What do you do to build self confidence? - Page 2

tilthefirefades · #16 03-21-2012, 01:36 AM

It may sound gimmicky, but the book True You by Janet Jackson is something that increased my self confidence. I still struggle, but she helped me very much. It could also be that I love her dearly, but the book was an amazing read for me.

HomerMcvie · #17 03-21-2012, 02:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Blueletter18

I try to focus outside of myself and how I can help others around me, whether that includes being a good listener, setting aside time to tutor underclassmen at my college, lend support to my friends, and just set a good example and try to follow the lead of people who are my role models. I agree that not looking in the mirror more than, like, once a day helps too

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PolishStevieFan · #18 03-21-2012, 06:01 AM

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Originally Posted by tilthefirefades

It may sound gimmicky, but the book True You by Janet Jackson is something that increased my self confidence. I still struggle, but she helped me very much. It could also be that I love her dearly, but the book was an amazing read for me.

Well I have been a die hard fan of Janet for about 20 years so I understand how you can take examples from her. Her "Rhythm Nation 1814" album really changed my way of thinking. It sounds funny but that's how it was. Her song "Knowledge" has become my anthem

And I think the lyrics for this song correspond with the topic of self-confidence...In many ways being self-confident means being knowledgeable about surrounding world.

tilthefirefades · #19 03-21-2012, 09:09 PM

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Originally Posted by PolishStevieFan

Well I have been a die hard fan of Janet for about 20 years so I understand how you can take examples from her. Her "Rhythm Nation 1814" album really changed my way of thinking. It sounds funny but that's how it was. Her song "Knowledge" has become my anthem

And I think the lyrics for this song correspond with the topic of self-confidence...In many ways being self-confident means being knowledgeable about surrounding world.

I know what you mean, Janet is the reason I am who I am today. I discovered her in 95 (when I was just 4 years old) and begged my mom for Design of a Decade. In 97, beyond toys and games, I only wanted Velvet Rope, and that is one album that I can say truly changed my life. Ever since then, I've been a writer and my love for her has not changed....Well beyond the really crappy albums she's come out with

But really, as much as I love Stevie (an insanely unhealthy amount) Janet was not only my first favorite artist, but role model and really, my life coach.

MacShadowsBall · #20 03-21-2012, 10:15 PM

Self-confidence has alot to dot with who you assoicate with also. Hanging around many negative people that give off that bad energy does not help one's self-confidence.

ButterCookie · #21 03-22-2012, 02:08 AM

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Originally Posted by Silver Springs

Oh pish! I've seen pictures of you without makeup (On Facebook, not on a hardcore stalker level, I hasten to add) and you look perfectly lovely.

No you haven't

It might look like I'm not wearing any but I will have at least some on.

PolishStevieFan · #22 03-23-2012, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by MacShadowsBall

Self-confidence has alot to dot with who you assoicate with also. Hanging around many negative people that give off that bad energy does not help one's self-confidence.

You're absolutely right! And I read somewhere that these people are called "energy vampires" ... and for a reason, they suck up all your positive energy..."Energy Vampires" great title for Stevie's next song

estranged4life · #23 03-23-2012, 03:19 PM

in my music collection is what helps me out - been helping the past few days

PolishStevieFan · #24 03-23-2012, 03:19 PM

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Originally Posted by tilthefirefades

I know what you mean, Janet is the reason I am who I am today. I discovered her in 95 (when I was just 4 years old) and begged my mom for Design of a Decade. In 97, beyond toys and games, I only wanted Velvet Rope, and that is one album that I can say truly changed my life. Ever since then, I've been a writer and my love for her has not changed....Well beyond the really crappy albums she's come out with

But really, as much as I love Stevie (an insanely unhealthy amount) Janet was not only my first favorite artist, but role model and really, my life coach.

Janet, Janet... I could write book about this woman! I totally understand your admiration towards "The Velvet Rope". Really, it is eyes-opening, intellectual and emotional experience full of memorable music. And to be honest I always find some positive moments even on the crappiest Janet's albums. For example I love "Damita Jo". It's just great album, especially "Island Life" and "All Nite". On "20 Y.O." (for me the worst album that she's recorded) I love "Enjoy", "This Body" and "Show Me". "Design of a Decade" was my first original Janet's cassette

Now I replaced it with "The Best" (in US "Number Ones"). Great album, great music, great body of work...simply timeless...just like STEVIE

Ghost_Tracker · #25 03-24-2012, 12:00 AM

Tell your bandmates and ex-boyfriend to kiss off for awhile, write a solo album, and go out on tour for a few months while having the last show recorded for HBO.
Works like a charm, from what I hear.

On a more-literal note, try to keep in mind that each and every person in the room has asked his or herself the same exact question more than once in their life. Probably even that morning!

Sleepless-Child · #26 04-02-2012, 03:04 PM

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Originally Posted by beccamorrisfift

"Fake it till you make it."
The way I stay confident is by acting confident. I walk around school like I own it, some people probably think I'm an arrogant bitch and I guess I am, but it works for me.
Also, not looking in the mirror a lot and not walking towards reflective surfaces helps.

This!

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Have no fear, only love.

Nice!

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I know it seems almost twee to say it, but maintaining a sunny err often radiates inwards. As already stated, fake it until you make it. Aside from that, take steps to calm the worries and insecurities you have by trying to gain a deeper understanding of your inner self. Don't be afraid to spend time alone immersing yourself in what you love and getting to know yourself. Once you have a better understanding of your positive points, the perceived negative won't affect you as much. It took me a long time to realize it myself.

See, i'd love to be more like this. That's funny but focusing on myself kind of tends to make me depressed and not confident at all. I like being alone but it has a strange impact on me.

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Originally Posted by ButterCookie

Personally: wear a hell of a lot of make up.

Advice to others: Be proud of yourself, wake up telling yourself that today is a new day and you're going to own it.

This also!

Sleepless-Child · #27 04-02-2012, 03:09 PM

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Originally Posted by Blueletter18

I try to focus outside of myself and how I can help others around me, whether that includes being a good listener, setting aside time to tutor underclassmen at my college, lend support to my friends, and just set a good example and try to follow the lead of people who are my role models. I agree that not looking in the mirror more than, like, once a day helps too

Like button also. That's my solution, though i wouldn't say that i'm that good of a listener, but i try!
Though i think it's pretty natural for everyone to have self-confidence issues, though i could do without them.