The Lighthouse: September 27, 2024

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Oh, I hate this talk of abortion here. I don’t know why, I mean, I’m not a woman, I’ve never been in a relationship where someone had an abortion, and I’m pro-choice. Maybe it’s the judgement of people who’ve had abortions? I don’t know why that bothers me., it just does.

But regardless of my views, here I am commenting on it. Maybe everything said here would have been true- Stevie is definitely self-absorbed, and her drug use and rock and roll lifestyle and constant touring would very likely have negatively impacted how good of a mother she would have been. Or maybe it would have been the opposite- maybe if she had had a baby, her maternal instincts would have kicked into overdrive and she would have shaped up and met the challenge. Who knows? And then we likely wouldn’t have had many FM releases after Rumours, let alone many solo releases. I’m not saying it was a complete case of careerbs motherhood, but who knows?

For all we know, Christine could have had an abortion or two, as well. I mean, she was so private, and much much less forthcoming than Stevie was. And Christine never had children, but maybe if she had, everything said about Stevie could apply to her- Christine drank, did drugs, smoked, etc. Would she have been able to successfully raise a child? With Dennis Wilson as the father? It’s easy to be judgemental in that way, so I prefer not to think about it. Neither one of them had children for whatever reason. I think it’s very telling that Lindsey was older and probably much more mature as a person when he had children… at least that we know of. He had the luxury of having sex with women and not getting pregnant himself. Here’s that slippery slope again, but for all we know, he could have paid for girlfriends to have abortions. Would he have been a good father in 1978-1987?

I’m not saying this subject shouldn’t be discussed here, I’m just suggesting we continue to be respectful of everyone, from members of the band to the folks who come here to the Ledge. I have to think this subject could be triggering for some folks, who may unknowingly click on this subject not expecting the subject of people being horrible mothers or how it was wrong of someone to have an abortion, or how it was better for the child that it was aborted. At that point the discussion just seems… uhh. Only my opinion, and I hope I don’t get flamed for expressing it, because I’m honestly not trying to say people shouldn’t be discussing it, if that’s what they want to talk about.