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Old 12-09-2011, 09:36 PM
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I think family just feel comfortable saying to you in a loving, concerned way, something about your weight. And they most likely mean well always. I know if I saw a family member gradually putting on pounds I'd be concerned more than anything for them, asking them maybe to be checked out for underlying causes such as thyroid or something. I don't think anyone wants to pack on 50 lbs or more and then suddenly come to realize hey, I'm fat. I think we all would rather address the issue before it started happening sooner rather than later on.

I was sick for 2 days in the hospital and have been 155 pounds no matter how much or how little I eat, and have been this set weight naturally for the past 15 years but I had dropped to 139 and didn't even know it until I was weighed there. That was in August and I'm now back to 151 about where I always was. My doctor had checked for thyroid and other issues and all that was fine. I guess stress or an illness can cause us to lose weight.

I know he means well...but I just wish he said it nicer and didnt talk about it for an hour =\ Like i called him to say hi and see what he wanted for christmas and then it turned into an hour long conversation about my weight...

I'm certainly not "fat" looking...like my "fat' distributes evenly though my body so when i weigh higher i still look thinner...I want to loose at least 35 or 40 pounds...yes that sounds like a lot because I dont look that big...but my weight is bigger then I look lol
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Old 12-09-2011, 09:40 PM
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I recall my Dad and I having an argument once in 1999... my parents had been divorced for about a year and I was living with him and finishing school. All I remember is that we were arguing and I went to my room... he said "What exactly is your problem?" and I said "YOU'RE my problem!" and he literally turned around and walked out. I always felt bad about saying that to him, but I think after that it changed the way he dealt with me. And of course now that he's gone altogether I regret that moments like that even came between us. But yeah... the point is definitely don't let that one slide otherwise you might be hurt over it and your relationship with him may suffer.
I definatly dont want to say anything that i'll regret...but I dont think I will

The only good thing about gaining some weight is that my boobs got a bit bigger lol
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Old 12-09-2011, 09:51 PM
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I definatly dont want to say anything that i'll regret...but I dont think I will
I definitely don't see any harm in you telling your Dad that he hurt your feelings, then you can forgive him and fuh'getdabout it.
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Old 12-09-2011, 09:53 PM
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I know my dad probably didnt MEAN to say it rudely....but he is a guy...I personally like your way of saying it

I guess its about time I get myself back into shape....
Hi Katlin, when i was 19yrs a close friend told me i was getting fat, she actually drew a large pig on my fridge which said this is you!!!!. at that time i was still only size 9 / 52 kilos, she & i were the skinny girls in our group of friends. I had just started working part time in an Italian restaurant, so i guess packed on a couple of kilo's. Of course those few words & drawing really upset me , i thought i will show you!!! the fridge was not my friend anymore so i never opened it. I sat with my family every night for dinner, but only ate half of my meal, i also ran for 20 min every night. My weight dropped alot over a short time, i was skin & bones in 6 weeks. I would also not eat for 2 days in a row, if i ate something that was bad... I had developed an eating disorder, that lasted for over 2 years. My lowest weight was 45 kilos size 6, and i was prepared to go lower than that but that all changed the day my other friends mum said she was really worried about me looking so thin & that i look like a skeleton. It was then i realised i had gone way to far with my obsession, i started eating normally from that day on.. So i guess what im trying to say is WORDS/ advise from family & close friends can trigger outragious bad thoughts regarding body image etc.. So if you decide to get into shape please don't take the same road i did
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Old 12-09-2011, 11:27 PM
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Preach what you practice you say? You want Christians to suspend
their beliefs and accept or believe that homosexuality is not sin. It's
like saying just lie to me and we can be friends.

Throwing a blanket over a whole movement like the Tea Party is a
bit hypocritical don't you think? In every group there are certainly
lunatics, and I imagine the Tea Party is no exception. But if someone
would have wrote what you did about Christ Our Lord and replaced
the words Tea Party with homosexuals, how would you feel?

Just because many Christians believe that homosexuality is a sin
doesn't mean they hate homosexuals. Neither should they condone
bullying. I certainly don't.

What did Christ say to the woman caught in the act of adultery?
Neither do I condemn you; go and sin no more. He didn't
say it's okay to sin. He responded to her with love and kindness.
He protected her from the accusers and gave her correction in
the most loving way.
I must start by saying everyone is entitled to their core belief...their heart or heart feelings...and to see something as a "sin" or as "evil" is fine...if you can live with that.

I also want to say that I was on my phone trying to write that...spell check and the difficulty to track back on what you are posting for reference...etc...sometimes you can't get back to where you were...

The point I was trying to make about religion, Catholic, The bible...etc..

People in the tea party as well as all the current GOP presidential runners...and the worst being Michele Bachmann AND Rick Perry. These people cling to the esoteric at best verses of The Old Testament...Leviticus, Sodom and Gomorrah... etc.. You give me those verses, translated from Aramaic (the language of the people and Jesus of that time period) and the translation and bias throughout the years...up until today...bibles or guide books for a custom made, and tailor fit to meet the needs of someones agenda.

I'm am a Christian...I go to a Catholic church...and a nun and a miracle year later...a priest...took away the deep seated guilt and pain that was taught by people such as Michele Bachmann, Mike Huckabee, modern day Evangelicals...etc...

