept them. I just wanted to know why she didn't understand their "differences" when she is "different", herself. I see where she is coming from. It is hard to think some ppl are not sexual in any way, shape, or form. I just thought she would understand their situation.

...and yes, Amber...you are off the wall....which is good...makes me think REALLY hard about the topic...that's why I love ya!

-Curt

[GateandGarden]

Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

I didn't say she didn't accept them. I just wanted to know why she didn't understand their "differences" when she is "different", herself. I see where she is coming from. It is hard to think some ppl are not sexual in any way, shape, or form. I just thought she would understand their situation.

-Curt

Well, if anything, I can say without a doubt that I understand their situation, 'cause I know how much it sucks to be in the minority. But it's not the idea that they're not in any way sexual that is hard for me to understand, it's the idea of not wanting a companion, for the deep emotional connection, if not anything really physical. I just thought human beings had an inherent need for intimacy, just not necessarily sexual intimacy.

Hillary

[GateandGarden]

Originally Posted by amber

ah, i was just going to say - maybe cause i'm not gay,and you are, your post seemed different to curtis - and diss isn't gay either, so maybe.... More is expected of you?
AMber

Yeah, but remember diss is a great straight ally, so we expect nothing but complete tolerance and also embracing of gay culture, right? And I haven't forgotten that he likes a couple of guys...

Hillary

[amber]

Originally Posted by ontheEdgeof17

I didn't say she didn't accept them. I just wanted to know why she didn't understand their "differences" when she is "different", herself. I see where she is coming from. It is hard to think some ppl are not sexual in any way, shape, or form. I just thought she would understand their situation.

...and yes, Amber...you are off the wall....which is good...makes me think REALLY hard about the topic...that's why I love ya!

-Curt

aww...thank you. but i don't think she is "different" though i see your point. I guess asexual people seem even more "different" to me..and also, how can she (and me) understand, if we haven't "heard the story" of people like this?

[sparky]

Originally Posted by GateandGarden

What's much more difficult for me to comprehend is people not having the desire to have some sort of companion for life, to not be drawn to one person more than anyone else. I always thought everyone wanted someone to cherish him or her above everyone else. Not really wanting more than some casual friends is very foreign to me.

Hillary

Well, Hillary....(sounds like the beginning of a Stevie song) I don't really need anyone to cherish me above everyone else, and don't have that much of a drive to have a companion for life. In spite of this, I have met a handful of great men and shared relationships with them that were meaningful and profound. I keep ending up hooked up with someone. Honestly, they all seem like they were accidents ! Not train wreck accidents, but they just happened. As happy as I have been in those times, I am just as happy now with my very close friends, my work, my adorable pets, and not a whole lot of sex or physical intimacy. I have had my fill of that for now, and though it is bound to change, I often think that I will never find "the one" and doubt that such a guy exists. The idea of being single for the long haul is fine with me. It's all good ! And I am so far from asexual it ain't even funny.

[GateandGarden]

Originally Posted by sparky

Well, Hillary....(sounds like the beginning of a Stevie song)

Oooooooh! I wish Stevie would write a "well" song just for me, complete with my name and everything!

Originally Posted by sparky

I don't really need anyone to cherish me above everyone else, and don't have that much of a drive to have a companion for life. In spite of this, I have met a handful of great men and shared relationships with them that were meaningful and profound. I keep ending up hooked up with someone. Honestly, they all seem like they were accidents ! Not train wreck accidents, but they just happened. As happy as I have been in those times, I am just as happy now with my very close friends, my work, my adorable pets, and not a whole lot of sex or physical intimacy. I have had my fill of that for now, and though it is bound to change, I often think that I will never find "the one" and doubt that such a guy exists. The idea of being single for the long haul is fine with me. It's all good ! And I am so far from asexual it ain't even funny.

Thanks for sharing how you feel. When I think about it, what you've described is all I've really known so far in my life, and it ain't too shabby! It's also delightfully void of most of the drama that comes with relationships, and it's hard to argue against the appeal of that.

Hillary