Ken Caillat's book...bits and tidbits

[Regina]

I did not read the book. I have no intention of reading the book. But, as I'm skimming through some of the comments...this is the thought that comes back to me: can people change?
People are born with certain traits. And, I do believe certain basic personalities (and/or the disorders that come with them) are inherited/genetic. So, let's say we have an alcoholic. When they are "clean and sober," for a certain number of years...we applaud them for being clean and sober and hope/pray/believe...they will stay that way for the rest of their lives. No one who may know them intimately will ever forget their days as active alcoholics but they move on because the person has. And, we assume that people can change their lives for the better. And, frankly, many do.
Certainly, other addictions/personality disorders...seem to have more impact and are harder to forgive. BUT, as a fan of a musician, do we toss the person's talent and our fandom aside because we hear second-hand accounts of past behavior? Especially when this behavior was so enabled.
Take Michael Jackson. He's dead so he's a saint all of a sudden. (And I'm not starting a debate...I'm just bringing up a point). Rumors of his molesting kids seem to have fallen by the wayside. But, again, if true--this was behavior that was enabled. Even by the kids' parents. Even MJ's death was enabled because he was paying people to break the law and give him what he wanted. Famous people have Yes men and women surrounding them. Very few people are stopped from doing exactly what they want--legal or not legal, moral or immoral.
I'm not excusing Lindsey's behavior (assuming every single thing we've heard is 100% true) but everyone, including Ken--including Carol Ann--including EVERY single member of FM and those who worked for them--enabled Lindsey's mania. Why? Because it was more important to keep the Big Machine intact (God help me, I'm using that phrase~!) than getting this dude some psychological help. Or, even locking him up for a while to give him a taste of consequences for one's behavior. And, now, when these people are no longer in any way, shape or form going to legimately make money from FM/Lindsey--the dirt flies! Carol Ann may have had demons to purge...I'll give her that. But, I still think these people think Lindsey is much more of a celebrity than he actually is. And that some hue and cry would have come about from their tell-alls and made them best-selling authors.
But, no one (but us) seems to care.
I really have no clue, personally, what the truth is. I admire Lindsey as a singer, as an artist. I like the man I've met a couple of times. He's rather sweet and funny, in a peculiar sort of way.
When I think too much of their past, and take the rumors at face value, I think they were all pretty despicable people. Every last one of them.
I hope all their demons are gone. And that they are not doing any of this stuff today. And, if I hear otherwise, I'll have to re-evaluate my thoughts. For now, in my mind, I don't know what kind of a person Lindsey is behind closed doors. But, he has three seemingly happy, content kids and I'm assuming/hoping/praying that they aren't good little actors. And, I'm going with the belief that Lindsey did get the help he needed to become a better person.