My grandmother taught me as it really is. The true essence of what life and love and God was all about. I grew up with her due to family politics...and the simplest words and explanations took me 20 years to figure out. The whole notion of humans complicating simplicity and being the only ones that get in our way...is ourselves.
I wasn't writing or preaching religion...more so painting a picture of myself...and the irony of it all.
Civil Rights are civil rights. Sexuality has nothing to due with equality any more than liking the music of Stevie Nicks. Oh, I don't qualify as an equal because of what??? Some person running for president says, being gay is a sin and it is personal bondage? "And another makes a commercial equating me as a freak show out to ruin the people in a "real" marriage.
It makes me sad. Though, not for me...but, for them...they can't see past their own hate. Do they hurt me? Hardly. Sometimes I get a wince of pain...but, it's more so that I pity them.

Jesus only referred to the old testament regardign commandments twice.
Love God
Love One another.

Love your neighbors as yourselves.

He asked the woman accused of adultery, “Where are your accusers? Has no one condemned you?”, and the woman answered, “No one, Lord.” Jesus told her, “Neither do I condemn you; from now on, sin no more.”

In point of fact, adultery is a sin because it deeply injures a loved one, it breaks the bonds of trust so essential to the deepest of all human relations, and it leads to the breakdown of relationships. And you don’t need the Bible to understand this simple fact. Adultery as a sin is an evolved characteristic of our species.

Jesus condemned not a single person. Not the rich, not the poor, not those with disease...and certainly not the ones that were outcast from society by political figures of the day. Those being The Pharasies...those being the ones that ultimately murdered Jesus. The greatest peacemaker ever known. In fact...it was he that reached out to those most ostracized and led an example of love, asking who among the people are so above God And without "sin"...cast the first stone. No one did.
This was the first recorded example...a story about a man so long ago...that started the largest movement of love...but, alas...it is his people that act as if above Jesus. Casting judgement, condemning many people often to death...and all wearing the label, Christian....
It's sad that these same people are often the subjects of their judgement of sin...and the completely disregard, CHRIST...in CHRISTian.

That is the point I am trying to get accross...it's not Catholic...it's not religous...it is what we as the most evolved of the species...the most gifted.

It is a story about love...and about how some people claim that I have the "wrong' kind of love...and they don't even know me.

I'm sorry for hurting anybody here...I like you guys...believe me it has nothing to do with me pushing my agenda on anyone...

as I said, these are my opinions...
And your opinons don't change my feelings of love and kindness for you...for not sharing the same ideas, ideals...

Thank you everybody for everything.

Jim
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Old 12-09-2011, 11:36 PM
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I get rather irritated at this notion that all movements/ideals/beliefs are morally equal. They are not. The Tea Party and the gay rights movement are not morally equivalent. I do not have to respect people who want to see me locked up in jail (and make no mistake, if Rick Santorum had his way, I would be in prison, along with every other gay person in this country) in order to gain the "privilege" to speak up for myself and my rights.

The Tea Party and the "protect marriage from the homos" movements are vile hatemongers; gay people fighting for our civil rights are not.
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Old 12-09-2011, 11:40 PM
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Old 12-10-2011, 12:32 AM
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Let me also say that I don't have issues with religion per se. I'm a Buddhist (not a very good one lately, but that's beside the point). I've studied a variety of metaphysical and spiritual disciplines. I have major issues with certain fundamentalist strains of particular religions (namely, Christianity, Islam, and Judaism) and I think they cause most of the world's problems. Blind, immovable, reactionary adherence to scriptures written thousands of years ago is not spirituality or religion; it's bigotry - or probably more accurately, an excuse for bigotry.
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Old 12-10-2011, 02:05 AM
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Blind, immovable, reactionary adherence to scriptures written thousands of years ago is not spirituality or religion; it's bigotry - or probably more accurately, an excuse for bigotry.
I think to follow a faith wholeheartedly means you have to be immovable in some instances. The choice you make with your faith as a Christian means you can't believe in Christ's life and death, but not believe in his resurrection. (Well I don't know maybe you can believe that - but I don't think it would be a testimony of faith).

I also think your definition of bigotry is a tad skewed. It's perfectly okay to be blind and immovable in your faith... as long as you aren't violent, verbally hostile, or hurtful in any way to those who believe differently than yourself. That's bigotry. There's a sea of difference between your typical Christian and someone like Fred Phelps, who definitely uses his faith as such.
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Old 12-10-2011, 02:23 AM
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I know he means well...but I just wish he said it nicer and didnt talk about it for an hour =\ Like i called him to say hi and see what he wanted for christmas and then it turned into an hour long conversation about my weight...

I'm certainly not "fat" looking...like my "fat' distributes evenly though my body so when i weigh higher i still look thinner...I want to loose at least 35 or 40 pounds...yes that sounds like a lot because I dont look that big...but my weight is bigger then I look lol
Sounds like the way he went about it was mean and hurtful. I've always thought you looked fine.
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Old 12-10-2011, 02:45 AM
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Just flipping through channels and noticing none of these Gigolos on Showtime are that attractive... You'd think they would've gone with some gorgeous men.
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So after a few sleepless nights and a re-shoot i have finally finished my advert. Yay. Still so much work to do though.
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JTIS...a girl on xfactor is wearing a FM jumper -_-

i really wanted that jumper.
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JTIS...a girl on xfactor is wearing a FM jumper -_-

i really wanted that jumper.
I hope she actually knows who FM are and listens to them. Annoying when people wear band shirts of bands they don't know :L.
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I hope she actually knows who FM are and listens to them. Annoying when people wear band shirts of bands they don't know :L.
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